Borderline personality will not talk to me after I hug up on her.?

We were having a pleasant conversation until I made a suggestion that she might consider making a rule concerning the two adult children that still live with her, clean up the micro wave oven when they mess it up. She brought up the fact that it was such a mess and how she spent most of the morning cleaning it up. She went off big time becoming mean and angry. Due to my not knowing how to react to such a mood change...said Oh my God! and hung up on her. I have only known her a few months and this was the second time I witnessed this sudden over the top behavior. I waited until the next day to call and check on her and she has avoided talking to me.It has been over a week now and I still have not had any communicaton with her. Seems that most of what I read...it's the victims of their outburst that does the breaking away. Your thoughts and help in me being able to understand this disorder will be greatly appreciated. She was so much fun otherwise. I miss her.

Answer:
That sounds like the nature of someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD). People with BPD have trouble with emotional regulation and they tend to be highly sensitive. So, those minor inflections in your voice, small changes in your facial expression, or sarcastic remarks that other people may take in stride, people with BPD find really hurtful. They also have fears or anxieties about being rejected or abandoned. So, the slightest rejection or seemingly meaningless argument only reinforces their fears. People with BPD could react in a few ways, either becoming dependent and clingy or completely rejecting the other person. They also have a tendency to think in black or white. So, you are either good or bad. nice or evil. There is no in-between. So, repairing this rift will be difficult because right now, you seem to be on the "evil" side.
But you are correct, most of the time, the friends of people with BPD usually break away. As you can imagine, living with someone with BPD or maintaining a relationship with someone with BPD can be emotionally exhausting. It isn't something someone with BPD does on purpose, it is just a nature of the disorder.
I wish I could give you some good advice about what to do, but honestly everything is so different on a case-by-case basis. But, these articles below have some good pointers that may help to direct your attention.

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