Why are people so passive aggressive?
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Most passive-aggressive people were severely punished for being open and honest, or they were in an environment that others had penalties for being honest, so when they become adults, the habit and the fear that something catastrophic will happen if they tell you directly, is always present. Address the issue directly and remember to make a passive-aggressive person feel safe enough to tell you. It may take awhile but if you show them you can deal with hard issues without losing it, you may slowly convince them.
i think maybe they are self concious and admitting there problems might be embarassing, hopefully as time goes on youll change, i use to be like that too when i was about 14-16, im 19 now and have been through mental and physical obstacles and now my flaws have cured themselves
"Theres a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did, and who always will."
Lots of folks are afraid to speak openly so they act secretly to get even.
Not a healthy way to live, but lots of folks choose this way to live.
They are afraid of standing up for themselves and that the person they are addressing may put them down, fire them or break up with them.
A lot of people that I treat who are passive-aggressive are involved with control freaks, and fear is a big part of the problem.
It is much easier to deal with the issues as they arise in my opinion.
Good question!!
Maybe they think you have more than they do and for this reason they choose not to speak to you anymore knowing it will hurt you. It's their only way of getting back at you. I'm pretty familiar with this same issue but life goes on!
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Maybe they are not pretending nor are they afraid.
Not all people are into confrontation.
If you had done or said something to offend surely you would have an idea of what it is.
Have you not stopped to think , they are giving you your privacy.
Take care!
they don't feel like sharing there feelings because they feel it will complicate they're relationship with who ever there sharing with
The most 'successful' people manipulate and lie their way to the top. If you deal with problems head on and always speak in clear terms, you never have any chance of making the 'big time'. They are afraid of not being successful.
sometimes it is not a case of fear, rather not knowing how to deal with the problem, or even how to express it, sometimes the problem is buried so far back in the recesses of the memory, they are not aware of the stresses that have caused the problem in the first place
so they are for the most part unaware until something happens to trigger it, try to see if you can find a pattern in those triggers and then sit and talk about it, that may well be the only way to try to solve it, without counseling
all the best, Hope this helps
Hey, i been there, its crazy! Wow. Anyway, it depends. If this person is male or female, and whether or not you are in a relationship with them, or a close friend.
Well on one end of the spectrum, it could be that this person knows something and doesn't want to hurt you, so they're holding out as long as possible. On the other end, they could be just acting plain old rude, and sometimes they are generally the one's that end up having a 18 wheeler full of issues, and the problem is so big they dont even realize it themselves.
I say, stay true to yourself, and if they are truly a friend, they'll come around, and if not oh well. But don't make yourself so available to people who do that to you. You are special too!
Well, i hope i helped. Stay cool. Don't sweat the small stuff. There are still good people out there.
sincerely/
Ted
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