Tips for small talk.what happens when the conversation dies down and you're left with ackward silence?
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Questions you can ask:
Where was the most beautiful place you have ever been?
Do you feel funny when there is a silence in the conversation, or is it a chance to relax?
What was the best job you ever had? Why?
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be? Why?
What do you think of the way girls are showing skin between their shirt bottom and pants top? Why?
Do you have memories of your grandparents?
What is your pet peeve?
What do you like to hear people say?
Silence is golden... where'd this idea that silence is awkward come from? Teen drama shows?
There does not need to be constant speech in order to be comfortable. Nor does there need to be speech at all to feel the other persons presence and/or communicate.
I hate that! Sometimes you can try to ask follow up questions about something the person said. Otherwise, like the first person wrote, you have to learn not to think of silence as awkward. I don't know how old you are, but it gets easier as you get older. (I'm 30) You can learn to choose not to feel awkward.
untill you learn to let go of such worry about worring try acknowledging it. i used to say "wow don't you hate being the last one to say something when the room went quiet?'
Think of polite questions to ask. If you have a problem with this at the time,think of questions you can ask/use in the future and write them down if you need to.
Even People on TV talk shows keep questions written down to look at and use.
I will usually ask that person something about themselves folks like to talk about themselves =-)
Good question. Remember why you came together.
I agree with B Dorian. You do not have to always be talking. In fact, we men prefer that women NOT talk so much. Sorry if I am being too generalizing to women who do not fall into this category. I know you exist out there, but the percentage is low.
We men appreciate a good stimulating conversation, but we do not like to yak on the phone for hours about nothing important.
I like silence because it helps you evaluate a person better. Body language can be more telling than words because the body will tell you the truth long before the lips will. If you must talk, you could comment on the awkward silence in a joking manner that might give way to a lighter hearted conversation and break the awkward vibe.
If it goes to an awkward silence, I try to keep the conversation going by trying to think of what next to say. If nothing, then there is no point of carrying on with the date or conversation which is bound to go no where. Been there regardless of dates. It all comes down to on how interested the other person is about the conversation or topic and you. Common ground is the key to all kinds of conversation.
Say out loud (and maybe just a little louder than your normal conversational tone of voice) to no one in particular, " Did you step in dog-poop or is that just how you smell?" Then make a big show of checking the bottoms of your shoes. Ask anyone else nearby if you might see the bottoms of their shoes. "Sniff" them if they refuse and look at them warily as you do.
If the other person/people start laughing, make better friends with them. If they just look at you funny and silently, slowly back away and then run, run far away and never look back because you are hanging with lame retards!
I do like the concept of being comfortable with the silence, but failing that, try something provocative: "What thing do you like most during foreplay, giving and receiving?"; or maybe "How many people here think they might have seen an alien -- I mean like a space-ship alien, not an 'illegal' alien?"; or even "So how many here are still comfortable with the 10-dimensional model for the Theory of Everything, and how many have jumped ship for the complex elegance of the 11-dimensional model?" That always gets the conversation going again at the parties I go to anyway...or, talk about things that matter to you.
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