My shyness is killing me?
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You are a natural leader. Then, I don't know when, but that leadership is going to actually impulse you to where your goals are and will aloud you to be outspoken.
It is going to happen, sooner or later. And believe me, that day you'll remember it for the rest of your life, because it's going to be a little moment in which where you will feel the urge to speak out yourself and you'll start doing it, no matter what, when or where.
You're gonna get a bit, or A LOT scared... but trust me, once you cross that line, there's no way coming back, and you'll discover how to keep achieving that self-confidence by yourself, minute by minute. Nobody can teach you HOW TO BE YOURSELF. You know it from the deep of your heart. Whenever you're alone, in front of the mirror, or watching the floor lying on your bed.
Just let go whenever it happens, but you'll reach it, I'm sure. This was a little humilliation, so WHAT?? That dumb PIC doesn't really know you, so do not feel that ashamed. There will be TONS of other opportunities IN LIFE in where you can show the world what you're made of.
So keep going, and when that precise moment comes... do not miss it. It's gonna be thrilling.
Good luck and you're oon the right way.
Join a sport.
Like boxing, karate, etc.
Fight it you never know what could happen
So, what are you afraid of Vincent and why do you care? Dude, you have to make yourself heard. Practice alone sometime or with a good friend. You can practice a debate or just chit-chat. Hang with someone who is outspoken and see how they work a group of people. It will be good for you to use eye contact and direct speaking. You just need to find the right person to help you out. And don't be shy about being shy. TELL SOMEBODY you can trust exactly how you feel. Or you can preface your speaking by "You guys know I'm sort of shy, so bear with me here..I think..." then go on and tell them what you think. Try talking to a group of kids, then work your way up in age groups. No one will think less of you and really, you shouldn't worry too much about what they think, only what is good for you and your ability to get over your shyness. Godloveya.
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You should read the book"Don't sweat the small stuff" It is very basic, you probley have confidence issues, you should speak up and say what is on your mind. read the book I was like that too, I let people walk all over me I never addressed issues now I have to back down sometimes. Just get the darn book read it and you will feel better. good luck
i myself am very shy and i've missed out on many opportunities. i hate it soo much!! i was about to get in front of a few people to give a speech and someone made a statement and it actually stuck with me and it helped me tremendously. she said "FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT"... and i faked it but still made it through. now before speeches or nervous moments, i think of those words and they help tho im still shy. so... JUST FAKE IT UNTILL YOU MAKE IT!! good luck.
There's something caled "Risk" and you have to take it. No risk,no reward...
It's all down to you.
YOU have to do it for yourself.
You'll meet people along the way that can help you and that you will help, and there's a built in reward (satisfaction) with that but it's still...you choose everything in your life. Nobody does it for you..and by the way don't LET anybody do it for you.
You cannot find what you did not seek.
You cannot recieve what you never asked for.
There is a book called "Risking"...Read it!
then stop being shy.
Try to meet new people and talk more with your friends and family, its dificult but it can help you, I had the same problem so I understand your problem, think it and reflex, good luck.
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