I was raped...?
While all this was happening to me, I was the subject of bullies in school, big time. So yeah bsically, My life was horrible and still is. Currently the man I love to death is leaving me, college grades are plunging, family issues are getting worst.
I went to the extent of trying to commit suicide but stopped myself.
What to do? Any advice?
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screw your family and there culture/ reputation thinking.. If there daughter needs help hell they need to see it.. Jeez what is wrong with them... you are the victim not a criminal. Tell them, Tell police and get help.. Don't care about what your family thinks... They love you, they'll support you.. you can't ruin your life because of there narrow minded thinking... Do not commit suicide.. thats horrible... Email me every time you even think about it.. I check my email a lot so I'll be able to answer quickly! Please don't leave life so you can have darkness... There is so much more! May God smile upon you and give you everything you want.... Please just listen and have courage and talk to your family!
Talk with your pastor, and talk with someone that can help you there are places out there that will help you.
Thanks:
Keith
Honey, please email me...
i honestly think the first step is to tell your family. i know you might not agree, but just hear me out.. i'm kinda thinking that YOU might be feeling ashamed... if you told your parents, do you honestly think they would be upset with you? the key word is rape... meaning you didn't ask for it. the effects that a sexual assault can have on you are probably much more severe than you even realize too hun. all of the other parts of your life seem to be a reflection of how badly you're feeling inside. maybe if you told you parents, they'd be able to understand where you're coming from.. you are the victim of a horrible crime. you need to find help in dealing with the painful emotions and fears this experience has brought to your life.
I've been there, and as far as the family issues still are. Please feel free to email me if you need to talk.
Please don't give up
there is love and a wonderful life out there just waiting for you to claim it.
Sophie, you are certainly going to get passed this! Don't you dare to take you own life for despairs sake. There will be better days. Find someone understanding to interact with & become friends with them. Share every thing with them. Make a whole new life for your self that has been able to forgive & move on. Your life can not revolve around this past experiences. You'll never recover that way. Focus on new things, & put off the old. It might help to know that your situation is more common than you realize, expecially in the area of people not being able to talk to any one about it. You are a very special & unique person. Don't do away with what is meant to be a blessing to others. You'll get pased this! Just hold on th a brighter future!!
Honey, if all this is true, I think that you need to see someone who is a christian and goes to church or if you don't no anyone who is, find the nearest church you can find or just read the bible. I know with all my heart that Jesus Christ heals people. I been through my own share of nightmares and Jesus helped me through all the pain I was going through. I pray to God that you don't hurt or kill yourself, because God sees you as his precious daughter and loves so much. He does not like to see you cry and he doesn't like it when people hurt you. I just want you to know that there is someone who cares for you. JESUS LOVES YOU okay? I really hope that you get better, God Bless You and take care of yourself!
Depending on where you live, there are anonymous rape crisis centers across America, most of which have toll free, 24-hr hotlines. Your college should also have a counseling service center to help with the grades and the sources of your troubles. Another avenue is Planned Parenthood; they offer low cost counseling, and they can test you for any potential diseases that would be by-products of the molestation and rape (these diseases are NOT a source of shame, and they can accentuate feelings of depression and suicide). Most of all, find a way to realize that your family's need to look good in the eyes of their neighbors will never outweigh your physical and mental health. This may mean distancing yourself from them. Above all ... seek professional help.
Here are some links for you:
Nationwide RAINN National Rape Crisis Hotline: 800-656-4673
National Youth Crisis Hotline: 800-442-HOPE (4673)
Provides counseling and referrals to local drug treatment centers, shelters, and counseling services. Responds to youth dealing with pregnancy, molestation, suicide, and child abuse. Operates 24 hours, seven days a week.
The American Counseling Association recommends 5
ways to help with coping AFTER a crisis situation.
1. Recognize your own feelings about the situation and talk to others about your fears. Know that these feelings are a normal response to an abnormal situation.
2. Be willing to listen to family and friends who have been affected and encourage them to seek counseling if necessary.
3. Be patient with people; fuses are short when dealing with crises and others may be feeling as much stress as you.
4. Recognize normal crises reactions, such as sleep disturbances and nightmares, withdrawal, reverting to childhood behaviors and trouble focusing on work or school.
5. Take time with your children, spouse, life partner, friends and co-workers to do something you enjoy.
go see a professional immediately. seriously, get off the computer and go.
Get yourself a professional counselor to help you work through these issues; past and present. Good luck!
well you need to put yourself together the best way is to talk to a therapy and there is no reason you should not tell your parents i have a friend she was rapped by her cousin when she was 7 until 10ish and she is finally told her family and it is been a little hard at the beginning and she has a lot of her family support and the best t hing is having your family behind you but try to get professional help and i hope you have a happy life
TELL SOMEONE! i don't mean to be rude but you have to. for your own good. you'll start feeling better once u start to get it off your chest. tell the man you love how u feel, and c if there's any way he can be happy with you. please tell someone you know and love, you won't shame your family, they will comfort u. promisee.
You need to get some kind of help, you are trying to deal with too much yourself. Would your family really care more about it's reputation than you? That's pretty sick if it's true.
I'm so sorry that you've had such horrific experiences... But please, don't end your life. Your past can't be changed, but there is hope, and that hope can be found in God. I can't say my life has been as hard as yours - but it's been hard in its own ways. Even now I'm going through a tough time at home - Christ is the One I cling to. My old roommate actually was molested as a child - but God is healing her wounds, and now she actually is going to be a counselor to help sexually abused girls. So my advice is to seek Him. He isn't a stranger to suffering, but knows it deeply.
Also, you should see a counselor... Don't let yourself be in isolation in this, get professional help. And don't wait! You need to tell someone who can help you emotionally your whole story. And perhaps find a support group with other young women who have had similiar experiences.
I'm also sorry to hear that guy is leaving you, but he obviously isn't worthy of you. It took me three times to find the guy that I think is "the one" - I don't deny that it's a painful process, but hey, know that it doesn't mean your chances for love end at him.
I'll be praying for you Sofie... I hope you find the healing that you need.
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