I feel like a failure for I have done nothing but fail?
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Man, you are in a really deep funk !
You keep failing, because you have
taught yourself to FAIL, you expect it.
You are so use to failing, that it has
become a part of you. You sound so
deeply depressed you should seek
professional help. talk to a doctor as
soon as possible or see a shrink.
(FAILURE IS NOT AN OPTION)
whats your question?
Remember this, winners don't quit, and quitters won't win.
If what you have been doing don't work, try another approach. Another good thing is to get feedbacks from people, co-workers, bosses and etc. However, you need to be ready to accept criticisms. Being a book smart alone is not going to help. What you know is not important, and it's a fact. How you use what you know makes you a wise person.
This is good. You have the first step down, which is writing out everything you feel. Step two is critically examining what it is you don't like about your life. Step three is changing them. You clearly have the will to do it. You want change, so make it happen! You can do it.
Life is a constant failure.
What's important is to learn from those failures and come back better and stronger. Don't just take a loss for a loss... take a loss as a chance to better yourself. Learn from your mistakes and do not do them again. Just do it... I don't care if you're a women or a man... MAN UP!! Grow up and get it done... that's all you can do. The only other option is to crawl into a hole and stay there.
It sounds to me like your self esteem is in the gutter. I have had this problem for a long time as well. I have found that I have a learning disability that makes learning quickly difficult for me. Do you find that when you talk to someone that you learn better by working with your hands or do you learn quicker by listening to someone and then repeating what they said in your own words? If you find that working with your hands helps you to understand things quicker then you should look for work in a field where you work with your hands. Try to find something that you really like and then work on that. As for your laziness you need to work on ways to motivate yourself.
oh poor you eat some worms then you'll die and they'll all be sorry they picked on you get some help and learn how to stop being a victim of your own faults
You have my condolences, having a life that you're unhappy with is a very crappy thing. It's very hard sometimes to figure out what you've done right or to see what you're truly worth. I suggest talking to a psychiatrist or therapist, there might be some underlying neurological cause that is making you feel this way such as depression, or maybe you just need to talk to somebody about it. I also recommend getting a dog or cat or some sort of pet to show affection to. They can make you feel needed and loves and it doesn't matter if you feel like a failure at everything else because they love you and don't even see your self-proclaimed flaws. There's no easy way to deal with feelings like that, and it's very hard sometimes to NOT feel that way if your life hasn't been the story book beautiful kind that it seems like many peoples are. Try making a list of all of your good points, maybe your sense of human, your eyes, your vast knowledge on 18th century history, whatever it is that you DO like, focus on that and try to get through the issues that are making you unhappy. I wish you good luck with the utmost sincerity, I'm sure you're a wonderful person, you just need to start realizing it.
I had a lot of jobs too, for different reasons.
It's hard to find the right place for everyone.
The best trick I have so far is to know myself: what I like, what I does not like. What I'm good at doing it, what I'm not.
Doing trips in another city, country, often help knowing ourselves.
Just keep trying, have the courage to face the realty and Go find your place, 'cause you have one!
Personally I can identify with you.
It wasn't until I became in volunteerism that I gained any semblance of self worth.
I don't make the issue about me anymore, it's how I can help others. The times I do this, people are glad I'm there.
There is no hidden agenda, other than it makes me feel good to make nameless other feel good.
Change perspective, and others perspective of you will change as well.
I'm happier now. Volunteers don't get fired, they're needed and respected.
Why not apply for financial aid--and go back to school to learn a new, interesting field of work. The community colleges have certificate programs that don't take really long--and they help you find a job. (Examples: nursing assistant, pharmacy technician, truck driver, EMT, cake and candy maker, social service worker, management, real estate, administrative assistant/secretary--all kinds of classes--many more than I have listed).
As far as your job dislikes and problems go--take a trip to the library and check out books on self-esteem, self-confidence, how to be a success, positive affirmations, uncluttering your life/organizational skills, etc.
I wish you luck, and a new job that you will really like and do well at. :)
First you need to accentuate the positives in your life. Then you eliminate the negatives meaning to get rid of them. Surround yourself with positives and each morning when you arise tell yourself that you feel happy healthy and wonderful. If you do this then in the not to distant future you will find positive people starting to come around you and you will feel better. This is what will help you, Amigo, as you have a serious self-esteem issue! Once you overcome this then your life will get better. Learn to use spell check, it is free!
