Are conceited people happy?
The essence is do conceited people cause other people to be unhappy?
I suppose you can just walk away, but they get in everywhere and spoil things?
One person's conceit is other person's norm. What are you doing going around and spoiling the peace (everybody is conceited and happy) for everybody?
Answer:
I don't think they're happy at all. I don't think they see themselves the way you see them either.
Some people who come across as conceipted are actually very sheltered people who live within a very tight environment. It may be a cultural environment or one of privilege, but they are often very naive and don't see themseves the way others, with less privilege perhaps, see them. Someone (parents?) have conditioned them to think they are "special" and thus if the rest of the world doesnt see them that way too they start to act "snobbish" (kids do this a lot).
So I think conceipt and naivity go hand in hand in a lot of cases, when it comes to younger people especially and it's a phase which they outgrow as they gain more confidence and acceptance.
Some can be snobs for the exact opposite reason...they have nothing and no self esteem and are NOT accepted and are snobs because they fear rejection.
That doesnt make them any less distasteful or conceited mind you. But sometimes it can be lonely for them because they really may not be bad people...they just need to realize that everyone is the same deep down inside.
That said, they shouldn't have to change what/who they are for others either. If they are well to do, they can't help that, but they do need to become a little more "real". If they are poor, that doesnt' make them unimportant, in fact they might end up beign the most interesting and loyal person you can find as a friend.
I think it takes great character on both sides to see beyond the "exteriors" of people, and see the person inside.
Mind you there are some conceited and obnoxious people who are totally happy always looking down their noses and making fun of others (or so it may seem) but the point is they get great pleasure from it.
These types of people are just plain morons. And one day when they are standing there alone and looking stupid (Paris Hilton good example) they will realize. But often they are too vain and set in thier ways to really change. They'll try, but it will be a half-hearted attempt just to appease people around them. They will never truly want to give up their lives of privilege and society of people just like them because they are just too conditioned and too driven by materialism to really ever be able to give it up. If they are famous they are trapped as well because they can never be normal and live in the outside world so they have to live in that insane world of people just like them, and have to stoop to all that ridiculousness to maintain their lifestyles.
So you have to really look at where that conceit comes from to see if there is ever really hope that someone will change or reform.ie grow up.
I still think it stems from naivity or insecurity and fear...but how cruel you are and what you do to others is something that people don't soon forget, or easily forget.
So sadly when someone like that wants to change it's actually very difficult for them.
Best thing is for them to get out and get a brand new start with new people, but often they don't get that opportunity, so forgive and forget takes a long time if ever.
They are not happy. If they were content in who they are, they wouldn't need to focus on themselves. It would become boring and they would focus on others.
It's necessary to worry about yourself to a degree, but then you should let it go and live to serve other people.
Conceited people don't know they are conceited, they certainly don't know they get up your nose quite so much! Usually they grow out of it, but irritability is harder to outgrow.
I dont think they are. I think they do all that stuff to get happy, but they can't. And they think of themself so they feel more important.
It was Eleanor Roosevelt who said "no one can make you feel inferior without your permission".although conceited people can be annoying, I do not allow them to alter my mood. They are actually insecure people who will never be happy with anything they have. I pity them...they close themselves off from true happiness.
I think that most conceited people were treated like princes and princesses from the time that they were little children. Then, if they happened to have inherited good looks, that makes them, more so, think they're something special. (That also applies to the super-smart, the super-rich, and to the super-popular).
Some seem to be happy in their magical make-believe worlds--but I'm certain that some have major issues. Why...because no one is perfect, and everyone has problems--some much deeper than others.
I would not want to trade places with any of them--there's something to be said for being 'average'.
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