What would you need to do if you had low self esteem?
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You should listen to your Self-Talk
All of carry on a mental dialogue. Do you ever hear what you are saying to yourself? Do you put yourself down or call yourself names? You should learn to listen to the things you say about yourself, then replace that dialogue with positive images. Stop negative self-talk at the source to take the first step toward a more positive self-esteem.
Recognize your Accomplishments
Make a list of your accomplishments, no matter how small they seem to you. Maybe you won’t win a Prize on them, but your accomplishments have a special value to you. By recognizing them, you can begin to understand that you are important and that you have good self-esteem.
Be Assertive
Learn to be assertive and to practice clear communication. Say what you mean and respect what others have to say. Remember to stand up for what you believe in.
Be Tolerant
Be tolerant of yourself and others. Nobody’s perfect! Try not to criticize yourself or other people and don’t expect others to criticize you. Recognize that a mistake is only a mistake and try not to dwell on it.
Know Good Friends
Spend time with people who value you. Listen to what they say about you. If others are constantly putting you down, you might want to reconsider those relationships. People you choose to be around are often a mirror of how you feel about yourself. A person can find the best in you and others by expecting it.
It takes time, hard work, and it may require professional counseling to build your self-esteem back up. But there are simple positive-thinking techniques that can be used to help improve self-esteem. These are called affirmations. Affirmations are encoring messages we can give ourselves everyday until they become part or our feelings and beliefs. Affirmations work best when a person is relaxed, but since people are often upset when they are giving themselves negative self-messages, they may need to counter negative messages with positive ones.
You can change the future
Like our physical and mental self-esteem, our emotional self-esteem is influenced by factors beyond our control---such as our parents, families, and environment. If, in the main, they have been supportive and encouraging experiences, we are more likely to feel good about ourselves, If they have been difficult or harsh experiences, we are less likely to feel good about ourselves. Although what has shaped our past need not dictate our emotional self-esteem in the future---so long as we believe in our capacity for change, and so long as we trust our ability to improve ourselves. If we can alter our self-image, we can alter our lives.
Examples:
I am lovable and likable!
change to up self esteem(just kidding)change your thinking to positive thinking read good books that tells you how.
be more cocky
relax
i donot have not low esteem,but have the high esteem,u know maslow theory,if some have low esteem must study that
when ever I feel down or need to find an answer or make myself feel better I write a list of things Ive accomplished. include little stupid stuff because they are still things that have been done.
find out why, followed by a willingness to change from within.
Know that everyone else is the same as you in life, they are just better bullsh1tters
Low self esteem comes from having too high expectations, but hey least you have expectations!
Forget the posts about the soul searching cr@p They are just parroting from a lucrative and useless corner of the book industry.
Know that you good enough,if not better in certain things and ways than those around you and dont forget it.
Learn as much as possible about self-esteem, how it develops etc. Then spend some time reflecting on your own, what things have been said or done to you that have resulted in you having low self-esteem. Learn to recognise the negative things that you say to yourself... do you refer to yourself as stupid if you make a little mistake? Do you find that you put yourself down for things that you wouldn't dream of putting others down for?
When you've got to this point, although your self-esteem will not be any different, you should hopefully have reached a good level of understanding and self-awareness. It's a good idea to spend some time reflecting on the things that lead to your low self-esteem, think them through, challenge the things that were said. Did you really deserve those things that happened? Where the people right in what they said? Is it possible that you have believed those things when really they aren't true?
If you can get to a point where you see that not everything that was said or done to you was justified you can start to increase your self-esteem. You'll find that the things that were said to you are the things you repeat to yourself. If you can challenge the things that were said, you can start to challenge the things you say to yourself.
Sometimes it helps also to just start lookin after yourself. Start to treat yourself as if you are the most precious child in the world. Make sure you feed this child well, give it plenty of good, pleasant experiences. Make sure it develops a good sleep routine and gets a good level of exercise and mental stimulation throughout the day. Make sure this child is well mannered and treats other people with kindness and respect. If you can treat yourself is if you are worthwhile you will start to feel worthwhile.
