How to cure a low self esteem when everyone keeps on telling you that you are beautiful?
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It's really hard not to care about what others are saying about you, whether it's a positive or a negative statement. But if you're being pressured to become something that you obviously feel uncomfortable being, then I think you should do something to compromise the situation. Don't totally pig out and gain all that weight you worked hard to lose, but rather continue exercising but still eat what you want to eat. If you become overly conscious about your figure and yourself as a person, then you really aren't being yourself are you? Be the person you want to be, and if people don't respond the way you would want it, then its ok. This is super hard to accept but at least you're being you, and that's all that really matters. Also, you can do little things to help boost your confidence. You can't expect to become one of THOSE GIRLS overnight, right? I don't really know you, but you should do things that will help you make the best out of YOU and your life. Go out a little more, hang out with people that you feel comfortable with. Socialize a whole lot. I'm 16 and I have so much trouble with this too, its really hard to be something everybody likes, at the same time be something that I want to be. I struggle with this almost everyday, but I think that for the past few years that I have had difficulty with this, I have overall become a bit more resistant to being overly sensitive about what others say that make me feel uncomfortable.
just stop caring what other people think. their opinions don't mean anything, only yours does. forget all the negative stuff you heard in the past, and only focus on your own personal thoughts.
keep telling yourself you are beautiful, especially when you feel the ugliest. it truely does work, i should know. i have suffered from very low self esteem for years from other people's rude remarks. i just learned to let it all go and tell myself each day how beautiful and an individual i am. it's taken quite some time, and i am still working on it, but it really does get better. it's not something that will just happen over night.
and i bet you really are beautiful since people tell you it. =]
You might think about therapy.
I believe some of the eating disorders start with people having a disconnected view of themselves.
Please make sure this isn't an attempt by you to get compliments.I'm not saying it is .It's just a possibility you might think about.
(Why do people need to continually tell you that you're attractive? It doesn't sound like something that would come up in casual conversation.)
When I was 10 I read a book on this called PSYCHOCYBERNETICS. It was about ugly people getting plastic surgery and still feeling ugly. You need to feel perfect peace and limitless happiness to know how beautiful you really are (see article on site below).
just be you do not worry about what people think,do want you want and be who you want and the only thing that should matter to you is your feelings and not other people thoughts.be a live be free and feel free to live your life.
First of all, let me tell you that when I was 13-16 I was chubby. At 17 I lost all my weight and all of a sudden guys started to notice me and I was receiving all of these compliments. It is hard to believe people when you still have a low self esteem and that is what you need to work on. Have you considered seeing a therapist? I think that if you just wait a few years and go to college you will start with a clean slate and people will view you as you are today. I am sure you are beautiful so just enjoy the compliments b/c you worked hard at this. I promise that with time your confidence will build and you will be one of those girls who walk around with confidence. Until then, just pretend that you are and it will help you em,otionally and make everyone around you believe that you love yourself. There are so mnay girls with this problem. And looks aren't everything, be brave enough to show people the real you!
Good Luck... and try to stop all the guys from knocking down your door!
Keep your chin up, girl!
Well you shouldn’t feel bad if some one gives you a compliment. Well it’s possible that you don’t feel conferrable with your self and that’s okay too. Well from my point of view just be yourself and don’t worry about other people say cuz it’s what you want for your self. One thing I don’t under stand why would you cry when some one what’s to help you?
Honey, i had that problem. My ants and so on use to tell me that i am ugly and that i shape badly. Well it turns out they were jealous of my beauty and fabulous shape which are just a few of my womanly attributes. You need to start believing in yourself- pamper yourself. Buy yourself nice things and hold your head up high and be confident. u got it so use it. Start spoiling yourself and tell yourself that you deserve every bit of it. good luck hon.
when you lose a lot of weight you tend to still see yourself in the same way. what i did to get over that, is go out and try on things that i couldn't normally fit. i would go with a friend and have them try on things with me. i might not buy anything but it really made me feel good to see how good i looked in the mirror. as far as my self esteem; it comes with time. one day just go some where and be the opposite of who you normally are. go to a place that no one knows you and try being that person that you really see yourself being. the people that you meet don't know you so they will be honest. it's fun believe me. the more you do it the better you will get at it and the more you will come out your shell. :)
hope that helps
I have that problem... but that's cause I'm kinda chubby too =) It's always adults that say I'm beautiful and all that, but going through the public school system (I miss my old christian school in the States... two years but some enjoyable times, even if only one year was fun) and seeing the other girls is just... it makes me want to scream.
All you can do is see a therapist and remember it's YOUR opinion that matters, not someone else's or anyone you know, it's yours. You're letting the society pressures get to you and, in the process, seem to be developing anorexia. Just eat healthy and get out to play a sport or go for a jog, don't drop eating and obsess about exersize, you'll just wear your body out and feel even worse ebcause you worked so hard.
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