I have a lot of issues going on and just feel empty inside. I have a ton of friends that i love to hang out...
...with, but i just feel like im going through the motions with my life when this is the time i should be living it up. Theres a lot about my past that people dont know, and i have a hard time letting guys know my real feelings because i have before. i put myself out there and was crushed. that happend awhile ago though. idk...i just feel like i dont have any emotion and im stuck in this hole i just cant get out of. i feel like i just need to accept my past and use it to help myself be normal again. idk i need help
Answer:
Concentrate on becoming who you are. Good luck to you.
Then go get some.
relax. even though your past is an important part of you, nobody would critisize you if you put it all behind you. go have fun with your friends and tell people whatever you feel comfortable telling them.
i can honestly say i feel the same way. i live too much in the past. i need to learn to take chances and have fun and live in the now.
i feel so dead sometimes. and everyday is the same.
I think just about everyone goes through times like that! It is probably best to go and talk to someone, but if you're not comfortable with that, then at least find a really good friend to confide in. Give it time...it will pass!
Unless you want to be like me and be a loner at the age of 50 then go right ahead. You have a good start to becoming a agoraphobic. Just because you got beat and pushed to the ground of life it's no reason to bail. However, your friends are your friends and let them do their job as a friend and become a part of something better than just the sum of your parts.
you can't go through life with your head in the sand. you know the issues you are dealing with. only you can dig yourself out of this hole. not all people are the same and you cannot judge every one by what one guy or girl did to you. the choice is yours.deal with it(get some pro help, get some support group, etc) or don't.
Your past is what makes you who you are today. You're not going to feel better if you live a life of secrets, that would drag anyone down. Maybe it's not the content of your past that might push people away, maybe it's the delivery of it. I've made mistakes in the past but I've learned from them. I'm not proud of them, but I'm not ashamed of them either because I learned from them. Past and all, you must learn to be proud of who you are. Remember, nobody is perfect and I'm sure the people you hang with have certain incidents they'd like to forget as well. I'd say your feeling empty because you're not being true to yourself.
Have you tried a support group where you can open up to people who are familiar with whatever it is, or a therapist? They're there to help and won't be there to judge you.
What my Mom always said.
What's past is past.
Once you start a new day...Everything that
happened 'bad' yesterday...the day before...
last year... is over and done with.
You need to forgive yourself and forget!!
You do it to your friends and/or family if they do something wrong. Do it to yourself.
And, if you're not happy with your friends.maybe it's
time to take a break from them. Not forever. Just for a while. Take a step back and take a look at your life.
Maybe it's time for change. And.change is good.
Good luck, Sweetie.
All you need to do is accept your mistakes in the past and forgive yourself from doing those things...Freeing yourself from that bagage of the past will make a big difference...move on and make sure to learn from those mistakes!
In case you needed someone to talk to im just an email away.
Godbless
I'm a member of the "been up shits creek without a paddle club". Yeah, we all have times when we feel like we are isolated in a crowd - its not all that abnormal really, people just dont talk about it much, so we think we are a freak when it happens to us, because we dont know that other people feel the same way at times.
Be gentle with yourself - and give yourself time.
If you are trying to resolve past issues, you need sometime "practicing" so to speak, getting to be the person you will be - (and thats a rough spot to be in emotionally)
as far as your freinds, give them a plenty of a chance to see what you are like now - over a course of time - so they can gain some trust in who you are now, and so that they wont make all kinds of assumptions about you when they find out the things that were not bright spots in your life.
I don't think you should just "accept your past", I think you should learn from it. If putting yourself out there felt like the right thing to do at the time then you did the right thing. Doing the right thing for yourself is the best. If not you have a bunch of feelings kept up inside of you. I believe you make yourself stronger this way. Everyone feels like there stuck in holes different and several times in their lives. It will pass. These only make us a better person in the end by dealing with it, moving on in your life, and looking on the bright side of things. Good luck and take care.
