I must admit that?
I have low self-esteem, not confident and can't socialize.
Which is why I troll on MySpace (at the age of 21) during my free time.
Will this haunt me in the future? I do go to school and workout, just don't socialize because of my level of confidence and the fact that I am ugly.
Answer:
Look, it doesn't matter how u look it matters how u act. some girls don't even see the face when u act the right way, and they end up not caring. When at a party or hanging out or meeting someone new start a conversation and each time u do it, it will end up being fun. Just talk just to talk then ur confidence will grow and u will be able to talk to anyone. Just remember rejection is a part of life no matter how many times u get it. EVERYONE gets rejected and not just one, just keep getting up and go at it. Thats just opinion and kind of from experiance. Also put yourself in the position to meet new people. Go out to parties, or go hanging out with friends. Don't stay cooped up in the house on myspace.
Maybe reading the short article on the site below will increase your self-esteem and make you happier.
http://www.phifoundation.org/enlightenme...
Who decides if you're ugly? First be aware that your opinions are probably formed based on what others believe is beautiful or ugly. Something only looks good when it's being compared to something less, so try to pinpoint what you're comparing yourself to and understand that it's really not needed because what matters in YOUR life is what YOU think.
You seem to be confident to me -- confident that you have low self esteem, low confidence, and the lack of socialization. Try to become aware, RIGHT NOW, how confident you feel in that. Just take that energy and start believing what you want yourself to become (and please make sure it's what YOU want, not what others want/expect from you). I know it sounds kinda obvious, but it's because it really is. Have you ever read the book "The Secret"? Basically it's about how you control your life no matter what by controlling your thoughts, which control your feelings, thereby leading to your actions. You might be denying this -- just understand that this denial isn't proving anything to anyone except yourself. You first have to believe that you can be who you want to be if your desire's strong enough.
I'm saying it straight out now -- stop complaining, stop whining, and stop being negative -- it's not proving anything to anyone, it won't get you what you want. Once you really understand that you'll begin to change. Look, anyone can be negative, that's easy. But it takes effort to be positive, because anything worth pursuing IS a challenge. Maybe this sounds a little harsh, but that's because it's the truth, and maybe no one had the guts to tell it to you. I understand where you're coming from -- I lacked confidence and social skills just a little while ago, when I started high school. It's a journey really... you really just begin to believe in your abilities, focus on what you CAN do well, and you have something because EVERYONE does. Don't be negative and say you don't, it won't prove anything. After realizing your strenghts begin to look at your weaknesses with acceptance. Everyone has flaws -- just adapt to them, and allow them to fit into your life and way of living.
Now about the socialization skills, be aware that most people will not reach out to you unless you first give some kind of signal that you're interested. Unbelievably wise words of a favorite teacher of mine, "Make yourself available." Make yourself available to help out, to show interest. You need to make the first move, and if you don't feel like you don't belong, that's a mistake on your part -- not a bad thing, but it's your fault because you're not willing to accept, even though it's hard. Honestly, "Just do it -- 'it' is what you need."
That's about all I have to offer right now. Think about what I said, and I mean REALLY think about it. Maybe a bit of isolation right now would help you out. Good luck, I wishy ou all the best, and keep believing no matter how hard it is -- the harder it is, and the harder you believe, the better you'll feel that you overcame that. One last quote from my teacher, "If you have a challenge, deal with it, learn from it, grow stronger for it, and move on."
Sweet heart the only thing that will haunt you is regrets... You sell yourself and society short if you think that no-one will want to be your friend because of the way you look... Get amongst it, life's too short!
Remember we all feel ugly sometimes, but there is always someone who is uglier than us!
'Be who you are nothing more, nothing less.'
Michael Franti
you sound excactly like me. I prefer to stay home and bs online instead of going out and meeting people. I really don't think I am ugly but i feel something is wrong with me.
No one is ogly, but different. There is something beautiful in each person. Do not shy away. Do not feel ogly, feel different. Feel that you are smart enough. That God 's love you. Get those negative words out of your mind. Tell them to go out of you. Tell the demons to leave you along. That you belong to God, and that God creation is perfect. Sin is what make us feel ogly, sometimes. Show to others the beauty that is in you. Be polite. Treat people as well as you want to be treated, be social. Do not permit that fear, and negative thoughts work in your mind. Do not let anything to limitate you. Go for your goals that will take you to the greatest victory. Follow your dreams. God is with you. He knows your thoughts but he likes that you learn His words and make a change in your way of saying things. Feel up. You are special person. Talk with grace, talk to God. Ask for His help and you will see miracles. Just believe. He loves you. Look for Him. Be bless.
