Do you have the ability to calm yourself down in minutes?
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It depends on the degree of anger, most of life's little irritations are nothing to me. When a very meaningful issue tests my emotions, I look at the source of my anger and accept the emotion and figure out how to use it productively. I use relaxation tricks, positive imaging, and also I never take anything too personally even if someone is singling me out, I just again, look at the source and go on. In 100 years it will not matter if I got angry or not. What matters is how much peace and contentment I can bring into my life at all times.
Yep, not only that but I don't get angry in the first place.
There are many reasons and most of it has to do with discipline.
One big reason is this... I don't angered by accidents. Only if someone wants to make me angry, will I get angry.
But, only a foolish idiot would do such a thing and I disregard foolish idiots and anything they say because it's just nonsense and meaningless.
I close my eyes and forget all my problems take a deep breath and scream internally
Mostly I focus on the issue at hand and put my emotions in the background. I count and I breathe until I am thinking about the counting and breathing. Whatever has happened to urk me is allowed in my thoughts again and I calmly think it through. Now this is if I am on my own.
If I am engaged in conversation or confrontation, it is way more difficult. I concentrate on not raising my voice and getting control of my emotions. I will say something like "I need to think this through before I continue" and just wait a bit longer to completely calm down
After oh I don't know... 4 anger management courses, the most valuable thing I have learned is knowing my own bodies signals and catching myself before it's to late believe it or not If my ears start ringing thats my early warning sign, the body is never wrong, that said it's different for everyone and you just have to sit down and think about your personal physical cues or changes (stages) of anger once you have mastered that you are no longer grasshopper......
The thing that acts like magic is laughter.
but doesn't work all the time.
to calm down myself and the person speaking to me, i try to focus on the words of my interlocutor or on my own words. most of the time the words are funny. to relieve the tension, i'd repeat the words to her/him in case they are close people to me, we end up laughing at ourselves.
If you cant do anything about it. Why worry about it? If he pisses me off, being mad isn’t going to stop it. Crying if someone dies isn’t going to bring them back. So I don’t get mad coz I didn’t want to be mad. I believe emotions are self generated effect to specific scenarios.
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