Ok wow I actually know how this feels. I have a horrible past too, I was raped by a school teacher and my sister is emotionally unstable to where if we tell on him she will kill herself because she loves him. My parents want to turn him in but can't because we will probably lose her if we do. My algebra teacher has controled my life and my family's for 2 years now and it's so hard to go on everyday pretending like everything is fine when it's far from it.
I'm also desperate for a better future, but this can only happen if we find a way to escape the past. I see him everyday at school and it makes me a wreck to see my friends talk about how hott he is. NO ONE can know this, I have wanted so badly to tell someone I know.anyone but I'm putting lives in jepardy if I tell. I'm scared of being raped again but what helps is writing it down in a journal. You release your secrets on paper and believe it or not it does feel good.
Remember, you are not alone. Be strong, you CAN move forward. There are people who love you no matter what.
Same prob. here...and every time I convince myself that it'll be ok this time, the same thing happens...i've gotten to the point where I won't let myself feel anymore because I know that if I feel, I'll hurt...if you get a straight answer on this one, let me know.
Everyone gets a little empty and mudane everyone now and then. It passes with time or a good movie. Sometimes it passes with the visit of a friend. When our mind is filled with a challenge or we do something rewarding like help someone else, it puts our lives into a better perspective. If we understand that depression or emptiness is only a small part of our existence we can look forward to a new day. Every day is a new day all old things are passed away and all things become new. Love sometimes leaves and emptiness if we end a relationship, but eventually that hole will be filled. Sometimes its not always good to let a guy know your real feelings, sometimes it is. Let it go, wipe the dust off your feet and thank God your alive and breathing and able to live another day. We don't all have to have a near death experience to appreciate life. We can appreciate it now. Hope this has helped.
You should really think about seeing a counselor... just to talk and vent will make you feel better, and you don't have to worry about anyone talking behind your back when you are done.
Everyone has problems like that...but few really admit it. You don't really need to get some professional help unless you are unable to do some basic stuff like sleeping, eating, working...or other things. You have to accept your past and learn from it. You don't have to share everything of it with others, just what it means and what is worth of it. You can see the past in many views...good or bad. If you are young don't bother too much with it...just learn so you can build a future.
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Concentrate on becoming who you are. Good luck to you.
Then go get some.
relax. even though your past is an important part of you, nobody would critisize you if you put it all behind you. go have fun with your friends and tell people whatever you feel comfortable telling them.
i can honestly say i feel the same way. i live too much in the past. i need to learn to take chances and have fun and live in the now.
i feel so dead sometimes. and everyday is the same.
I think just about everyone goes through times like that! It is probably best to go and talk to someone, but if you're not comfortable with that, then at least find a really good friend to confide in. Give it time...it will pass!
Unless you want to be like me and be a loner at the age of 50 then go right ahead. You have a good start to becoming a agoraphobic. Just because you got beat and pushed to the ground of life it's no reason to bail. However, your friends are your friends and let them do their job as a friend and become a part of something better than just the sum of your parts.
you can't go through life with your head in the sand. you know the issues you are dealing with. only you can dig yourself out of this hole. not all people are the same and you cannot judge every one by what one guy or girl did to you. the choice is yours.deal with it(get some pro help, get some support group, etc) or don't.
Your past is what makes you who you are today. You're not going to feel better if you live a life of secrets, that would drag anyone down. Maybe it's not the content of your past that might push people away, maybe it's the delivery of it. I've made mistakes in the past but I've learned from them. I'm not proud of them, but I'm not ashamed of them either because I learned from them. Past and all, you must learn to be proud of who you are. Remember, nobody is perfect and I'm sure the people you hang with have certain incidents they'd like to forget as well. I'd say your feeling empty because you're not being true to yourself.
Have you tried a support group where you can open up to people who are familiar with whatever it is, or a therapist? They're there to help and won't be there to judge you.
What my Mom always said.
What's past is past.
