Question for misanthropic atheists who don't believe in love?
Help me attain apathy. Give me a logical, scientific, or otherwise cold view of anything. Any psychology on the illusion of the ego would be awesome. I'm desperate to be brought back down to earth. Thanks.
Answer:
Ha ha. Go watch a totally horrible, corny, trite romance movie. (Would that make you laugh and groan and be slightly disgusted and annoyed, like it would me, or would it just reinforce your problem?) Look around on TV, in magazines. "Prince Charming," as you already know, is a crock that has been *fed* to us. No human being is as perfect as Prince Charming.
Monogamy is OK. It does it for some people. It's nice to have a best friend - and possibly live with him/her. And, for the financial security, marry him/her, not necessarily when you're young. You don't need kids. But it becomes a problem when monogamy (i.e., unreasonable jealousy and a disregard for the other's feelings and fulfillment) is the ruling force of one's relationship. S.hit - like a polygamous partner, *if* you're bothered by that sort of thing - happens. In fact, we should expect s.hit to happen. When it doesn't, you will be pleasantly surprised. And sex does not define a romantic relationship. I can love a person and not have sex with him. I can have sex with a person and not love him. Sex does not rule the earth.
It's nice to do considerate things for your partner. This does not mean cliched "red roses." This means a person knows you so well that s/he knows what you like and wants to help you learn and grow. There's nothing wrong with wanting that. You should.
OK, here's something really terrible. You're going to die alone. "Solitude is the profoundest fact of the human condition. Man is the only being who knows he is alone." - Octavio Paz . There. Are you better?
But my true advice is to STOP WORRYING SO MUCH. When a good person comes, you'll know it. Pay attention. You have years and years to go - lots of time for sex and dating and all sorts of things. Romantic love is not the "ultimate" kind of love - you are loved by your friends, your family, and some other people who would rather love than hate, including me. You have many people to meet and things to do. You have interests and skills to develop and books to read and things to learn. So don't let our media and culture make you feel "down" for not being attached. Not being romantically attached, contrary to popular opinion, does not make you a miserable wench. (Why is it that unattached men are never portrayed as miserable wenches? Instead, they're "eligible bachelors.") You are an eligible bachelor. It makes you a good person who knows herself and feels whole with herself to know that you can be secure unattached. So develop your interests and learn who you are before you attach yourself to someone else and have to figure out who *they* are. Don't let someone else define you. Don't let someone else get in the way of or detract from your personal growth.
I feel similar. I get so caught up in romantic daydreams and feeling jealous of girls with their boyfriend's doing romantic things i lose sight of how ridiculous it is. i am atheist as well, but for some reason it is hard to get over romance. i am asnwering not because i can provide u with a decent answer, i cannot, but because this is an interesting question and i am saying i see where u are coming from.
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im interested to see the answers u get
What does atheism have to do with romance and misanthropy?
I am who I am.
You have made concrete decisions in a fluid world that is hardly able to be solidified. Love is not a concrete object object that can be explained the same for everybody.
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