Good luck :)
surround yourself with positive people who lets you know how wonderful you are!!
For me, going to the gym helps me with my self esteem. I think that when you workout, some kind of chemical is released from your body. If you feel good on the inside, it will show on the outside.
Ask yourself why? Answer yourself honestly.
Is it one particular event? Is it something that happened recently? If you answered yes to the recently part, you'll want to look more closely at yourself.
Most defining events that influence our views of ourselves and others began in childhood.
Once you've pinpointed something, work at trying to understand how this is influencing you now. Understand that whatever you've carried w/you, that is influencing you, now is coming at you from a child's perspective. A child does nothing to achieve low self-esteem. They're only children. They have a great deal to learn in life and mistakes are part of the process. If someone else made you feel badly about yourself w/o explaining that everyone has bumps in their road, then, again you aren't or weren't the problem.
Now carry that defining event forward and see how it has affected you throughout the years.
Are you willing to continue to punish the child for trying to learn? No, of course not.
Now once you've worked that out you can get on with the things that will build you up.
Concentrating on the things that are important to you and becoming proficient in your areas of interest will go a long way toward boosting you back up.
Right before you go to bed tonight go to a mirror and look deep into your eyes(not at your eyes) and tell your Self "I love you unconditionally, and I honor who you are and what you are".
Also do the same process as soon as you wake up.
Your Life will have shifted within 30 days.
It works!
1. Seek copious solitude in which to separate your Self from all others so that you can come to know what is You and what is Them. That requires courage.
2. Count your blessings every day and never ever dwell upon the negative. That requires discipline.
3. Become most competent. Pursue excellence. Sharpen your blade. That requires focus.
4. Never compare yourself with others. But, compete mercilessly with yourself. Be a better person every day than you were the day before. That nurtures truly healthy self-esteem. That requires honesty.
5. Be your own Guardian. Nurture and guide yourself as profoundly from your heart as you would a little child entrusted into your care. That requires responsibility.
6. Force yourself. Be stern. Stand up to fear and stomp it down with all your might. If you are fearful of speaking in public, for example, get a job for fun busing tables in a restaurant and actively work out your fear by gradually speaking to strangers as they dine. With every perceived "failure", re-group, remain steady, and tell yourself what went wrong and that you will try it differently next time. Keep at it. That requires strength.
7. Spend time with the very young and the very old. You will find a balance within yourself that cannot be found from spending the majority of your time with only your own general age group. That requires compassion for others.
8. Practice healthy habits. Grow physically stronger and more balanced. Do what is right for yourself and you will feel better, not just physically, but in knowing that you make wise choices. That requires knowledge.
9. Avoid toxic people who make you feel uncomfortable. Seek out people, and ONLY those people, who somehow make you feel good about yourself. Become MUCH more discerning aout who you spend your precious time with. That requires confidence.
10. Abandon social fashion. Conformity is a cultural perversion that weakens your spirit and drains you of your own mind and spirit. Without your own mind, you are vulnerable to the savage vagaries of the group mind. That requires free will.
11. Identify your personal learning style. There are at least eight. Unfortunately, we teach through only two of them. People who are forced to learn through a learning style that is not theirs can feel confused and suffer low self-esteem. Adjust your learning tasks on your own to accomodate your personal learning style. That takes self-direction.
http://www.ldrc.ca/projects/miinventory/...
12. Read this poem over and over until you truly comprehend its message. That requires personal honor:
http://www.bartleby.com/103/7.html...
Try to focus on something positive about yourself.
have a plastic surgery
because most of the time people think that way because they are ''ugly''
And we all know that appearence doesn't count, it is everything...
CIO
You could have cognitive therapy to help you change the way you think about things.
GOOD QUESTION...Keep jotting down whats going on, in the form of small letters. Post them to yourself. Have a good read, as if they were sent to you from someone in need. You could end up insane, or become a great psychiatrist.
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