Once you start a new day...Everything that
happened 'bad' yesterday...the day before...
last year... is over and done with.
You need to forgive yourself and forget!!
You do it to your friends and/or family if they do something wrong. Do it to yourself.
And, if you're not happy with your friends.maybe it's
time to take a break from them. Not forever. Just for a while. Take a step back and take a look at your life.
Maybe it's time for change. And.change is good.
Good luck, Sweetie.
All you need to do is accept your mistakes in the past and forgive yourself from doing those things...Freeing yourself from that bagage of the past will make a big difference...move on and make sure to learn from those mistakes!
In case you needed someone to talk to im just an email away.
Godbless
I'm a member of the "been up shits creek without a paddle club". Yeah, we all have times when we feel like we are isolated in a crowd - its not all that abnormal really, people just dont talk about it much, so we think we are a freak when it happens to us, because we dont know that other people feel the same way at times.
Be gentle with yourself - and give yourself time.
If you are trying to resolve past issues, you need sometime "practicing" so to speak, getting to be the person you will be - (and thats a rough spot to be in emotionally)
as far as your freinds, give them a plenty of a chance to see what you are like now - over a course of time - so they can gain some trust in who you are now, and so that they wont make all kinds of assumptions about you when they find out the things that were not bright spots in your life.
I don't think you should just "accept your past", I think you should learn from it. If putting yourself out there felt like the right thing to do at the time then you did the right thing. Doing the right thing for yourself is the best. If not you have a bunch of feelings kept up inside of you. I believe you make yourself stronger this way. Everyone feels like there stuck in holes different and several times in their lives. It will pass. These only make us a better person in the end by dealing with it, moving on in your life, and looking on the bright side of things. Good luck and take care.
Ok wow I actually know how this feels. I have a horrible past too, I was raped by a school teacher and my sister is emotionally unstable to where if we tell on him she will kill herself because she loves him. My parents want to turn him in but can't because we will probably lose her if we do. My algebra teacher has controled my life and my family's for 2 years now and it's so hard to go on everyday pretending like everything is fine when it's far from it.
I'm also desperate for a better future, but this can only happen if we find a way to escape the past. I see him everyday at school and it makes me a wreck to see my friends talk about how hott he is. NO ONE can know this, I have wanted so badly to tell someone I know.anyone but I'm putting lives in jepardy if I tell. I'm scared of being raped again but what helps is writing it down in a journal. You release your secrets on paper and believe it or not it does feel good.
Remember, you are not alone. Be strong, you CAN move forward. There are people who love you no matter what.
Same prob. here...and every time I convince myself that it'll be ok this time, the same thing happens...i've gotten to the point where I won't let myself feel anymore because I know that if I feel, I'll hurt...if you get a straight answer on this one, let me know.
Everyone gets a little empty and mudane everyone now and then. It passes with time or a good movie. Sometimes it passes with the visit of a friend. When our mind is filled with a challenge or we do something rewarding like help someone else, it puts our lives into a better perspective. If we understand that depression or emptiness is only a small part of our existence we can look forward to a new day. Every day is a new day all old things are passed away and all things become new. Love sometimes leaves and emptiness if we end a relationship, but eventually that hole will be filled. Sometimes its not always good to let a guy know your real feelings, sometimes it is. Let it go, wipe the dust off your feet and thank God your alive and breathing and able to live another day. We don't all have to have a near death experience to appreciate life. We can appreciate it now. Hope this has helped.
You should really think about seeing a counselor... just to talk and vent will make you feel better, and you don't have to worry about anyone talking behind your back when you are done.
Everyone has problems like that...but few really admit it. You don't really need to get some professional help unless you are unable to do some basic stuff like sleeping, eating, working...or other things. You have to accept your past and learn from it. You don't have to share everything of it with others, just what it means and what is worth of it. You can see the past in many views...good or bad. If you are young don't bother too much with it...just learn so you can build a future.
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