What do you think is wrong with a 48 yr old female who lives w/parents?
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There are four reasons I feel a woman of that age would continue to live with parents:
VOLUNTARILY-Out of no sense of duty or obligation,she may see that the parents need her help and does not mind staying to care for them;especially if there is no other significant person or outside interest that would prevent her from making that decision. She loves staying there and the parents are happy she remains there.
FEAR and LACK of PREPAREDNESS: A taste of the real world gave her "cold feet"! If it is easier to run back home when times get hard;jump in your "booties" as well as being under the security blanket of the parents home,and it doesn't feel good to be a failure,..why try again ? It is unfortunate that many too anxious to leave home to early, despite their parents better jugment,...didn't LISTEN!
PARENTAL MUNIPULATION: Sad to say that many parents today who have never grown to maturity themselves feel that their children are "obligated" to take care of them!. and can do a very good job of convincing them! Many parents deliberately and selfishly place their children in bondage and hold them hostage with guilt, shame and a false sense of obligation. Such as: "you don't love me","You love him/her better than you love me;" "you're suppose to honor me," "after all I've done for you,you treat me this way"? "see if I leave you anything if I die"!...etc. The children give in believing they must always love,honor, respect and obey the parents,.. no matter what; many not knowing that parents have an "obligation" to children as well.(according to the book of Ephesians, 6th chpt,1-4 vs. in the bible). Many children progressed to various levels of abuse out of their hostility, resentment and pressure from others to care for the parents.
ILL-GOTTEN -GAIN: Many children are guilty of taking advantage of the parents;they don't want to pay for rent, bills,or any of the other essentials for everyday living;and they still don't save any money??.. just live off mom & dad. Some remain home to wedge out other siblings or relatives from any money,property or other form of inheritance they feel entitled to..? Those in this catergory,but not all,can ultimately progress also to neglecting and abusing the parents because they were not,. caring for them for the right reasons!
If she is all alone, maybe she is lonely?
It still cost an arm and a leg to live out there, maybe finances still has something to do with it also.
Maybe her parents are getting along in age and she is worried about them?
Who Knows....
probably hiding from the world,and i like the last answer too,in the old days we all lived in big farm houses with all our families,what's wrong with that
Well, if she's 48, she could very well be taking care of her parents instead of sponging off of them.
I mean - if she's 48, then her parents must be at least around 20 years older. So that would make one or both almost 70.
You never know the circumstances, so don't be too quick to judge about what's wrong. It might be that she's caring for her parents well-being the way they once helped her.
fear,probably getting out into the world alone is really frightening for some people.
I know a woman who never did move on her own. She's got to be about 43 or 45. Her father passed away now she lives w/her mom. They adopted their nieces and nephews (looks like around 4 or 5 of them). She works for a court house, her mom is a nurse, they are rich. This day and age I think it's becoming less frowned upon.
More importantly, we are we judging the way she lives her life?
I don't think that anything is wrong with a 48 yr old female living with her parents.
First of all, I admire and respect parents who would take in their adult child and help them as much as possible. Especially, if the adult child is a female.
Are you a friend or a relative? In any event, I think that you are jealous and should mind your own business.
The 48 yr old female is extremely fortunate that she has family who love her enough to not care how old she is. That's what family is all about. At what age do you suggest that family should be unavailable to help their child? I don't care if the "child" is 80 years old; she is still their child.
I feel sorry for you because apparently you have not had the opportunity to experience what a close family is. When one of you needs help, everybody comes together.
When you have a child of your own, perhaps then you will find out what real love is.
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