I can't stand being touched. Is this normal?
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I dont think its not normal in a sense that you have a problem, but not normal in the sense that most people arent like that. Im not a touchy feely type of person either. Its just a personal preference.
people need to touch and be touched. not wanting to be touched at all is not normal
It's a characteristic of some Scorpios and quite normal. Lots of children pull away from their mothers and I wish they knew how ordinary it was. Nothing to do with bad mothering at all. Our mother was the best mum in the world, but my sister (born Nov 13th) couldn't stand hugging. Liked sex though!
(Sorry Dirk, but you don't know what you're talking about.)
No - not normal
I dislike intamcy from most people - and will only accept it from close friends and familiy - hate those guru trust games ! brrrrr.
But no - to dislike hugs from your supposed l;over / boyfriend you have issue - get some help.
Well, i couldnt tell you why it happens 4 u, but for me its a result of rape. But some of my mates are like taht even tho nothing traumatic has happened. Some people just done like affection- and there is nothing wrong with that. When in doubt , talk to a proffesional and you'll probably find its something very simple that you need help with. Good luck
Sounds like maybe you've got some deeply buried issues. I've only known one girl like that, and she was slightly confused. As much as I hate to say it, maybe a therapist is in order.
I cant tell you WHY this is how you are, but I can tell you - you are not the only one.
I am a very touchy feeling huggy person- my now husband was NOT! he hated being touched -even hated being hugged by his mom! Nothing happened to him in the past either- its just the way he was.
Now for the good news- with a lot of patience on my part and time- he loves to hug me! He even will hug his mom back!
He says that I was the first person who he enjoyed touching him. ( I am talking simple PUBLIC touching nothing nasty).
Tell your boyfriend to touch you gently and be patient with you and let you take the lead on the hugs or do quick side hugs that are not so invasive.
Have heart! When the right one comes along- you will know! :) Most people have to wonder- but you will know!: )
Dear PokemonFAN
First of all I can fully understand not wanting anyone in your space. This is about you so I won't bore you with my whys. It is fully normal and needs to be accepted, just like an allergy is accepted by people around you :-)
For your assistance though, from the bloke's perspective, it can seem a constant rebuke somehow when your loved one doesn't want to be close and seldom instigates it.
Sure, he has to accept that and handle it in order to maintain your relationship between you. I fully agree with your stance.
Knowing both sides now though may help you on occasionally "reach-out" and spontaneously hug you bloke- even if you aren't really bothered to or not to do so, a sacrifice of sorts (Don't word it that way!!).
That would make him relax and then in turn not "chase" you all the time for contact.
Please sit him down and explain factually that it is something that doesn't happen for you and that you don't enjoy despite being within strong feelings for him.
Make sure he understands things are still fine but you MUST maintain your personal space and detachment.
Sorry to say that,as you say ,you have a boy friend. IT MEANS YOU ARE YOUNG.If in this age you ill feel the touching of opposite sex,so you are not normal. please consult someone,who is able to rectify this problem. Good luck.
sometimes the actions of the female parent can wake up in the child in an unconscious mode. this usually occur if the female was physically forced into having sex that leads to pregnancy.
this become even more effective if the mom continued the resentment for the father after birth and into the bringing up of the child in this case you.
if you were constantly depressed while growing up it would be your dad who had resentment for the mom before and during pregnancy. consult a psych.
latent or prenatal physical and emotional behavior transfer are common in humans & animals. We can suppress or enhance these functions in the child rearing period. (upbringing)
I know what you mean.Like who do you think you are ? What gives you the right? I don't hate being kissed or hugged,but I want to also want to be kissed and hugged.One problem I have ,and so do other women is,when were sitting together, say, holding hands,he will start to caress my hand, then he travels a little higher and higher and I enjoy being touched. I am thinking he is being nice! No, he thinks he is on his way to heaven. Why can't a man just caress/touch without pushing towards the whole kit and caboodle? I wish I could relax when he is close and has his arm around me,but I feel I have to be on guard? Now, anytime we hold hands or he rubs me, I know why. But because of his, pushing, pushing, pushing all the time I can't stand him to touch me. I tense up and don't let him start anything. Even if he really was just going to hold my hand,his past history Say's otherwise.He Say's" I was not going to try"I just wanted to rub you". I feel it is a lie. Men will try for an inch, you give it to him,then before you know it,he's going for the whole kit and caboodle . I just want to relax and not think every move means,oh, here we go! I feel used and taken advantage of. Trust me ,I am not a prude by any means,when he does this every time we hold hands,he just wants the body,not the women inside.
i know exactly what you mean, i hate being touched. I feel so gross after someone touches me, and where ever they touched me i can like feel it for like an hour after. I come from a really touchy feelly family so as you can imagine i cringe a lot.
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