Having dreams that im sleeping with my father?
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Dreams of having sexual intercourse with one's parent (usually a boy having sex with his mother or a girl having sex with her father) are common and unless acted upon in one's conscious or "waken" state do not represent a problem.
As your body physically matures, both outwardly (i.e., in appearance) and internally (i.e., hormones, etc.) it is preparing itself for "reporduction". That is one of the main purposes of life (it keep the species going).
In your subconscious, you are beinging to express your physical readiness to procreate. You also chose a symbol for your partner that is very common, i.e., your father, who is probably someone who has been good to you, helped you to grow up by protecting you, providing for you and nuturing your physical and psychological development. He is also probably someone whom you trust and feel comfortable with. All of these traits may well describe what you might be looking for in a life partner and so, in your dream state, you used your father's image as a symbol for the partner you are seeking.
By the fact that you enjoyed your sexual experience in the dream, you may be expressing a very healthy out look towards sex, i.e., that sex is a "good" thing, is hopefully physically and emptionally satisfying and will take place with a partner with whom you will be comfortable, and with whom you will have a lifetime relationship with.
The aspect of the depression of loosing one's virginity may simply be the angst of realizing the changes that occur when one grows up. Think of this as the movememts associated with going from being a "little girl" into becoming a young adult. Most person, to a greater or lesser degree, would love to be able to hold on and retain their childhood, which is often a very happy and carefree time when one is provided for , protected, loved, etc., without many of the worries and responsibilities associated with being a self sustaining adult.
What does all of this say about your "psychological state"? It says that you are probably a healthy, normal young lady who is growing up and preparing for adulthood, adult relationships and a normal life.
As a an afterwards, if you keep "fooling around" with your boyfriend, the sexual experience may soon become a reality. Long distance relationships are very difficult and often present a host of problems. Good luck, think before you act and don't worry.
Don't run off for "years of therapy", most of which is not worth while and can and often is of more harm than good. Western psychology is set up to "vicitmize", i.e., poor you, you are a vicitim, it is somebody elses fault. The reality is, we make our choices, whether consciously or unconsciously and we necessarily must live with the consequences of our actions, thoughts, the feeling we create, the desires we bury ourselves in, etc. If you do seek some form of counseling, I would recommend Eastern or Buddhist psychological counseling as it seems so much healthier than its Western counter part. (From a purley personal veiwpoint, Freud was a ninny!)
You are perfect just the way you are... don't let the dream make you feel bad.
You are in urgent need of counselling to discuss your bizarre dreams
you need many, many years of therapy
"Wet dreams" are very natural for any growing teen. Your feeling of satisfaction, I cannot say but don't worry about it - no sin done and no one hurt. But confiding in a trustworthty one close to you would do wonders.
It was just a dream, one that probably reflects your normal curiosity about sex. Your father was probably representative of the male qualities you admire, and will likely someday look for in a life-partner.
Do not feel guilty for the contents of a dream, since you can't direct or control your dreams.
You are still a virgin because "dream sex" does not count. If it did, many boys would have lost their virginity by age 12 or 13.
I had a dream similar... before... I think it has to do with the fact that your father is the first man you love when you're growing up. and in your subconscious mind as you are entering the world of sexuality (with the boyfriend) you are trying to imagine what it would be like (the sex).. you know your dad loves you.. so somewhere the lines are getting crossed in the dream world..... thus the dream
just my opinion.
You need to look up "Electra Complex". Don't worry it's normal. Guys have the same thing called an "Oedipus Complex" with their mothers.
is there a chance that you are getting repressed memories brought to surface in your dreams due to feelings, fears, and confussion with your increasing activites with your boyfriend.
I don't understand how you can dream about things you have never experiences (intercourse). Memory has to be coming from somewhere.
Just my openion
Do you think your dad is attractive?
but its only a dream it cant mean anything unless your brains trying
to tell you something.
