How do you learn to love/like something or someone you hate?
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I have an experience of this sort. (concerning personal relationships). nothing could help until I tried to put myself "into that person's" shoes and understand the motives of his deeds. after that I told to myself that I do NOT hate this person anymore and I'm free of all negative feelings. Finally I've crashed a few things, cried and...forgot...I hope that will help you:-)
I am a old man and never achieved this even though I have tried but the best I have ever ben able to do is to completely avoid something or someone I find distasteful.
For me this one was hard to learn but easy once learned. Simply you choose to not let the negativity of hate come back onto you. It actually hurts us more to hate than the person we hate. You don't have to love them but you can release the poison you feel. Once you let go you will feel the freedom. I have seen people hold onto this till is clouds there whole lives. The person you hate has moved on and you have become what you hated to begin with. Once you decide to work on you and not so much what others are you will be free. Find something that you can do to redirect the anger. Grow. Evita
You don't, you learn to accept every person or situation for what it is. Trying to love/like something you hate is unhealthy and leads to mental illness. : )
Stop trying. We project onto others our own unacknowledged defects (shadows). Grasp theirs, own it, trace it to its origin in you, reframe it, forgive yourself and them.
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