Why does everyone I know put their own self and feelings first but I do the opposite thing?
I don't understand why people can't or won't think of others first for a change. I am starting to feel very tired. Do I have a problem or am I just being dramatic? I am begining to suspect I have some sort of mental problem or something.
Answer:
I am the same way. I feel like I give so much. On the surface I don't expect any reciprocation but subconsciously I wonder why I don't get any thing in return.
Do me a favor. Please don't change who yoiu are. This world is held together by a glue composed of people like yourself and I that understand that taking and taking isn't always the best way to live life. No kind of gratitute is enough. But we don't need gratitude because it is inherent.
Maybe you can get a job where you can get paid to care for people.
I bet these people take advantage of you. Your just trying to do the right thing but everywhere you look is evil. Don't worry about them because they don't matter. YOU matter, and just do what you feel is right. Life will be better for you, and that's all we are all looking for
No! it's others who have a problem, they are still looking for Utopia , you are living it
You ARE putting your own self and feelings first. If you werent getting anything from it, you wouldnt be doing it. You dont have to be consciously aware of this for it to be true.
Do you want to feel liked? Needed? Do you want to feel honorable about yourself? Do you like to take charge?
If you ask yourself why you DO instead of why others DONT, and really think about it, you might have your answer.
But why you DO is the question.
you are not the one with the mental problem...they are!
It is a matter of maturity. Children are selfish by nature, and as we age, we learn that our actions affect others, so we gradually change the way we treat people, thus changing ourselves in the process. Some people are oblivious to this, possibly because things in life came easy to them, so they suspect that is how everyone else also has it. "No need for me to put myself out there, because things are already taken care of for everyone." These people are not yet ready to take care of themselves, let alone someone else besides themselves. They may not have had the opportunity to know what it is like to truly pick yourself up and dust yourself off, get going, and actually need someone else's help.
I don't think you have a mental problem. You may just have more insight into others than some other people. You might see what's lacking in your life, and try to compensate by helping others, hoping that it might spawn and you might be reciprocated.
oh! aren't you special...
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I am the same way. I feel like I give so much. On the surface I don't expect any reciprocation but subconsciously I wonder why I don't get any thing in return.
Do me a favor. Please don't change who yoiu are. This world is held together by a glue composed of people like yourself and I that understand that taking and taking isn't always the best way to live life. No kind of gratitute is enough. But we don't need gratitude because it is inherent.
Maybe you can get a job where you can get paid to care for people.
I bet these people take advantage of you. Your just trying to do the right thing but everywhere you look is evil. Don't worry about them because they don't matter. YOU matter, and just do what you feel is right. Life will be better for you, and that's all we are all looking for
No! it's others who have a problem, they are still looking for Utopia , you are living it
You ARE putting your own self and feelings first. If you werent getting anything from it, you wouldnt be doing it. You dont have to be consciously aware of this for it to be true.
Do you want to feel liked? Needed? Do you want to feel honorable about yourself? Do you like to take charge?
If you ask yourself why you DO instead of why others DONT, and really think about it, you might have your answer.
But why you DO is the question.
you are not the one with the mental problem...they are!
It is a matter of maturity. Children are selfish by nature, and as we age, we learn that our actions affect others, so we gradually change the way we treat people, thus changing ourselves in the process. Some people are oblivious to this, possibly because things in life came easy to them, so they suspect that is how everyone else also has it. "No need for me to put myself out there, because things are already taken care of for everyone." These people are not yet ready to take care of themselves, let alone someone else besides themselves. They may not have had the opportunity to know what it is like to truly pick yourself up and dust yourself off, get going, and actually need someone else's help.
I don't think you have a mental problem. You may just have more insight into others than some other people. You might see what's lacking in your life, and try to compensate by helping others, hoping that it might spawn and you might be reciprocated.
oh! aren't you special...
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