How do you get over a friendship breakdown?

I was friendly with a neighbour for 2 years, we saw each other 2 times a week and began to know eachother very well. One day she split up with her boyfriend and decided not to be friends with me. No question of anything untoward in this by the way as my partner and I are very much in love and she knows this, and her man isn't the type either. Anyway 8 weeks on and she still isn't talking to me. I told her after her split with her man that I would always be there for her if she needed a friend , but she ignored that, I gave her lots of space, 3 weeks later I text her to ask if her eletric was off as ours was, no reply. Final attempt last week I posted a document through her door that she had previously requested and wrote 'take care' on it, no response at all. She is now I hear trying to resolve things with her boyfriend
Anyway questions: how can stop feeling so hurt
how can I live next to someone who won;t speak to me
how can I ever, forgive her in the future
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Answer:
She is clearly not the friend you thought she was. If she were, you'd be the first one she talks to, not the one she avoids. What concerns me is that you seem to be trying to find a cause in your own behavior, and finding none, get confused and hurt. Your neighbor has issues and they are not your fault. You cannot fix her or her issues. Step away from the crazy lady. She cannot possibly be the only friend you have. Spend time with the sane ones. Stop blaming yourself. Move on. Good luck to you.

You cannot control the actions and decisions of others, and you can't allow them to affect you. For one reason or another, she has decided to cut off all ties with you. And if you say you did nothing to her to make that happen, you need to recognize that this is HER problem.

If you truly need resolution, honesty and openness is the best policy. When you have the opportunity, confront her and ask a very pointed question: Have I don't something to offend or hurt you? If she says no, then you follow up with a question of why she has cut you out of her life. Her responses will tell you what you need to know...

It is obviously about her own issues. Your attempts to extend your friendship to her have been ignored so leave it at that. You don't want to have a friend that can not offer you friendship in return, maybe someday she will come to you and want to regain your friendship and it is up to you to take or reject it, hopefully you can forgive her for her bad behavior and open up to a friendship again but until then you have to just look for friends that want to have you in their life.

Get another friend that you can become close to thats what happened to me.
i no i did feel hurt at the time but i realised it was her lose and her problem.
i soon got over it then... and now shes coming round nearly 3 month later.

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There was probably some other reason that you didn't know of. Maybe she was jealous that you could still be so nice to her when she was so mean to you in return. Try not talking to her. If she really is your friend then she'll come talk to you.

She lost her boyfriend and seems to want to have some space ,and it probably hasn't anything to do with you. truthfully I wouldn't worry to much about it. neighbor's don't always speak, they have their life and you have yours and generally that means their time is filled. Give her time .

Some things have no explaination. As I think is the case with your current situation. Your friend is probably going through alot of personal stuff right know and she just doesn't want to talk about it. She is probably jealous of your great relationship and just wants to be alone.

You need to go one with your daily routine. I'm guessing this person wasn't really a good friend to begin with.

As for forgiving her. WHY? Cross that bridge when you get to it. She might never come around. If she does she will explain her actions at that time.

Hope this post helped

Just leave her alone .sounds like that's what she wants don't let her know it even bothers you, She wasn't a friend anyway if she cant even tell you why////

You seem like a nice person.
Its very human..its not the best feeling to be rejected and ignored by someone whom you care for.
I believe, by all your attempts of reassuring her of your shoulder when she needs to cry, your ears when she needs to talk, your hand when she needs to run,- she gets the message.. you're a friend in need.
If I were you, I'd do the same, giver her space and time.
Even more so - right now when she is trying to find answers. Girls react very differently my friend, than guys do under breakups. Some tend to share minuiscle details with their buddies, some completely repel them, to avoid the embarassment they might be feeling in this break-up - reuniting process.
This pal of yours seems to be the later one... In which case, she mite completely misinterpret help of any kind for interference or worse, intruisive.
I'd stay away from her, to not loose my dignity and yet accept her with open arms when she needs me ..

How can I stop feeling so hurt : My 2 cents would be- Stay busy.. keep working on your own life.
how can I live next to someone who won;t speak to me :
She doesnt hate you one bit and cud b running away from herself. You've done your part. Wait for hers.
how can I ever, forgive her in the future : From what I read, she hasn't done anything wrong or anyting intentional to hurt you. Its upto you for this question.. I wish you plenty of goodluck :)

i empathise with you and i know exactly how you feel. there is nothing you can really do if she has decided she hates you. just pray and hope for the best, in time it will heal.

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