How can I deal with homosexual verbal harassment in college?
Recently, people call me," lesbian." I really don't know what to do. I think people get worse and worse. People used to call me ," gay" and now they call me, " lesbian." They really want to mess up my life. The students who used to hang out with me don't even talk to me and when I walk on the school hall, people talk **** about me. Recently, I'm very depressed and can't cotrol my anger. I got paranoid easily and can't foucs on my study.
I don't know what to do....really. How come people become so malicious and cruel....
Answer:
I'm sorry to hear about this, some people can just be so obnoxious. Tell your parents, or your teacher in confidence about this so that the college can take measures on this. Bullying is wrong and it shouldn't be justified. Find friends who really care, and good luck!
Unfortunatley they just are. There is nothing you can do to change someone's perception of you. You just have to keep your head up and try to ignore them. I know how hard it must be for you. I wish you the best of luck.
If you want to be different and stand out from the crowd, then you had better grow some thicker skin... because the problem is YOU and not THEM.
I'm sry ur bi cuz i dont believe in that stuff, but i dont hurt people or discriminate against people for who or what they r...ur friends should do the same, and especially if they r ur friends they would accept u...also, u must be goin to a pretty immature college cuz ppl should learn to grow up and not waste their time on hurting others feelings...my advice to you would just be to ignore them...be proud of urself if your a good person and dont let them make u feel bad for what u r...dont be ashamed of urself...go out and find some new friends, maybe even a girlfriend/boyfriend, a person that will make you feel good and a friend u can talk to to help get ur feelings out...who cares what other ppl think as long as ur happy w/urself
People are just cruel. I would much rather be called "gay" or "lesbian" than some of the other, darker names. One of my mentors told me "You make your own reality". Also, "You are not MADE angry, you CHOOSE to BE angry" (or any other emotional response) If you CHOOSE to allow these words to upset you, then you give your power to these people. Take that power back! There are some who don't believe that there IS such a thing as "Bisexual". It is an "either or" thing for them. You're either Str8 or Gay/Lesbian. No room for in between. Since you are having issues with your feelings, I'd recommend you go and talk about this with someone at the University Counseling Center on your campus. They should be able to help you if they are competent. If they do not seem sympathetic, then insist on another counselor or go to another place for counseling. DO NOT allow anyone's bias to make you feel down or "less than". You could also see if your campus has a group for Gay/Lesbian/Bi/Trans/Questioni... persons. Join that and get some "back up". Mostly, don't allow others to have that much power over you. You are who YOU are and F*** the others. If your "friends" won't talk to you now, they were not real friends in the first place. Make new TRUE friends. Perhaps transfer to a more liberal college in Cali. Hope this helps. I am sure you have a lot to offer people. You just need to decide if these people deserve what you have to offer.
i am very sorry to hear about your situation. It is definitely a tough situation to be in but the good news is, you will come out of this stronger. My best friends is gay and i like him because he has a very strong sense of personal identity. That is what happens when you go through adversity like this. Believe it or not, as bad as the treatment you are getting from others is, the cure actually lies within you. At your age (which i assume is 17-24), personal identity is something people struggle with. I got mad fun of as well in high school and i realized later in life that it affected me because i did not know who i was and i was confused about what i was doing ie i felt like a bad person and so when i was called a bad person it bothered me. We both know that you are bi because that is what you are predisposed to, not because you are a bad person or because you are trying to piss people off. This is what you have to come to terms with. it is hard esp at this time that you are trying to figure out who you really are but it's something that you have to do. The people that call you names are callous and insensitive but the fix lies within you, not them. good luck and feel free to email me. The link is on my profile page
sticks and stones will break my bones, but names?
Listen ...insults are like compliments; they only affect you if you take them.
I hope you understand.
drop out or change your lifestyle
The answers post by the user, for information only, FunQA.com does not guarantee the right.
More Questions and Answers: