Is it acceptable to Forget about someone with BPD?

My mother has Boarderline Personality Disorder, and for the past year and a half, my life has been hell. She claims that all of her problems are brought on by my dad, me, and my sister. She moved out to become "independant". My parents are still married, but seperated. A few months ago, I stopped talking to my mom altogether. I know that this is not good for her social development and treatment (which she does not pursue at all) but can you blame me?

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Treatment
Self-destructive behavior can be changed in social and therapeutic environments such as group therapy. Peer reinforcement of appropriate behavior may be more successful than one-on-one counseling because difficulties with authority figures often prevent learning in such situations. Group therapy can also be helpful in modifying specific impulsive behaviors.

Medications can help to level mood swings and to treat depression or other disorders which may accompany this condition.

Expectations (prognosis)
Borderline personality disorder has a poor outlook because noncompliance with treatment is common.

Sometimes you have to cut your losses and move on with life. I have a sister who's the same way. If they won't help themselves, they're just going to make your life miserable. She shouldn't blame everything on those around her, unless you're all terrible people. In that case, leave her alone to let HER move on away from you.

If your Mom is having such a mental meltdown, what is your real role in the situation? What, if anything, can you do to help her? If cutting off all communication is valid, then by all means, do so. If it means you are doing harm, then think carefully about it before you go that route. I say this because if you are adding to the problem, will you eventually be angry with yourself for not helping her when she needed it?
Only you can answer that question.

And it is a question that directly relates to YOUR feelings and not hers. She is ill. You know it. Can you help her? Is it possible for you? Would she drag you under by dealing with her? Are you strong enough for the battle? Are you armed with information and understanding?
Just asking the important questions here, that I am sure you have already buzzing around in your head. I would encourage you to look into the matter more fully.
But if you can't do it..then don't feel any guilt. Sometimes we cannot save a drowning person if we cannot swim strongly ourselves.
Best of luck. This is a very thorny situation. I do not envy you!

If your mother was trying to get help, I would say you should be there for her. But if she is playing the blame game and not following her doctor's reccomendations, then I say take of yourself and let her go

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