Hi there,
Losing hurts. Unfortunately, losing can be habitual - as addictive as smoking, alcohol, or cheeseburgers. However, very few people who "lose" are "losers". There are many reasons people "lose" or "fail", but most boil down to some deep fear a person has about his or her environment.
Fear is pervasive and part of daily life. It keeps us from doing things that might get us killed, but it also holds us back. Fear is an emotion in a deep, ancient part of our brain - the part we share with all animals. I sense you have a great deal of fear - more than most. For many, it helps to learn that the laziness they feel is actually a complex chemical reaction occuring in your brain. It is "your body" but not "your fault".
So how does this all help you overcome your problems holding down a job? The reason fear is addressed first is because fear is probably at the core of all your problems. It can help immensly to be honest with yourself and figure out exactly what your afraid of!
For many people with similar circumstances, such introspection reveals they are actually afraid of not acheiving self-actualization. This is a fancy way of saying "I'm afraid my life won't mean anything to anyone - but especially to me...I'm afraid I won't 'matter' ."
It isn't narcissistic to be afraid of this. You probably encountered "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs" sometime in grade school (if you didn't, a link is included in the source list). Well, Maslow places self-esteem as a prerequisite for self-actualization. In other words, he says, before you can actually "find yourself" you have to "believe in yourself".
I'm venturing here: you don't really know exactly who you are, right? And you sit around, completely competent and actually ready to succeed, but for some reason you can't "make it happen." You might get really really excited each time you get a new job - each time your "slate gets cleaned". A fresh start - but then you're "old self" creeps back into the picture and, predictably, you lose your job and fall back into depression. I may not be firing on all cylinders with that, but I hope I'm grabbing the gist of it.
So, in summary - I think you have a fear of seeing yourself win. That's really great if its true - because its one of the easiest and most rewarding problems to overcome.
I'm going to leave you with two tasks to get you started on the road to success.
Task 1:
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Sit down with a pen and paper, and write down every single job you've ever had. Now, take that sheet of paper, and paste it up on a clear wallspace. Sit back down and take out another sheet of paper. On it, write down every single job you've ever Wanted to have. This is free-association, so there are no rules. If you wanted to be an astronaut, by all means, write this down boldy. Write them all down, and spend some time on this because you may have forgotten all of your career dreams. Now put that paper on the wall to the right of the first one. On the next sheet of paper, write down your personal goals (financial, marital, do you want kids...at what age do you want to retire, etc...). Put this paper up to the right of the second paper. Now, looking hard at the second and third papers, decide which career "dreams" on the left have any realistic chance of matching up with the goals on the right. Circle those. At this point you have a starting board...those are your "true love" jobs which will also satisfy your other personal goals.
Task 2:
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Now you've got to find out Who You Are. "Great," I can hear you sighing, "If it were that easy, I wouldn't expose my failure to the whole world on FunQA.com!" I understand. What I'm suggesting is really helpful though - I'm asking you to find out what your "Personality Profile" is. This is typically revealed to you through something called the "Myers-Briggs Personality Test". You can find these online, but I think they're pretty worthless. Unless you visit an accredited psychologist, the best way to figure out your personality type is by reading the "profiles" of all the different types. They can be found at a link included in the source list. Read them all if you have no idea what I'm talking about. Once you read the right profile, you'll know it, because every third or fourth word you'll get goosebumps and say to yourself "Yes, that's me!" If you've never done this, it can be quite cathartic. Now, when you've found your personality profile, scroll down to the bottom of that page and click the "Careers for" link (its the blue set of arrows). See if any of those careers are ones that coincide with those you circled above. If they don't, that's ok. I'd trust both the profile careers and your own heart. If they Do - that's really terrific. It means you've "hit on it". You should really seize that career and pursue it. There's no guarantee the career will be your saving grace, but you have a far better chance of succeeding because of the research and contemplation involved in your search...this time you'll succeed because you're coming at it from and informed and passionate angle. Good luck!
--- John
i starred ur question. i hope u get better answers. but this is wat i have to say:
maybe u should just find a job where u don't have to be so much of a people person. like a job online. and if u need help during job interviews, just practice with a friend.
u can work for yahoo too.
Look deep into the things you are passionate about, not what others think you are interested. The things you are passionate about are the thing you will be able to succeed in. Just a little spriritual guidance will let you see the things that there are things you are already accomplishing, besides your career goals. It is important that you use these things you are good at to feel better about yourself. Everyone has something that they are good at and everyone has a at least one quality that everyone looks at in admiration. You are really coming down hard on yourself, but you should realize we all make mistakes. The fact that you are taking account for yours show you are already on the right path.
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