How do i become more confident?
i just can't do anything.my confidence lets me down cuz im tooo shy.like today we were doing dance in school and everyone was dancing.my friend danced and she doesn't care what peole think of her and i do a lot!how can i overcome this?thanx
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My advice based on personal experience would be to first take the role of the others around you, and ponder that wether you know it or not, nearly everyone shares your thoughts and insecurities. Also, think about scenarios that require high confidence, and realize that it is a self-fulfilling prophecy: If you think you'll do bad in a given situation, you will. Vice versa as well. Lastly, you have to realize that you'll never be able to please everyone at all times, so just do what is most natural to you and do not let others opinions affect you too much!
It took a pill for me. An antidepressant. i am not telling you that you need to do that. I suffered from Major Depression. That stopped me, from going as much as I could have gone, but not anymore. I am on top of my game now.
Sometimes, you just have to put yourself out, and then you will realize you are glad that you did, just like your friend, she does not care what people think of her. There you go. Someone is always, going to say something, you can not allow that to stop you. Go ahead, make Somebodies Day.
Self-confidence does come from
not being so concerned about what other's think of you. Not relying on others to approve of you. Accepting yourself and forgiving yourself. Understanding that it is okay when someone doesn't like you. It is not a reflection on you, but on them, deary. It's really not all about you... what other people say or do, although they might like you to believe that. If someone feels crappy, they may try to make you believe you are the cause. It's just a ruse. Get out there, and know your true friends love you just as you are.. Good luck.
i suppose little steps would be good to start im lacking in confidence as well in certain situations i bet most people are in some way or another maybe just find things that you are good at to start little ways to be proud of what you have done hobbies and such and share your accomplishments with others
I really feel for you cos i'm a rather shy person but i use to be really bad (a year ago) i wouldn't leave the house without someone or order somehting unless someone was with me.
You need to think things over why are you shy? beacuse you afraid of what people will think? or say? you need to write down a list of things like whats the worst that could happen if you danced and whats the most likely that will happen when you look at the list you relaise you were over-reacting.
Also i advise you use this site and go through the steps its very helpful good luck!
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/confidence/l...
I'm a shy person generally too. I have the same problem as you, apart from that it's for singing rather than dancing cuz I love dancing... I join this group called Pop Academy and the only reason I joined was to get my confidence, so I guess you could do something like that, or practice. Maybe practice in front of your family or someone who you know supports you and that usually helps. Or, seeing as it's something to do with dancing, you can just pretend that you're dancing by yourself with no-one else there. You just concentrate on the music and the choreography and then you don't become so shy.
Hope that helped.
There is an old cliche, "A coward dies a thousand deaths, a hero, but one. "
Please do not think I'm implying that you are a coward. The point of the cliche is that, in your attempt to avoid pain (e.g., being embarrased), you end up ultimately suffering more.
It is not your confidence letting you down. You are letting yourself down. It may also be helpful to know that it is a choice. In other words, it isn't true that you "can't do anything". It is you choosing not to.
You overcome this in small battles. Confidence gets built everytime you do something despite being afraid. (it is the only way). So pick you fights. But know that you will have to fight.
Give yourself a break. Allow yourself to not be ready to dance yet. Give yourself a target date. Or compromise. Tell yourself, that you will dance for one minute the first time, 5 minutes the second time, etc.. Each time you are successful, your confidence grows.
What others think won't be so important because you will already know what you think, which is even better.
I used to be shy. The way I overcame it was to do things which I wanted to do but was embarrassed about. The trick was I'd do them before i thought about it. Much like jumping into a pool from the high dive or something, you do it without time to reconsider. This isn't to say that you ought to be reckless. But if there's something you want to do, such as dance, realize that other people are thinking about how they look (whether it's how they look to others or to themselves) and won't laugh at you. Besides, if you never try it, you'll never learn. And the sooner the better, because then you'll know what to do in the future.
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My advice based on personal experience would be to first take the role of the others around you, and ponder that wether you know it or not, nearly everyone shares your thoughts and insecurities. Also, think about scenarios that require high confidence, and realize that it is a self-fulfilling prophecy: If you think you'll do bad in a given situation, you will. Vice versa as well. Lastly, you have to realize that you'll never be able to please everyone at all times, so just do what is most natural to you and do not let others opinions affect you too much!
It took a pill for me. An antidepressant. i am not telling you that you need to do that. I suffered from Major Depression. That stopped me, from going as much as I could have gone, but not anymore. I am on top of my game now.
Sometimes, you just have to put yourself out, and then you will realize you are glad that you did, just like your friend, she does not care what people think of her. There you go. Someone is always, going to say something, you can not allow that to stop you. Go ahead, make Somebodies Day.
Self-confidence does come from
not being so concerned about what other's think of you. Not relying on others to approve of you. Accepting yourself and forgiving yourself. Understanding that it is okay when someone doesn't like you. It is not a reflection on you, but on them, deary. It's really not all about you... what other people say or do, although they might like you to believe that. If someone feels crappy, they may try to make you believe you are the cause. It's just a ruse. Get out there, and know your true friends love you just as you are.. Good luck.
i suppose little steps would be good to start im lacking in confidence as well in certain situations i bet most people are in some way or another maybe just find things that you are good at to start little ways to be proud of what you have done hobbies and such and share your accomplishments with others
I really feel for you cos i'm a rather shy person but i use to be really bad (a year ago) i wouldn't leave the house without someone or order somehting unless someone was with me.
You need to think things over why are you shy? beacuse you afraid of what people will think? or say? you need to write down a list of things like whats the worst that could happen if you danced and whats the most likely that will happen when you look at the list you relaise you were over-reacting.
Also i advise you use this site and go through the steps its very helpful good luck!
http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/confidence/l...
I'm a shy person generally too. I have the same problem as you, apart from that it's for singing rather than dancing cuz I love dancing... I join this group called Pop Academy and the only reason I joined was to get my confidence, so I guess you could do something like that, or practice. Maybe practice in front of your family or someone who you know supports you and that usually helps. Or, seeing as it's something to do with dancing, you can just pretend that you're dancing by yourself with no-one else there. You just concentrate on the music and the choreography and then you don't become so shy.
Hope that helped.
There is an old cliche, "A coward dies a thousand deaths, a hero, but one. "
Please do not think I'm implying that you are a coward. The point of the cliche is that, in your attempt to avoid pain (e.g., being embarrased), you end up ultimately suffering more.
It is not your confidence letting you down. You are letting yourself down. It may also be helpful to know that it is a choice. In other words, it isn't true that you "can't do anything". It is you choosing not to.
You overcome this in small battles. Confidence gets built everytime you do something despite being afraid. (it is the only way). So pick you fights. But know that you will have to fight.
Give yourself a break. Allow yourself to not be ready to dance yet. Give yourself a target date. Or compromise. Tell yourself, that you will dance for one minute the first time, 5 minutes the second time, etc.. Each time you are successful, your confidence grows.
What others think won't be so important because you will already know what you think, which is even better.
I used to be shy. The way I overcame it was to do things which I wanted to do but was embarrassed about. The trick was I'd do them before i thought about it. Much like jumping into a pool from the high dive or something, you do it without time to reconsider. This isn't to say that you ought to be reckless. But if there's something you want to do, such as dance, realize that other people are thinking about how they look (whether it's how they look to others or to themselves) and won't laugh at you. Besides, if you never try it, you'll never learn. And the sooner the better, because then you'll know what to do in the future.
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