How do you learn to let things "roll off your shoulders?"?
Answer:
Learn to accept that you are not responsible for how other people feel. Furthermore, learn to listen more to the words people say than how they sound.
We can barely control our own feelings and, then, only with a lot of training and effort. If others become angry with you, disappointed, upset, or whatever, that is their responsibility. You can't ever control that.
Don't, of course, go through life not caring about others but don't let their emotions become your responsibility either.
A lot of times people say things that we interpret negatively. My grandmother is the queen of the ambiguous statement. "My, Lanie, that's an INTERESTING outfit you're wearing." She stresses it just right to make it clear she disapproves. I ignore her implications and hear only the words. I simply say "thank you" and choose to hear "interesting" as a compliment.
Don't try to guess what people mean by their tone of voice. Don't try to give different meanings to their words. Simply trust that they have the wit to use the words they choose and not mean anything else.
It's their problem if they don't have the confidence to say what they mean just as it is their problem if they can't hear what you are saying and react as if you meant harm.
You just can't control everything so why should you beat yourself up trying to?
It is learning not to give a damn. It can be very freeing. ~
Prozac.
But seriously, the best way is simply to stop trying to impress or sell yourself to others. Just don't are what they think anymore, and you stop stressing about the things they say.
Life is a lot easier that way.
Y do U care about what people think of U, fu.ck them they can go suck a di.ck if they don't like who u r. got me?
you realize that nothing really matters.
pretend it is all a joke. Or busy yourself in something else so you won't think too hard on something. It's just about relaxing and not really taking anything too seriously.
I guess its easier said than done ..right.
Well..Its hard to be thick skinned when we sympathize and emphathize with our subjects..(people, things etc)
All we can do is try very hard to seperate ourselves from thsese kinds of situations where someone says something and we dont want to resiprocate yet inside we are boiling and want to hurl comments at them and we end up hurting ourselves.
I think many times others have said.."toughen up" ..in our mind we just have to do that..in the process...ignore whoever hurled comments at us or did something..try not to dwell on it..quickly do something to get our minds of that matter..watch a movie to lighten up..things like that.
In life..taking things too seroiusly can hurt us but not taking things seriously can also hurt us.. We just have to find a balance.. Good Luck
Just let words rool off you like "water off the duck's back" that's all
It's a choice of taking and giving no offence. If people are offended because of your honesty - that's their problem not your's. Of course they will try to put guilt on you by varius ways Like withdrwal of approval, etc. but don't buy into them , you can't please everyone so stop trying , OK?
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