I envy people who get along with groups of people. How do you, get along with the group? My friendships style
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Bethany,
Here in the U.S. we are much too casual in our use of the word friendship. I get along well with my co-workers/colleagues. We are friendly and courteous, however, we are not personal friends.
I was good at finding or forming groups when on campus.
The purpose of these groups was to give some social relief from the stress of studies. There was no long term commitment or pressure to be friends for ever.
I am good with groups because I have realistic expectation of the group. I am aware of the group dynamics and how the slightest change can impact the group. ( When working with a group, part of me is always "the observer")
When you observe an group from the outside, you are seeing only the tip of the ice berg. Some groups can be fun or productive, however, if you look closely there may be nothing there to envy. Close personal friendship is not often the main objective of a group.
One of my psychology prof stated that people can maintain only a limited number of close personal relationships. So with your one or two good friends you are very normal.
I have about 5 really close friends, and everyone else isn't really my friend, but I view them as acquaintances. I get a long with the people other than my close friends by just trying to make them laugh. If someone thinks you're funny, odds are they're going to get along with you, at least for a little while.
...just enjoy people.the rest takes care of itself...but there is always going to be a bad one or two.
Don't envy them. The way you get along with a group is to accept everyone around you. I have the same friendship style as you. People like you and me know how to form our own opinions.
I don't have the answer to this question. While I have a lot of friends, I prefer to hang out with them one-on-one. The only time I like being around groups (not in them) is when I'm performing (singing) and everyone is watching me. I really don't like having to deal with people and their drama and deciding on a suitable activity for a whole bunch of people who all want to do something different. Don't feel envious; there's nothing wrong with your style. In fact, I suspect that your friendships are more mutually satisfying than most.
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