Will i be able to move on in my future life though a hard childhood?
My father use to beat me and my mum very often for several years.You would ask me why, i would reply for no special reason.Either he had had a fatigue day at work or had some problems with employees.He always blow his anger on us.And i never talk about it with anyone.Neither friends nor relatives.Now that i am 20, i am actually going out with a guy for 3 years.We loved each other and i told him about how my father treat us and still do.He really supports me.But my sole problem is that i am emotionally hyper sensitive.Each time something touch my heart i start crying.If my boyfriend hurt me i can't resist it.I feel that i am not like other people with a normal life although i acquire beauty, intelligence and wealth. The worst is that i start becoming very violent with my boy friend.I feel better each time but soon regret it a lot and talk about it to my boyfriend.It may sound ridiculous but many time i propose him to help me by preventing me to beat himself.Will i change and how please
Answer:
There are 2 things in your life-- things you can control and things that you cannot control. Do not try to control things that you cannot control. But free will is controlling what you can control. So you decide your future. See site below for info on what you can do to be happy.
you really need professional help or you will not be able to make it through life without a lot of trouble.if you are telling the truth i feel sorry for you. get help
and good luck
Please get counseling for your anger and violent tendencies This came from what you saw in childhood and you can relearn how to cope in a healthier manner, through counseling. You can, I did and my husband did. My husband used to get beat so bad as a child he bled from every part of his body. He was afraid to have children for fear there was a part of his father in him. Yet, he is the most soft spoken, gentlest man I have ever known. I, on the other hand, like you had to unlearn all those unhealthy responses to stress. You can do it, with help.
It's tough but you can do it. You are already half way there because you recognise that your patterns are following your father's behaviour. You are quite young yet and you will learn tons in the coming years, and will actually begin to see yourself change. The most important thing is to stop seeing yourself as a victim. Sure, you are a victim but playing the role gets stale and as you get older people won't tolerate it.
Take an anger-management class. It will help you immensely. Find a support group, or friend who you can talk to, or even an email friend, who can offer you support. You're headed in the right direction. Good luck ! :)
i also survived an abusive childhood, and i have always hated the way people use it to excuse the way they hit out on people, as i have never been violent towards anyone and have no Urges too either. what you have got to remember is the way you felt when you heard your mum crying after she was hit or how you felt when it happened to you, then you will understand what ur doing to ur boyfriend. you need counselling and anger management. you are not a bad person and with help you can become a beautiful person inside and out. i wish you the very best on your journey to self discovery.
You answer is a bit too complicated to me. But please dont get me wrong. For me there are simple answers yes or no. There is something called balance in life. The equality in balance is very very crucial.
For example too much eating is bad and too less is also bad
too much sleeping bad and too less bad
Too much trust bad too little bad
I am coming to say that God has given one life to us. Though we can blame parents, family, upbringing, society we have that one life to lead. In a matter of years we are going to be dust. If we choose lust then lust it is, drinking then drinking it is, blame then blame it is.
Where does a moment come for that person to wake up realise that each minute is fleeting and use that moment to make life joyful even if he or she has to spend on lifes bounty things or appreciate nature and forgive parents for what they have done??
In all my exp in studying I have come to know something
strength lies deep inside us. No one can help us to overcome anything bad. Each tear and each sadness now is viewed as some sort of depression. Everyone has preconceived notions!!
I just think that instead of pitying ones self, one has to look beyond and see what an incredible life has been gifted to us and not to misuse it and treat it like gutter but respect it.. respect our feet our body and our mind and treat it the best...!
Sorry I just got carried away
TC
Mafia
I never believe it when people say they can't control their temper or can't help being violent. If it was Mike Tyson sitting opposite you... you control your violent tendencies just fine...It's like people who say they can't stop swearing but never ever swear in front of their Grandma. only mental people can't control what they do.. everyone else has a choice.
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Answer:
There are 2 things in your life-- things you can control and things that you cannot control. Do not try to control things that you cannot control. But free will is controlling what you can control. So you decide your future. See site below for info on what you can do to be happy.
you really need professional help or you will not be able to make it through life without a lot of trouble.if you are telling the truth i feel sorry for you. get help
and good luck
Please get counseling for your anger and violent tendencies This came from what you saw in childhood and you can relearn how to cope in a healthier manner, through counseling. You can, I did and my husband did. My husband used to get beat so bad as a child he bled from every part of his body. He was afraid to have children for fear there was a part of his father in him. Yet, he is the most soft spoken, gentlest man I have ever known. I, on the other hand, like you had to unlearn all those unhealthy responses to stress. You can do it, with help.
It's tough but you can do it. You are already half way there because you recognise that your patterns are following your father's behaviour. You are quite young yet and you will learn tons in the coming years, and will actually begin to see yourself change. The most important thing is to stop seeing yourself as a victim. Sure, you are a victim but playing the role gets stale and as you get older people won't tolerate it.
Take an anger-management class. It will help you immensely. Find a support group, or friend who you can talk to, or even an email friend, who can offer you support. You're headed in the right direction. Good luck ! :)
i also survived an abusive childhood, and i have always hated the way people use it to excuse the way they hit out on people, as i have never been violent towards anyone and have no Urges too either. what you have got to remember is the way you felt when you heard your mum crying after she was hit or how you felt when it happened to you, then you will understand what ur doing to ur boyfriend. you need counselling and anger management. you are not a bad person and with help you can become a beautiful person inside and out. i wish you the very best on your journey to self discovery.
You answer is a bit too complicated to me. But please dont get me wrong. For me there are simple answers yes or no. There is something called balance in life. The equality in balance is very very crucial.
For example too much eating is bad and too less is also bad
too much sleeping bad and too less bad
Too much trust bad too little bad
I am coming to say that God has given one life to us. Though we can blame parents, family, upbringing, society we have that one life to lead. In a matter of years we are going to be dust. If we choose lust then lust it is, drinking then drinking it is, blame then blame it is.
Where does a moment come for that person to wake up realise that each minute is fleeting and use that moment to make life joyful even if he or she has to spend on lifes bounty things or appreciate nature and forgive parents for what they have done??
In all my exp in studying I have come to know something
strength lies deep inside us. No one can help us to overcome anything bad. Each tear and each sadness now is viewed as some sort of depression. Everyone has preconceived notions!!
I just think that instead of pitying ones self, one has to look beyond and see what an incredible life has been gifted to us and not to misuse it and treat it like gutter but respect it.. respect our feet our body and our mind and treat it the best...!
Sorry I just got carried away
TC
Mafia
I never believe it when people say they can't control their temper or can't help being violent. If it was Mike Tyson sitting opposite you... you control your violent tendencies just fine...It's like people who say they can't stop swearing but never ever swear in front of their Grandma. only mental people can't control what they do.. everyone else has a choice.
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