Womanizers and reasons?
Why not just tell the women they aren't the only one and be upfront about it?
Or is it a hurt and humilate thing?
Answer:
As a reformed womanizer I can only tell you my reasons. I can't speak for all of males but I do know that MANY of my friends felt the same as I did over the years.
Back in high school ( and earlier ) we watched as the jerks got the girls and the nice guys got their hearts broke. Time after time, these same girls would complain about how they were treated and then go back to the very same guys, or at the very least the same type of guy.
Now me, not being completely stupid but being stupid enough to think I could enjoy being with someone who would allow me to treat her badly, pick up on this and changed the way I behaved around women.
I pretended for a long time until my attitude became second nature. I was arrogant, crass, vulgar, insensitive and , well , downright mean sometimes.
I flipped roles with the girls I dated by placing all responsibility for the relationship directly in their laps. THEY called ME, not the other way around. I decided what movie we would see, not them. And I often convinced them to pay for the dates as well.
I even played a game. After about the third date, I would start a fight with a girl. Sometimes about nothing. And then I would talk circles around her until I convinced her the fight was completely her fault and get her to apologize to me.
And you know what I found out?
Everytime I tired of this and just tried to be myself and tried to be nice to a girl. She treated me horribly. But EVERY girl I treated badly said she loved me. EVERY ONE!
But the truth is. I often found women would would step on the hearts of my "nice guy" friends to be with the jerk I was. I was astonished everytime these women would tell me abotu the guy they really wanted because it was my friend, but not me. But they were more interested in me because my " I dont care about you " attitude translated into confidence that they wanted to be around.
And If I behaved humbly and nicely and respectfully, nothing. I got no where fast. I was regulated to the category of " just friends" and then nothing would change that. But if I was a jerk, I got her to be my girlfriend in no time flat.
Eventually I got older and I realized I had absolutely no repsect for the women I dated and decided to stop dating completely. My friends all thought I was nuts as I would turn down women who wanted to date me, but I just felt like I couldnt respect any of them so why bother?
Then one day my wife came into my life and changed everything. She is someone I respect deeply and enjoy being around almost 99.9% of the time ( everyone gets on each others nerves once in a while hehe ) She is intelligent and fun and has a quick wit that keeps me in my place if I start to get ornry. And THAT is what I LOVE about her the most. She doesnt put up with my
bulls%@t! She calls me on all of it and doesn't let me get away with it.
Why?
because she knows her worth. She KNOWS she is a catch. And that ANY man would be stupid to treat her badly and lose her.
Its THAT attitude which makes me love her more than anything else and its THAT attitude which makes me want to treat her like the beautiful, wonderful, compassionate being that she is.
be THAT person and the guy you REALLY want to be with will find you and never let you go. And the jerks who treat you like the catch of the day will vanish quickly.
its about wasting a good thing
thoes priks want it all
and when they can get they go for it
Because if you TELL a woman upfront that she is only being used as a sperm depository, most (but not all) are smart enough not to get used in the first place.
wow, well i understand where you women are coming from,(im not a cheater by the way), but I do have to say that sometimes you women can be FAR more difficult than you realize, because you are so used to being women its something you just wouldnt understand. IM NOT OKing IT, there are plenty of men out there that are complete DISCUSTING PIGS, but there are also women like that too... you shouldnt make your question sooooo broad, its just an attack out of frustration... i dont sympathize you, but i do have empathy for you(lol, from a previous question). Sorry :( im guessing you're having man problems, go tell him to shove a dil*o up his you know what. and stop making such a bad label for the rest of us!
Reasons:
They can't stop at one. An Addiction, its a game to them to score and move on and keep track of how many loose women they can find.
It's a DNA gene, keep spreading their DNA. Have more children than the next guy without the child support.
Another game in their mind. They the guys probably don't think the cost of living to up-bring a kid at all. And just disappear!
They are just trying to keep their options open in case they get bored or dumped by one women. They also can't resist chatting up women, they love the feeling it gives them and therefore do it as much as possible.
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