What is the best way to release anger when you find out someone has lied to you?
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You must be able to give to this person. The method for getting to this point has been talked about and researched for thousands of years. It's called for.giveness
You can read about it or talk to someone, but you instinctively know how to do it.
Go jogging, until you are very tired!!
THINK ABOUT IT THIS WAY.
HAVE YOU EVER LIED? IF YOU HAVE THEN IT IS EASIER TO FORGET ABOUT THIS PERSON LYING.
REMIND YOURSELF, I HAVE LIED TOO. I HAVE TO JUDGE MYSELF FIRST THEN IF I HAVEN'T LIED AT ALL THEN I CAN GO TO THAT PERSON AND GET IT SETTLED.
JUST TELL THEM YOU KNOW THEY LIED AND WHY DID THEY DO IT?
IF THEY DENY IT THEN WALK AWAY. THEY WILL HAVE TO LIVE WITH THEIRSELF.
first of all u care to much, you need to release some things in life, secondly look at the postives this person has done for you thats always key. and try not to let it get to you and label this person as a experinece or life lesson you will never repeat. and hopefully that will allow you to let go =. ( let me know if this works good luck)
With out knowing how "great" the ie was, this is difficult. However, let's assume that a lie is a lie. If this friend truly lied and upset you to the point of no longer wanting to be friends with them, then let it go. In time you will learn to forgive. If you more concerned about no longer having this friend in your life, then confronting her (in a very positive and tactful way) will help them understand the pain that they have caused you.
So I ask you a question, do you miss their friendship or just want to know what else they lied about? If it is the first, then call her/him...if it's the latter then move on and forget!
if the relationship is dead with no chance of resolution then there would be little point in confrontation. this may just increase ur anger towards them if u dont recieve the feedback u expect.
try writing a letter to this person, flood all ur anger into the letter, ask all the questions u want to ask, tell them exactly how it made u feel when they lied and ruined ur relationship.
when its done u can then make the decision to send the letter or simply tear it up and throw it away and use this symbolically for what u must do in ur mind, and throw away ur anger.
it is not a healthy emotion to store and if the relationship is never going to repair u need to try and move on from it, if u continue to dwell on these feelings they will grow and comsume u.
Been there, so I know what you're going through. One idea is to go jogging or work out, that actually will help you get rid of some of it, endorphins and all that.
Another idea is to write them a letter BUT don't mail or email it. Just save it for a few days. This will get your feelings out where you can look at them later, and not burn any bridges. You can send it later or delete it, or whatever. I've done this and it really helps, I ended up deleting it because I didn't feel like wasting any more time or energy on the liar.
A third idea is just to hang out with other people who you know are honest, get your mind off it, and have some fun. Sounds lame I know but again, it helps because you're not allowing the liar to bring you down any more.
Best wishes.
Take a walk, consult a friend, go on line and ask on answers. Lieying is a spontaneous response to the reasoning "they have nothing else to say, or don't know how else to put things." There are trying to protect your feelings, but meanwhile they hurt you. They don't seem to realize what they really did. Forgive that person, and make sure they realize don't do it again. Good Luck
You've gotten some great answers already. That has happened to me before, and the anger and hurt is overwhelming. I didn't have to worry about confronting them, though since the confrontation happened instantaneously. Now I'm still in disbelief when I look back on it, and I can't understand why they did that to me, but I've learned that it is really more about them than it is about me.
To answer your question, I think that forgiveness and anger release is greatly helped by faith. Also, it helps me to think about the wrongs that I've done, and how easy it really is to deceive and hurt another person. They probably never intended to affect you as much as they have. It was probably quite careless, and did not require very much conscious thought. People who lie do not consider consequences.
Keep in mind that they deserve your forgiveness as much as you deserve forgiveness for all of your sins and crimes. It's likely that you in your lifetime have done something at least as harmful as what they have done to you. Forgive the way God forgives. And remember not to let other people's actions affect your life too much.
this is what I do and it sounds goofy but it works..Look in the mirror and pretend you are talking to this person and let loose. tell them everything you feel I mean let loose and say everything I have done this for years and it works..good luck
Definatly confront them. You need to let them know how you feel and what you found out and how. That will let so much anger go, you wouldn't believe! Plus keeping that bottled up inside isn't good anyway. No matter how long it's been, they need to know how you feel. Good Luck.
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