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Which is why I troll on MySpace (at the age of 21) during my free time.
Will this haunt me in the future? I do go to school and workout, just don't socialize because of my level of confidence and the fact that I am ugly.
Answer:
Look, it doesn't matter how u look it matters how u act. some girls don't even see the face when u act the right way, and they end up not caring. When at a party or hanging out or meeting someone new start a conversation and each time u do it, it will end up being fun. Just talk just to talk then ur confidence will grow and u will be able to talk to anyone. Just remember rejection is a part of life no matter how many times u get it. EVERYONE gets rejected and not just one, just keep getting up and go at it. Thats just opinion and kind of from experiance. Also put yourself in the position to meet new people. Go out to parties, or go hanging out with friends. Don't stay cooped up in the house on myspace.
Maybe reading the short article on the site below will increase your self-esteem and make you happier.
http://www.phifoundation.org/enlightenme...
Who decides if you're ugly? First be aware that your opinions are probably formed based on what others believe is beautiful or ugly. Something only looks good when it's being compared to something less, so try to pinpoint what you're comparing yourself to and understand that it's really not needed because what matters in YOUR life is what YOU think.
You seem to be confident to me -- confident that you have low self esteem, low confidence, and the lack of socialization. Try to become aware, RIGHT NOW, how confident you feel in that. Just take that energy and start believing what you want yourself to become (and please make sure it's what YOU want, not what others want/expect from you). I know it sounds kinda obvious, but it's because it really is. Have you ever read the book "The Secret"? Basically it's about how you control your life no matter what by controlling your thoughts, which control your feelings, thereby leading to your actions. You might be denying this -- just understand that this denial isn't proving anything to anyone except yourself. You first have to believe that you can be who you want to be if your desire's strong enough.
I'm saying it straight out now -- stop complaining, stop whining, and stop being negative -- it's not proving anything to anyone, it won't get you what you want. Once you really understand that you'll begin to change. Look, anyone can be negative, that's easy. But it takes effort to be positive, because anything worth pursuing IS a challenge. Maybe this sounds a little harsh, but that's because it's the truth, and maybe no one had the guts to tell it to you. I understand where you're coming from -- I lacked confidence and social skills just a little while ago, when I started high school. It's a journey really... you really just begin to believe in your abilities, focus on what you CAN do well, and you have something because EVERYONE does. Don't be negative and say you don't, it won't prove anything. After realizing your strenghts begin to look at your weaknesses with acceptance. Everyone has flaws -- just adapt to them, and allow them to fit into your life and way of living.
Now about the socialization skills, be aware that most people will not reach out to you unless you first give some kind of signal that you're interested. Unbelievably wise words of a favorite teacher of mine, "Make yourself available." Make yourself available to help out, to show interest. You need to make the first move, and if you don't feel like you don't belong, that's a mistake on your part -- not a bad thing, but it's your fault because you're not willing to accept, even though it's hard. Honestly, "Just do it -- 'it' is what you need."
That's about all I have to offer right now. Think about what I said, and I mean REALLY think about it. Maybe a bit of isolation right now would help you out. Good luck, I wishy ou all the best, and keep believing no matter how hard it is -- the harder it is, and the harder you believe, the better you'll feel that you overcame that. One last quote from my teacher, "If you have a challenge, deal with it, learn from it, grow stronger for it, and move on."
Sweet heart the only thing that will haunt you is regrets... You sell yourself and society short if you think that no-one will want to be your friend because of the way you look... Get amongst it, life's too short!
Remember we all feel ugly sometimes, but there is always someone who is uglier than us!
'Be who you are nothing more, nothing less.'
Michael Franti
you sound excactly like me. I prefer to stay home and bs online instead of going out and meeting people. I really don't think I am ugly but i feel something is wrong with me.
No one is ogly, but different. There is something beautiful in each person. Do not shy away. Do not feel ogly, feel different. Feel that you are smart enough. That God 's love you. Get those negative words out of your mind. Tell them to go out of you. Tell the demons to leave you along. That you belong to God, and that God creation is perfect. Sin is what make us feel ogly, sometimes. Show to others the beauty that is in you. Be polite. Treat people as well as you want to be treated, be social. Do not permit that fear, and negative thoughts work in your mind. Do not let anything to limitate you. Go for your goals that will take you to the greatest victory. Follow your dreams. God is with you. He knows your thoughts but he likes that you learn His words and make a change in your way of saying things. Feel up. You are special person. Talk with grace, talk to God. Ask for His help and you will see miracles. Just believe. He loves you. Look for Him. Be bless.
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