What is the bigger person and who cares?
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Say what you can honestly say. For example, you can say something like, "If I had known how you would react, I would never have done anything intentionally to make you angry (hurt your feelings, etc.)."
As to whether you and your friends were treated wrong, you need to ask yourself how likely it is that the bad guy is going to respect you as the judge of what's right or wrong, or just get into more of an argument. If he/she really IS wrong, I'm not sure what you gain by trying to get him/her to admit to it. Better to use what you've learned from the encounter to avoid another occurrence.
I guess it really depends on the issue at hand. If it is really some minor trivial issue, being the "bigger person" means just letting the issue be and move on.
Some things seem major at the time they happen, but weeks, even months down the line, when you look back, you may think - what was the big deal?
I guess you have to put the issue into perspective, as well.
For example, if it was something said that someone took offense to, in the big scheme of things; the whole picture, does it really matter? (I guess I am comparing it to people who are being murdered in Darfur just because of their ethnicity; and people who are innocent bystanders killed by suicide bombers, etc.).
Sometimes you gotta just take a step back and put it all into perspective.
Moving on and knowing you are the bigger person and saying nothing. You can always express remorse about the way the offender chose to see the situation but the bigger person lets it all go and gets on with more important things.
the bigger person is the one who weighs the most...being fake does not make you better just fake
Why would you say sorry for something you didn't do...that would just make you look unsympathetic and a liar to boot. Tell the other person that you think what they did was uncalled for and that you feel you were wronged by their actions. Only a truthful and forgiving person in this situation could be the bigger.
Sometimes we must stand for something; or fall for anything. We are supposed to pray for our enemies, and forgive our trespasser, not necessarily like them, or be there best friend, we should get out the way of attack, like all trained solders would in the battle field.
that falls into the category of how to survive sane in an insane world... sometimes when misunderstandings occur it's good to be the first to apologize... and when dealing with friends and family it's good to be the one finding peace.. but if you are the only one doing it and it happens all the time you are right forgiveness has rules... you tell them what they do wrong and expect an apology.. that is sane. but when the people don't stop doing things to hurt you instead of letting it boil up in you sometimes being the bigger person means having the sense to walk away from relationships. on sided kindness never works into a balanced friendship.
I think being the bigger person just means that you should not stoop to that person's level because you want them to know you treat everyone with respect. My mom says to "kill them with kindness." People really do get annoyed with you if they get irk you that way they want. It's hard to not let things affect you with rude people, but it's better to avoid confrontation.
You don't have to apologise for something you didn't do but you don't have to stoop to that other person's level either. Just forget about it and move on with life. What's done is done. Some people are just not worth stressing yourself over.
this world is full of 'sorry', and not many people can say it, on situation basis, sorry is a good word to make both world meet if the the person meant something to you , so y not
You do not need to apologize for doing something you did not do. It is better to say "When you did this I felt like this...." Also, don't be blind to your own faults, if it turns out you did do something wrong, then say "Oh in that case, yes I am sorry"
can be a two way 'street'---affects both parties---he/she who gives---AND-AS WELL: he/she who receives!
I don't understand why anyone would say i'm sorry for something i didn't do, so that leaves forgetting that the other person should have apologized for wronging you and your friends makes you the bigger person who cares. bettyk
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