Why am I such a jealous person?
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One of the key ways to change something is to first acknowledge it and it seems you have done this and that you are able to not let your inner thoughts affect others (if they say you are a lovely person).
Reacting to other people's words is only natural, what you need to decide is how you are going to react. You seem to have both positive and negative reactions all mixed together in your response to the driving test. How about ordering them so that your first reaction might be annoyed that she passed first time but then a reminder that whether it was first or second time you have the same achievemnet (ie you have passed too- fact) and then add a reason why you are pleased for her and tell her.
Try over time time to not dwell on the first negative reaction (ackowledge it but then move on) and spend more time thinking about the second two positive reactions (this will help to subconciously change how you naturally react in the future).
Points to remember -
1. it will take time
2. keep doing it however strong you initial negative re-action seems to be.
3. perhaps she was annoyed that you passed before her - ie from her point of view you were the one with the greater achievement
4 Lives experinces can be used positivily eg you are now if a good position to cheer somebody up who fails first time and talk to them about how you felt but how you kept going and passed second time
5 and finally - failing that first time might have mended a driving fault which has stopped you being in a serious accident we don't always know what good has come from something that initially seems bad.
Sorry but you really need to get over yourself - why can't you be pleased for others achievements !
I'm not sure how you would change it really, look at your achievements and accomplishments more oftern, maybe you don'[t feel people make a fuss when you accomplish something.
Could be more that you are unsure about yourself bit of low self esteem or just plain spoilt ! however maybe the change will be natural now you are aware of this little slight charachter flaw.
You both can drive NO? so who care? you are insecure, why do you need to compare your life with others? Everyone is different.
you are comparing yourself with others-stop it and you will not get very jealous
maybe its stems from you being a bit insecure?
even though it sounds like you are successful.
It is probably linked to low self-esteem, so it would be useful for you to look back over your life and try and understand why you may have low self-esteem.
What you are feeling is quite normal - for people to be a little bit jealous of other people's achievements, but it does appear to be accentuated in your case.
A key factor in your favour is that you are aware of the problem and want to change it. It may just be that if you persevere with this willingness and desire to change, it will eventually happen - it is unlikely that there is a nice 'n' easy quick fix.
seems to me your young and have always felt or competed with others,
and yes you do seem to be somewhat emotional,
here is what i believe might help you,
try to get your emotions under control and then talk with a professional about them if they still bother u,
or your could try to do more with what you consider yourself to be your imperfections,
sometimes people see others better or smarter because they lack in there own self confidence and feel they do not try hard enough,
one day stand in front of your mirror and take a long look at you and what u want in life,
then go for that and don't look at what others have only what you are working towards, maybe it just your unsettling lack of insight and indecision about what u really want!
so some have a tendency of looking at what others have and say I wish I had that
it's not jealousy
it's a lack of your own choices and determination within your own life.
Is it possible that your parents did not praise you enough on your achievements? Or were overly critical? Is it possible you felt they favored a sibling, or a cousin over your achievements.
I know I am the same way. and believe it stems from that in my case. But admitting a fault in yourself is half the battle. I believe you when you say you are happy for them even though you say you feel jealous. I believe the word is envious, not jealousy.
Don't beat yourself up about it. You are handling it well, and the more you work on it the more you will get over it eventually. You know rationally it is wrong, but emotionally it's upsetting. We all have our faults, no one is perfect.
You do have a great attribute which is being honest with yourself. You are very lucky to have it in your personality.
Just think about it, there might be someone out there that is jealous, or envious of you?
don't compare yourself to others ,or you will become vain or bitter..... as there will always be greater and lesser than you
forgive yourself for your shortcomings .as you would others for theirs
jealousy comes from insecurity
if you work on your slf confidnce and register you abilities you will find the jealousy disappears
Yes, you really need to stop thinking of yourself as the centre of the entire world, you seem like you do not acknowledge the efforts of other people, and rather than looking up to them or learning from them, you sit and pout. Well, pouting is not going to get you very far, and not going to work all of the time. I mean, I know it works for some people, but I am not one of those people. I have to work for what I have and earn what I have earned, and I owe no one anything for any of my accomplishments. That may not seem like a big deal to you, but it is called being a responsible adult, which if you're just learning to drive, means you don't have much time before the world will expect you to know how to be one, even if you're not.
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