How should one deal with grief or loss ?
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Give yourself some alone time (anywhere from a couple of hours to a half-day or whatever feels right for you) where you will not be bothered. Allow yourself to feel your grief and loss completely. Many times we aggravate our grief by trying to avoid it. Let it completely swallow you, but be gentle with yourself at the same time. Refrain from hurting yourself.
What's happening is your mind is fighting with what is and is convinced that the loss needs to be grieved over. When you allow yourself to grieve, you'll get tired of it and see that there are other things out there to do and enjoy with your precious time. Life goes on. But don't speed the process. Emotions are not under your conscious control. All you can control is how you allow yourself to express it. If you really devote part of the day to these feelings and not avoid them, then you are honoring those feelings and letting them have their expression. Write, cry, write music, paint, sprint outside, lay in bed, pace the floor, shout, throw things. If you write out your feelings, be petty, be the toddler child having a tantrum who's not allowed to have what he wants. Basically, whatever you do, do it to get out those feelings until you exhaust them.
You'll eventually come to see that whatever you no longer have you can live without and still enjoy your life. If you feel the need to hurt yourself, though, please be kind to yourself and go see your doctor.
One day at a time. But I would read your Bible. I would also pick up a hobby and visit a beach.
Find someone to talk to about it. Don't bottle it all up inside. It is good to grieve and you need to do it.
Reading the bible is an excellent suggestion.
God Bless and I'm sorry for your loss.
Find somthin to occupy your time but dont hold your feelings in..pray and talk to ppl who can relate to you.
If you feel there is no reason for this grief (death in the family, loss of a friend ETC) then you could be suffering from depression. I would go talk to your doctor about this possibility.
When i was three my mother died. it was Christmas day and she was getting a turkey for chrimas and a drunk driver hit and killed her...What my family did was ...Be alone lie in your beed and stare at the celing , but don't cut yourself off from the world just be alone for a day!
Feel it deeply, purposefully, fully and experience it for a while. As time goes on it will hurt less and less. Grief works by the principle of diminishing magnitude. Remember the object of your loss with the good times and positive things you shared in the past and share these experiences with other friends and loved ones that are close and willing to share with you. Accept your loss and live and love on in honor of the love and the hopes that your dear one had for you. Then move on and help others along the way who are needful and grateful for your help, a living tribute to that person's memory. Best wishes to you.
You should just allow it to pass through you. Time is the best healer, days will pass and you will come to terms with it.
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