Why is my past hunting me and driving me crazy?
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Hi Danny,
At times, I feel just like you feel about the wrong choices that I have made. However, mistakes make us strong and experience is the best teacher. We would never learn or do better if we didn't make mistakes. You must look forward and do the best that you can do, now! Now is the time! If you live in the past and dwell on your mistakes, you will go crazy. If you are crazy, how can you help your daughter? She needs a father with good sense that has learned from his mistakes. She does not need a father that dwells on the past and goes crazy over his past mistakes. Mistakes create wisdom. How do you think the Elders have so much wisdom? They have learned from their mistakes, so they can help us not make the same mistakes. The best thing you can do is go forward and help your daughter not make the same mistakes that you made. It is ok to fall but don't stay down because everybody makes mistakes but not everybody learns from them.
Your past is "hunting" you??
Does it have a gun?
Perhaps, you mean your past is HAUNTING you.
what have you done
you know psychotherapy and counseling are available.
also, if you're afraid your local crime syndicate whacking you, you might want to call the feds about a witness protection program, relocate to another state or w/e.
if nothing helps, you could always get into heroin or meth, i hear they're good for cheering people up.
it might sound dumb to some people, but you really need to pray about it. IT WORKS!! i am not a daily church-goer or preacher or anything, but when i feel down or sad or angry and i pray about it... i feel a ton better!
The only thing you can do is learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made and move past it. It is hard to do but if you don’t you will always hold you back and keep you from moving on with your future. If it’s too hard to handle on your own maybe you should seek some counseling to help you. You can’t have a future if you’re stuck in the past. Good luck.
It is hard when you have a past event your regret and cant find closure in. You need to come to terms with that past. I have gone through this before. What did you do that was so bad? What was so negative that it is bothering you and wont let you go? You need to embrace it, and remember it was in the past, and confront your mistake if you can, and come around full circle, analyzing what happened and what you couldnt or could've done to prevent that mistake. Remember that maybe she wont make the mistakes you did, and if she is old enough, explain that the negative choice has plagued you, and you never want that to happen to her. It is hard to come to terms with a past choice that has not been closed and put away. Is it physical? Can you work with the choice and find a happy medium so you arent caught up in a depression over what happened? Find closure, and before that you need to find what is in yourself to forgive yourself for what happened, and move on. Time heals all wounds, but you also have to use neosporin to help it along a little better, so be the neosporin and fix things before they run your life into the ground. Best of luck to you, it will get better if you try to either put the past behind you or embrace it and find closure within it.
I would love to help you with this , but I would need more info ?? I cant give you an answer without knowing a little bit more
Your past is a part of who you are. You'll never be able to escape it, but you can choose how much distance you want to put between you and it.
It's a strange fact that once every 7-10 years all the particles in the human body are completely replaced. So in a very literal sense, you are not the person you once were. The only question is, do you want to act like that person in the past, or do you want to choose to be the new person you are?
We would all change hundreds of thousands of things about our past if we could, at least I sure would.Because you feel like you made so many mistakes you are probably feeling guilty, quit beating your self up, we all have made many mistakes. Maybe you should try counseling.I hope you work things out . Best Wishes
I don't know what you did, but the only way to defeat this is to confront it. If it was something between your daughter and you, you will have to talk it out with her and put yourself on the line. It may be a terrifying thought, and you may feel worse before you feel better, but in the end you will feel better. Emotional weight can crush you just as easily as any crumbling brick wall.
Because you haven't faced and dealt with it. It's nature way...it's not trying to make you crazy...it's just trying to get your attention.
Sounds like you may need some healing in your life. Anyone can benefit from therapy and low cost and income-based (also called sliding scale fee) is available.
In the USA call United Way for free confidential referrals. And your local County Mental Health Clinic will have a number listed in your phone book. Each county has a program offering counseling. If employed, your employer may have an Employee Assistance Program Number (most do) and it's free and confidential to use...nothing will be discussed with your employer--You'll get a certain number of free sessions and some referrals too. Your employer will have either a Toll Free or Local number for you to call. It would be listed in your employee benefit handbook or you could ask your Human Resources Representative. Also, if you have medical health insurance, check your benefits under Behavioral Health allowing counseling. Another option for your research...If there is a local college in your area with a Psychology program, often low cost (usually less than $15 dollars) session are offered. Students providing the therapy at the school would be supervised by licensed Psychologist.. .
Remember shopping for therapy services is like any other product...you might have to search around to find what works for you.
Even though your a man, a good book to read 1)because it has some basic information about Physical and Emotional Health and Healing that anyone can use and 2)because you have a daughter, is a book by Christiane Northrup, MD called Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom. You could find wellness, helping both yourself and then...helping your daughter.
Asking is the first step in getting help. Good for you! You are on the right track.
Be Blessed!
Learn from your mistakes and try your best to not repeat them.
Regain your integrity. If you have never had integrity it is doing the right thing all of the time, even when people aren’t looking.
Accept that Jesus died for your sins so, if He can forgive you then who are you to not forgive yourself! < my personal favorite ;o)
Remember Lots' wife. Looking back prevents you from moving ahead with your life. If you're walking and you turn to look back you can stumble over something or fall in a hole. Feeling remorse shows you have a conscience and a good heart. God forgives all. Ask him and he'll give it. If there is something that you can rectify ,do it. If not move on and be happy for every day that God gives you. And make the best out of the rest of your life.
Blessings to you and your daughter,
It is almost impossible for us to tell you much of anything because we don't know what your past was and how it haunts you.
Your bad decisions could have been anything from a failed marriage to armed robbery. and those would be very different things to deal with.
But, there is one constant that you can work with.
The past is in the past.
And no matter what decisions you made in the past you made them and you have to face them if they should ever rise again.
That is when you simply say to whom ever. Yes these things happened in the past and they are done with, may we leave it there and go on with life...
But then you may never have to say those words so why sweat it until it comes up. Live today for today and plan for tomorrow...
:O)
Jerry
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