What is the best way so save someone that is depressed from suicide?
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Hi! I saw that you connected to me so i found this open question.
i have had a lot of problems over the winter and was suicidal for a while myself. it happens, it's part of an illness for a lot of people. i appreciate it when people treat it that way... it makes it a more practical thing to deal with. my friends never really freaked out about it... which was great. i was afraid to tell my closest friends, but when i did they were calm and also concerned, but just listened. they also didn't assume to know how i felt, they were very good listeners and it helped me a lot. it's nice of you to give advice, but lots of quiet listening can go a long way. when i am depressed it's impossible to take advice... i think it doesn't apply to me because i assume i am the most lost person in the world. (i know... so melodramatic! but that's how it feels)
keep in touch with them. check on them. call often. keep them company. watch un-depressing movies. it's a waiting game, sometimes. depends on the person. they will get better... but they don't know that.
you can always help them go to a counselor. having a friend go with on the first visit is nice.
it's hard to say this, but no matter how much you care about them they will still feel this way for a while. it takes a while for someone to come out of it. don't let that discourage you. you are still a huge help to them. you already do good things to help and it shows them that you care through your actions and not just words.
Be their friend, include them in your daily activities, and show them that theres friendly life outside of their "box".
Some people just need to get laid too. Its kind of a immature thing to say, but it is the honest truth, sex solves alot of problems.
Other then that, people really just need a hobby, they need an activity of some sort that they love, and it will pull them out of it.
Often times when people become suicidal they feel alone. They feel like no one cares about them and no one would give it a second thought it they just killed themselves. You can help by proving them otherwise and showing them that there are people who care and there are people who will cry if something happens to them.
Talking to them is a start. You should really be there for them and help them through the tough times. If they are feeling down they should be able to give you a call to chat for a bit. Let them know that you are there for them. Tell them. Often times people won't be aware that you will be there for them unless you tell them straight out.
What you also might want to do is to introduce them to some new people. Give them a chance to make friends in a comfortable environment. The move people they are surrounded with the more improvement they will show. That's all it takes for them mostly is just to know that they are cared for by others and shouldn't quit. Hope this helps
~*~FirEdhel~*~
There is no such thing as saving someone from suicide.
If a person is depressed it generally means that they are not happy. Do you actually believe that you can make that person happy? There is a good book that talks about suicide, "Stephen Lives". His mother wrote the book. What it came down to for him was his inability to genuinely be happy with himself. He had too high of expectations of what he should look like, how he should feel about certain people, and made a decision that ended his life. What was learned from it was, suicide is never the right answer, but it is not the end of the world as we know it.
There is a belief that there is no such thing as an accident, meaning that what we consider an accident is actually a suicide by putting yourself into a situation that ends your life. So if you look at the amount of accidents that occur and consider them as by-products of a dissatisfied life and a way to end them.
Also if you look at it from a different point of view such as. If your friend does not die by there own hand, then turns around and develops a drinking or drug problem to avoid the feeling of unhappiness and depression... will he/she be better off for being alive? What if while drunk he/she has an "accident" that takes the life of a young mother out buying milk for her child who is at home?
You can't save someone who can't save themselves. You can only show them how life should be lived and not just survived.
When people are suicidal it's often because they are overcome with the problems of their life and they can't see a way out. Sometimes there is not a single specific thing we can do to help - But - listening and showing genuine care and personal interest is one way of telling that one that WE deem them as important and that We (not no-one) care. When depressed our minds fill with negativity and thought of hopelessness, worthlessness, grief, no way out..be aware that even though they need to talk about their problems they need also to stop dwelling on them. Make your visit a source of refreshment to them, be natural, keep your sense of humour, make them laugh, invite them out and involve them in something that might encourage them. Commend them and upbuild them - keep positive without making light or being insensitive to their problems, or putting pressure on them. Love and friendship is the most beautiful gift we can give, so just keep giving and help that depressed one to get involved in life again, even if its only baby steps, like catching a movie together or having a girl's night, anything that takes their mind of their worries.
*Love, them
*Need them
*Want them
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