I thnk you see your boyfriend as a father figure, and it is really your boyfriend you are seeing...don't let this kind of nightmare manifest itself...it really is meaningless...it is your boyfriend you are desiring.if your boyfriend was here, to put his arms around you..you would find that it is him you are desiring..your father is a strong image, and you don't want him that way..you are just confusing things right now...Pray to the Good Lord, to take these things from your mind..through Jesus, and don't let satan put this in your head again
Freud believed that women all wanted to sleep with their fathers, it was called electra complex. he said that it was a stage that girls went through. i dont believe that but it shows it must be common and you dont actually want to do it. So dont worry about it.The more you think about it the more you will dream it.
It means you have suppressed some thoughts in your childhood. Normally around 3 and 7 years kids fall in love with their parents of opposite sex. If anybody around you made you embraced or you thought it could be a sin or something really bad, you started to suppress your natural kid feelings and thoughts into sub-conscious. As you did not spend them they are probably still in there and you spend them in your adult dreams. In time they might all be spent by dreams. Otherwise if you go to a good psychiatrist, in few sessions they can be brought into surface and you can gain your confidence and all bad feelings may go away.
First of all, do not blame yourself for your dreams: For daughters the father is the most important figure of their lives, almost all the young girls are in love with their fathers and that is very natural.
I think your problem is about your virginity - you believe it is time to lose it but your instincts tell you that your current boyfriend is not the right one. So the sub - conscious part of your brain quickly turns to the man you've always ''loved''.
Go see a professional if you feel you need to. But I think your dreams will pass away when you find the right guy to do it!
This is really not a sexual dream,The issue of your virginity weighs heavily on your mind and your father is only representative of the man you dream of losing your virginity to,the fact that you have been fooling around a little bit also raises your anxiety. Do not worry all is well.It will interest you to know that most people get involved with people who share certain characteristics with their parents.
Angel B don't push it
Your dream is creepy but do not beat your self up it is just a dream.
However, if you are having the same dream over and over that is the time to get worried.
Praying would help a lot try it.
it may be a note from your mind that you need sex.
because your lover isnt around, and you feel the need for intercourse, your mind is putting your father in his place because he is someone you love (not in a creepy way, just a father/daughter way). so you should see your loved one soon and you know what so the dreams will stop coming.
Completely normal. I'm guessing you're around 14/15. Your body is responding to the hormones that drive you to desire sex. This manifests itself in dreams' role of wish fulfilment. It doesn't mean you want sex with your father, only that your body is ready for sex and that your father presently represents an "ideal" kind of male. These hormones are probably stoked up by your experimentation with your boyfriend.
If you are not mentally ready for sex yet then don't have sex. You will want to have sex with someone you love and respect and want to give pleasure to. You'll soon forget your father's role in these dreams then.
I once had a dream like that. except it was with my mom. wierd i know but u can't control your dreams and u are perfectly normal. u also do NOT need counciling. just try to forget it and move on. Do not lose ur virginity just to make u feel better either.
you will marrya man like your dad
Okay dont be worried about i would consult with your mother if she's around and ask her if she had any dreams like this when she was younger. Dont be afraid to ask her.
It is posible that u were adopted, or that ur dad is the closest male to u apart from ur boyfriend and that makes u well. u know have that dream. it's kind of gross, well i will call it incest that is all in the head but not physical.
Your brain and heart are in a confused state. You love your dad of course, but there is another guy who is taking his place in your heart sort of. He is slowly moving to first place in your heart. Maybe there is a part of U that fears that your love for you father will not be the same. That U maybe leaving him,after he spend years raising you.All daddy's little girls have to leave the safety and sanctuary of daddy's home. There is always a special place in daddy's girls heart for daddy. If you think there is a problem, talk to a council. They understand.
I hope I got myself across to you.
I should guess that you're a very young girl, perhaps in very early teens, and having a boyfriend are just becoming aware of sex so I think these dreams, though they might seem worrying, are probably quite normal.
In the words of Sigmund Freud, "Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar". There's probably no hidden meaning at all. Sure, there's something to dream interpretation, especially patterns. If you haven't had any sexual partners yet, and probably haven't had too many close personal relationships with men, I'd say that your mind just conjured up the image of the man you're most familiar with and paired it with sexual feelings that you can't express in your waking life that had to come out somehow, so they came out in your sleep. Uncomfortable, sure. But not abnormal.
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