Does anyone get so stressed here that they just feel really down and worry?

I'm 21...used to be fun loving and living for the moment...but lately I am worrying about every single thing. Health, money - or lack of, finding future partner - silly things that never ever bothered me before. I've found myself unable to sleep, eat or worrying about things. It's like I propose huge ambition on myself or deadlines. I'm just a normal girl, learning to drive, not sure what I want to do job wise... I dont know if its because it 'seems' my friends are happy with what they're doing. Does anyone else feel this way or can offer good advice about calming down?

Thank you x

Answer:
When I was 21, I felt the same way. I think there is something inherant about young adults not feeling adequate to face all the adult responsibilities of jobs, housing, relationships, etc.

You are in a difficult stage of life as everyone who is starting new careers, whether old or young, feel a lot of anxiety. The stress monitors rate relationship changes, job changes, educational changes and economic changes in a persons life as in the top 10 stressors of a person's life.

This too will pass and you will do just fine out there. This is normal and I know you are scared as the reality of life responsibility sets in. Hang in there, keep living one day at a time and breathe! Leave a little time for fun each day and know that you are adequate. Don't try to judge your insides with other people's outsides. What other people "look" like is not necessarilly a real indication of how they are doing inside. They are scared too.

The best thing to do is to go talk to someone openly and honestly...counselor or friend. When you get good direction in your life, a job, a place to live and meet a few of your educational goals, you'll feel much better. Take care of yourself...you're doing just fine.
You may have Generalized Anxiety Disorder. Please meet with a counselor for a professional evaluation. Therapy and if need be, medication can calm you.
It's called the quarter life crisis and quite normal. It happens to a lot of recent college graduates. If you really feel down, talk to a counselor or a therapist - it helps to just talk to someone. Good luck!
Maybe u need someone to talk to...a good friend, mentor, a , God..when u share u brudens with others u will feel a weight lifting and if u still feel bad maybe u should just get professional help...u may have some kind of disorder.i wish u the best of luck and when u start thing of bad thing repeat "everything's goin to be alright" in your head and listen to calming music.
Thats normal its called being grown-up you dont have to get a counselor for everything but if you worry about this for so long and if it ruins your every day plans of living then i would say thats dysfunctional and you will need to talk about with someone who helps but other than that you will grow and take one step at a time. meditate, sing,dream and listen to music and most of all pray to God that you have the streghth to deal with challenges.

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