My Granny died 10 years and 2 months ago?
How do I get over this, I really can't believe that it's still ongoing after all this time - I was so close to her and I loved her very dearly (still do)
It's as raw and painful for me today as it was the day she died (she was only 62, lung cancer through smoking)
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Hello Vera, I lost my only daughter last year, and she comes to see me in my dreams. When you go to bed at night say a prayer for your Granny, please believe me she will hear it, and ask her to visit you in your dreams.
Your Granny was with you at all the important times in your life, and was sad
she couldn't get though to you.
Go to the Spiritualist Church, and they will try and contact your Granny and that will give you peace, in your heart.
For most, it takes good grief counseling.
There are grief counseling groups in many areas, that won't cost a thing. If you are still grieving that intensely, I highly suggest finding one in your area.
God bless, and good luck.
Have you been to counciling, if not I suggest you do. It helped myewith the grief of a loved one.
My gandpa deid 9 years and 5 months ago. I'm so sad about it till now. I still buy myself the chocolate he used to buy me. But crying and being depressed wouldn't bring him back, and will not bring him back.
If your grandma knew that her death would hurt you like this, and if it was up to her to die or not, she would have never died just to make you happy. So make her happy...:)
You have to accept the fact that you won't see here again in this life. Everyone loses loved ones and they get over it. Never far from their minds but its just a fact of life.
Ten years is ages to grieve. You must have been desolated - but it's time to change the bond you had with her into something less harrowing. Do you talk to her? She's obviously still about - don't doubt that you will meet again, but with such a nice strong relationship you should have a link between you can use? Maybe your grief is blocking her out? Try thinking about her before you sleep and that might open a door?
I assume you ARE genuine? if so, promise yourself one more day of grieving, pick a day soon, raise a glass to the loved one, have a few tears for them, then move on. It is obviously not good for you and you do not like going through this (far to long) grieving process, i have no doubt your grief is affecting others, though they probably will not tell you this. move on, life is short (62 in some cases), granny would not want you unhappy.... would she?
there is no time limit on how long you get over your loss. but life dose go on. do you think your Gran would want you to be like this. she would want you to be happy not sad over her. you should think of the great times you have had with your gran. you should not feel guilty on not remembering you gran all the time. just think you are lucky you new this wonderfull person
Not everyone's grief is the same. Your Grandmother was an important part of your life, and it's hard to let go. The best thing to remember and keep in mind, is that she is still with you in spirit. There may be little things that happen throughout your day that remind you of her. That's her way of keeping in touch! While we can't see our departed loved ones, you can be sure that they can see us.my grandmother died in 1978. Two months after her death, I answered the phone by my bed and still half asleep. It was her as clear as day! It took me a moment to realize that it actually was her and she assured me that she would call again when needed. I haven't talked with he since that day, but I definitely know that she watches over me. So does your Grandmother. She's closer than you think!
Although our loved ones are dead, their lives are not totally extinguished. They live on in a different dimension, in a better state of existence. But they are allowed to cross into this physical dimension on appropriate times. Do not grief that she couldn't be with you on your special occasions because she was probably there, drawn by your love for her and her love for you. Not as a ghost, but a loving presence.
Losing someone that close to you is very traumatic and is difficult to deal with. You will probably never 'get over it', but with time you will be able to cope with it better. Take comfort in knowing that she was there when your son was born, and is with you still, except now in perfect health! Go through pictures and albums. Keep her memory alive, especially when introducing your son to her. Be happy knowing that she is no longer suffering from cancer and is able to spiritually be with you. Talking about her helps. Seek comfort through her memories.
Please know you are not alone. God bless!
Wow! I must say this question had to of been the most touching I read your question and Was thinking hey this sounds like me when you were saying that you cried when yoru son was born . Same here she passed away when I was 4 months pregnant and It killed me inside that she couldnt be here then you said she was 62 so was my nanna . and then you said lung cancer through smoking same as my nana . I take this as a sign she is still in my heart and I will never ever forget her she was my best friend I always looked up to her . It is ok to be emotional about some one so close to you that you loved dear I am crying now writing this . dont try to hide your feelings you wanna cry . then darnet cry:) may god bless you and yoru heart .
Everyone grieves in their own way. I lost my granny when I was 9 & at 51 I still think about, miss her & wish she were here.
I hated God for so long because He took her. Even after the anger died outwardly (in the form of rebellion) it still lingered in a hidden spot of my heart until my dad (her son) was dying.
I knew she had been in pain for years from what dad had said but the worse of it she had never shown around me so I don't think I really believed it.
Then my dad was in the hospital his heart swollen the size of a football. The dr.'s didn't know what was keeping him alive. I watched the delirium from the pain & him begging to let him die. It tore me to pieces.
One day I was praying asking God why he wouldn't let him die as he was in so much pain. Out of nowhere I heard Would you hate me again like you did with your granny? I looked around & no one was even close. I closed my eyes & said no, not as long as I know he's coming home to you. Suddenly I felt this peace.
That night he came out of the delirium & pain (this was before they managed pain), sit up & talked normal, ate some ice cream, laid down to sleep & his heart stopped. I found out at the funeral that he had gotten saved 2 wks. before he was rushed to the hospital.
What happened also gave me peace about granny. When things are bad or missing them I still go to his or her grave to talk about my feelings because I KNOW they aren't gone forever, just temporarily out of contact & waiting for the day when I'll join them.
There's a scripture that says those who die are saved from the things to come. I can't begin to fathom the pain they'd be in if still alive. True, the Lord could've healed them, but eventually everyone dies thanks to the incident in the Garden of Eden, not the Lord. But heaven is the ultimate healing.
My son was only 5 when dad died & with his learning disabilities he had a whole different take on everything he heard about dad dying. When I was putting flowers on his grave he asked me why I was putting flowers over his old, bad heart since that was all that was buried there, pappa was with Jesus. I didn't know how to answer. Suddenly the sense of humor I inherited from both came out & I looked at him & said it was to cover up the stink coming from that old heart rotting that had kept him from seeing Jesus for so long.
The ability to love someone that deep for so long is precious. Never be ashamed of the tears. As long as you live they'll never be forgotten. I tell my own children about special times we had or things said, which I'm sure they'll pass on to their own as I did & had done to me. In that sense they'll always be alive. God bless & comfort you in the same wings that now hold your granny.
Hiya, i hope you are doing better today than you did yesterday. I am so sorry for the loss of one so dear to your heart. And sadly its all part of the process of love, when we love its inevitable that we would experience so much sadness and emptiness when the person is no longer around. Its even worse to know that they are never coming back. I lost my grandmother when i was 18 years old. (i am 24). we had such a special bond because she was the person who named me Carolina and she used tell people off for mispronouncing it. She had a stroke and after that she became paralyzed on the left side of her body. it hurt me so much to see such a strong women lose the ability to even hold a cup of tea. then i moved to the UK when i was 9 so i never saw her again. i never got the chance to say goodbye but what keeps me going is all the love she gave while she was here. i know without a doubt that i am who i am today because of all the values she instilled in me as a child and those values have so shaped my life. i am eternally grateful to god that he allowed such a wonderful lady to be part of my life. I am grateful that i knew her even though it was not long enough.
I will pray for you because i know that you can be happy again, and being happy does not mean you have forgotten your grandma. In fact being happy is the best thing you can do for her memory because if she was here that is what would please the most. It would so please her to see your lovely smile. God bless you love and remember you will be fine.
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