I am a mess... please help!?
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if you really look hard at your situation, you will see that the man you want is not done fixing his past relationship. he can't be with you 100% if he did not close that chapter in his past. give him space and let him do something to settle what was in his past before you guys can really move on together as a couple.
if you love this man, than there wouldnt be a question... that or the question wouldnt have many complications, what im saying is that, thats a lot of drama. you dont have to work things out for him, hes causing a lot of confusion in your life, if not confusion then something negative. you can cut you losses and find a better man, or you can keep dealing with this nonsense
girls just fall hard. we love unconditionally. that's why we get ourselves into these situations. but i think if he doesn't really love you the way you love him you should end it. i mean be completely through because you deserve good things. a relationship is 50 50. give and take. he has to meet you half way. but he can't do that because he's too busy having to deal with another family. you aren't getting all his attention. you are giving and he's taking. that's not the way it should be. females hold on to the things that they should a lot of times just let go of. so just think about that. are you really happy or do you think you deserve better?
You certainly love that man and he kind of cares for you, watching over you at hospital, but do you think that's the best on earth for you right now? Reading you, I sense that you need stability in your life and this man isn't even stable himself. he has a family, you need someone who will be ready to have one with you, it is difficult but you have to let go for the best to come your way!
Best wishes
Your not crazy. It may be possible that you love him, but he's not the right one for you. If his behavior is something you think you can deal with, then it may be worth it. In my opinion, you could be missing out on something better if you waste your energy on him. Best wishes!
Cut him loose. He wants to jump around too much and all of you ladies are allowing him to do it. Take a stand, and as far as I would be concerned his stand is he's not serious about the relationship. You can do better than him. Get out now and don't waste any more time.
the advice of what i would do. let him go. his life is full of drama and he needs a scapegoat, and you are it. your life needs to be filed with very positive things. not so much wishy-washy and that is what he is doing to you. love is supose to make you feel good. how can you feel good with so much drama. really sit down and make a list of pros and cons of being with this man. and that will tell you what to do. good luck to you.
The big question here is how he feels about you. Have a talk with him. Let him know how you feel, and ask him how he feels. If he says he wants to be with you, then his actions will show if he really means it. If he doesn't hold the same feels, move on. If he doesn't follow through with what he said, move on.
see a therapist.
You can love someone who isn't good for you, and that seems to be what's happening. Just my opinion, but this guy sounds like a player. He moved in with someone else while dating you. He then moved in with another woman (his children's mother). How many other women is he involved with, and you don't even know?
It can be tough to let go of someone with whom you really connect - been there, done that. But my advice is to step outside of this and look at it from an outsider's point of view. This man isn't good for you, and he obviously isn't interested in committing. Do yourself a favor and walk away. You CAN do it. Make yourself available to find someone who will really and truly care about you!
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