I can't ever leave, cause my husband threatens to commit suicide.?
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I'VE BEEN IN THIS SITUATION BEFORE, IT TAKES A LOT OF COURAGE, AND IT IS VERY TIGHT SPOT TO BE IN. I'M SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT THIS.
You should take your husband to a doctor if he's threatening suicide, he's either just using that to manipulate you or is actually sincere, either way its serious.
I think it's a fairly common thing to seek similar traits as your opposite gender parent in your mates. Not a healthy thing to do most of the time. Best bet, leave his ***.
Call a local hospital or mental health centre and let them know your husband's state of mind. Once they come around and check on him, feel free to live. His threats are selfish and, most likely, empty. He can't hold you hostage in your own life. Take control. Anyway, if he loved you so much that he'd hurt himself if you left, he would never treat you so bad or try to make the kids favour him over you.
This is called emotional blackmail.
If you are leaving, go straight to counseling.
Whatever he chooses to do is what he chooses to do. Period. But most of us need help getting past the guilt anyway.
Your husband's mental state is not your responsibility. Get out.
Leave now before he kills you. Men like that only get worse and if he finds out what you are planning it could get deadly!!For you AND your kids.
Get out and take your Kids before he kills you or/and them. Seek help from a trustworthy person or professional. You are not happy and its not the right environment to bring up a family. Do yourself and your kids a big favour and Leave as soon as it safe to do so and don't go back YOU deserve Better.
heck it sounds like you can't take it now...
Im so sorry to hear about this.
3 choices:
1: Call the police and have a trial.
2: If you hate him so much move out, buy mace, divorce him, gain legal custody over the children, and let him kill himself why should it bother you? you hate him anyway but make sure you were not near him at the time of the act otherwise you could be blamed.
3: (Not reccomended) Run away either taking or leaving the children.
Also, dont lose your cool and do something you might regret.
Girl, you need to leave when he's asleep.
next time he threatens suicicide. call 911. let them get some help for him Your kids need a better life and so do you.. Also see your doctor about meds and help for you
It's a control tactic. By preparing yourself financially you are one step ahead of what you need to do. Also, consult an attorney to see what else you need to do. Most attorneys do an initial consultation for free.You need to know that the only person you can control is you. You are not responsible for his happiness or even whether or not he lives to see another day. I am not sure how old your children are, but you need to get them as well as yourself out of there because if you don't...they will think that this is the way ppl conduct themselves in relationships. He's controlling you thru your kids. I am sure that if you take them and leave...they'll surprise you. Kids are not stupid. They most likely accept the gifts and do his bidding for him to shut him up...to keep him from turning on them. Save your kids from a life of pain and leave now. There are a lot of agncies that will help you. If you wait...you may not make it.
take a vacation with out him but take Ur kids or jus leave him if he commits suicide it wuzent Ur fault
That sucks...about your chubby getting all bent..and suicidal.
If he followed through on his threats, it will not be your fault. He needs help!! Hook him up with a good doctor and get out!
I have had to deal with this myself in the past. When my ex told me he would kill himself if I left, I told him...as I was walking out the door..."it's your finger pulling the trigger, not mine". Don't let him manipulate you and hold your prisoner. This is NOT a good environment for your children either.
btw, my ex is still alive and breathing. that was 17 years ago.
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