Where can I find more information on "tells"?
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Perhaps you can look for poker tells?
according to Dr. Phil they blink their eyes a lot.
Whenever someone is lying, they will always give it away; I've found that while people communicate to you verbally, they give dead giveaways physically. If they have dramatic physical movements, hide their face or their mouth, or generally seem odd on a topic, chances are that they're not being honest.
If someone is hiding something, it's generally the same thing. Even vocational liars will slip up or habitally use their slip ups as an excuse. Deception is appealling, but once indulged it is often more stressful than anticipated, until the pleasure of the deceit is reaped. If something is too good to be true, it often is.
go with your gut. If you don't then at least keep track of what your gut said. After a time you'll start to see that 95% of the time your gut feeling was right, then you learn to trust it more and more.
Clinically, however, there are psychological methods that are taught to sales people, police officers, government agents, etc. that are quite useful. They teach things like which way your eyes look back into your head for answers( your left or right side which is either stored memory or your inventive/creative circuits). Watch it, though. When people get too good about that stuff, they are also able to fool people who they know are looking for that stuff.
Here's one way to find out: don't look in their eyes when you ask the question, and don't ask it like the answer is going to upset you, and don't ask it like it's really on your mind. Whatever the subject is about, start chit-chatting about a related topic, which might(by chance) happen to drift into or toward where you want to go with it. Pay attention as you get to this point and observe whether the person actively chooses to avoid going in that one particular direction. See if they start to get edgy as you approach it, watch them look for ways to escape: sudden need to pee. Also, chicks tend to fake a yawn as a way to hesitate and seem like they're not at all taken by it, like they could either shut their eyes and sleep or continue with the discussion. It's also a good seguae to say "I'm getting sleepy, now-goodnight" they're so clever.
There is a psychologist by the name of Paul Ekman who has been doing research on reading someone's true emotions for years. He's very well regarded. He has a training CD that helps you to recognize "micro emotions" that show up very briefly before you put on whatever expression you want to show the outside world. Here's a url:
http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/5465...
My own pet theory is that when someone is trying to deceive, they make an extra effort to seem ernest and honest. People who are normally stingy with eye contact may suddenly look you right in the eyes, for example, or the voice may assume an added measure of confidence. I should image the changes vary a lot from person to person, so you have to be keenly observant of all sorts of mannerisms in order to notice the change when it comes.
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