I dont no wht but ....?
when ever i talk to them i feel my self gust get mad or sad & i dont no why.
& i think they are part of the reason whyi cut myself causeits normaly after i have been around then &stuff
why is this i love my family but i cant wait till i get 2 leave there house when im 18
& 2 day i cut myself & i cant figer out Y i did
all i remember was i was with my family then i ran up stairs & started 2 cut
DOES ANY1 NO WHY IM LIKE THIS???
I THINK I NEED HELP BUT I DONT WANT 2 TALK 2 MY FAMILY OR CALL SOME STUPID #
Answer:
I will get to the point, you must have lost some one close to you, be it' your best friend, a boyfriend, a family member. but the point is you do not feel the pain of the loss of this person. but you should, so your mind thinks you should feel your loss, of at least a little sorrow. so you tend to cut yourself. in this way you can feel the pain for what has happen.
This anger is also a part of you loss, because of some reason, you feel as if you cannot trust others. so you tend to become angry toward them. these people do not understand or know what is bothering you. but you feel they do, and that they should try and help you, but they do not. from this you tend to feel as if they do not care. and that you are own your own, so the anger and cutting gets worse.
But please, understand people do not know. if you will, take time and talk to one of them. in that way, you will be able to talk and understand that someone does care. also in this way you will find that what you are really looking for is someone to talk too. a way to release the feelings you have been holding back, to be heard. tell this person about your close loss. you should then Begin too feel better. maybe even begain to cry as the sorrow may come back. if not' please, see a Doctor.
but this kind of cutting can become worse. the cutting is a type of addiction, it will be a good idea to see a Doctor, before it becomes worse.
But the part about, leaving the house when you become 18. that is a normal thought for all teens, as I felt the same way. it is a need to feel free, to chose what you want, to do what you want to do.
But as you do get to that age and do leave you will then find that, in true you will have less freedom, and be able to do less as a teenager. Reason; you will have to get a job to be able to have a place to live, then comes the bills, eletoric, water, food, furniture, car, gas, clouths. insurance. befor you know it you are in the same kind of life your were in with your parents. but it will be worse. because you have to have a full time job to be able to keep up with the bills. a full time job will take at least 8 hours a day. the other part of the day will be, to make something to eat, wash the dishies, cloths. and then you are so tired, you' fall asleep. but only to wake up very early, just to start it all over again. sure there will be some times you may be able to go somewhere on a weekend, if you are not to tired. but the point is, you will really have, so much less freedom, and so much less choices of what you can do. and you will then see, why your parents were the way they were. you will be the same way. ( I just thought I would tell you how things really will be. because I seen things the same way you do now, but found out, it will not be that way, so I want you to know. Please enjoy where you are now, for once it is gone, it is gone forever.)
Take care of yourself Please.
You are a teenager..we all go through that. But sweetie you need to get some help with the cutting. I did that too when I was younger and that is not good. I ended up on mental wards and stufff so they could watch me. You dont want that. Talk to someone about your anger and please dont hurt yourself anymore. Try talking to a councelor or even a friend or a friends mom. You could be like this because you have depression or something more. I was there and I know its frustrating but you need to help yourself before anyone can help you. Take care and I hope you feel better.
I'm no expert but it seems to me that you're looking for some way to express your emotions. Some people in this world have much stronger emotions than normal people and it makes them feel like they don't fit. I believe that these people are the innovators of our times. Maybe you should find some way to express yourself artisticly. Not for the people around you but so you can see inside yourself.
Have you been hurt greatly by someone you loved greatly or trusted greatly?
I feel very critical of ppl too, not exactly like you.
If I had to guess, I would say that you are stressing out about your current life circumstances. This is when you have to decide who you are, and what you want out of life. This can cause some pretty intense conflict, especially with family members. You have probably heard quite a few things about how THEY think you should be, what you should do, what you should want. If what they are expecting isn't what you want, it's very hard to break away from their expectations, and make your own decisions. If guilt or shame is used to try to enforce family standards, it gets even harder. What if you're stuck doing things their way? What if you can't meet their standards? It's enough to give anyone fits.
Every cutter I've ever talked to described the same feeling of being out of control. When they cut, it gave them something that they were in control of, and the pain seemed to give them something to focus on other than their stress and fear.
Getting some outside help is going to be very helpful in getting through this. It's all but impossible for someone to think clearly once things feel this out of control, so an outside perspective helps keep you from overreacting or making poor choices out of panic. Professional is best, but finding someone that you can trust to not have any reason to manipulate you is the key. You need someone who will support you while you work out what YOU want, and then teach you how to defend yourself from others trying to force you into their mold. It's bad enough that you're feeling like there's something wrong with you, you shouldn't have to feel isolated too.
Hang in there, you'll get through this.
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