Boyfriend shows no emotions?
hes like a vegetable and hes really mean to me. I know hes had a hard life but once he got me he turned abusive. He turned ice cold. He hates being emotional or caring to anyone. Its like im not even his friend let alone girlfriend anymore. Im just there to be abused. Whats wrong with him?
Answer:
If he had a hard life, he was probably emotionally abused and maybe even physically abused. As a defense mechanism, he shut himself down emotionally. If he opens up and makes himself vulnerable to someone that he cares about, he opens himself up to the extreme pain of being rejected and hurt. He'll even feel this if you have a small disagreement. From the examples he had in his past life, he doesn't know how to express any positive emotion. He probably only knows abuse, so that's what he will give. He needs counseling. He needs to be taught how to drop his guard and open up to you or anyone else who cares about him. He needs to learn that he'll be okay even if someone rejects him. He needs to learn to be a whole person, so that he won't depend on anyone else to feel good about himself. That's what at the root of all this. He feels like a miserable, worthless human being. He feels that everyone will reject him so he pushes them away first.
Good luck to you. You will need to be very strong emotionally and spiritually to help him get better. If you are not up to it, don't hang on to him. Let him go gently and point out where he can get help.
..Bottom line...YOU NEED A NEW BOYFRIEND.
If you stay with a guy who is cold, uncaring and doesn't share his feelings, you will regret it. I guarantee it. Some people just turn out this way. Maybe he had a hard, hurtful childhood, so he learned to shove his emotions into the background. This happens to a lot of people, but you don't want to be the one to be with him. You'll never be able to change this aspect of him. It's ingrained.
Timing is important. Every minute you stay with him is a minute you aren't available to meet other men. You don't want to be unavailable when one of the many thousands of guys who are caring, compatible, capable and strong and who will think you are adorable happens to come your way.
dump him
He has a lot of deep seated issues and he is taking them out on you. Sadly he probably truly cares for you and trusts you, which is why you are being abused. My ex was a lot like that, and I tried to be there for him and be supportive, but you can't continue to let yourself be abused. He needs to want to get better, or else the behavior will never stop. He might like being miserable and having an excuse for anything that goes wrong in his life.
Tell him to cheer up, or you're gone.
well, just tell me how old is he and send a picture of him, I'll help you! my email: e_coli5@yahoo.com (as you can find)
he's crazy and you don't need to be with him at all if hes abusive, and you need fast and waste no time
you really need a new boy.sorry if any guy is abusive with you... you cant stay with him!
Find a new boyfriend. Yours, unfortunately, is mentally warped.
Don't let yourself be abused. If you're determined to change him, you have to catch him showing emotion and immediately reward him for it (basically by having a smile in your voice in whatever you say next). But it could take a long time to change his behavior and, in my opinion, it's not worth putting up with abuse to do something like this.
Dead eyes equal an empty soul.
Wow talk about serious emotional problems.
Let him go. Get a new guy. You'll be much happier and so much better and off and hopefully He'll realize exactly why he lost you and change himself. I'm sorry that you're in an abusive relationship. But trust me, the best thing to do is get out now. It doesn't get better, ever. It only gets much worse. I was in a very abusive relationship a couple of years ago and decided to bail for good when he nearly pushed me out of a third story window. Talk about scary. Realize you can do better and then follow those realizations. Good luck to you.
the real question is what's wrong with you? while are you still with him? he may have problems, but you yourself have bigger ones ( like low self esteem ) to even stay with an abusive guy. i hear about women who get abused and all they offer is excuses why they do not leave at the first sing of abuse.. you are no different should you choose to stay
any self respecting girl / women will leave at the 1st sign of abuse
Don't know for sure what is wrong with him. He needs counseling. You need to leave him. If you "can't" you need to get some help to work through it. Sticking around to be abused isn't healthy.
Whats wrong with you?! If your being abused you need to move on with your life or move out (if you live together) instead of finding what is wrong with him, can you make someone aware that they are doing something wrong? In this case NO! If you are there to be abused then let it be.
Break up with him! Whatever is wrong with him isn't your problem. Having a hard life is no excuse for abusing others. Plenty of people have very hard lives and yet are still kind and caring.
You need to consider how much you love him...what's happened to him in his life and how much he loves you. He more than likely truly cares about you and doesn't understand how to express that, or maybe even how to express anything at all.
If I were you, I would try and talk to him, tell him that you want to be with him- but only if he can get better, only if he's willing to try. You both need to understand that, at the very least, the desire to get better has to start within him. Let him know that you'll be there for him and with him but he can't keep treating you as he has been...good luck to both of you
who care's whats wrong with him!! LEAVE!! NOW!! (I promise, you will find someone else to love, someone who is willing to love you in return)
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If he had a hard life, he was probably emotionally abused and maybe even physically abused. As a defense mechanism, he shut himself down emotionally. If he opens up and makes himself vulnerable to someone that he cares about, he opens himself up to the extreme pain of being rejected and hurt. He'll even feel this if you have a small disagreement. From the examples he had in his past life, he doesn't know how to express any positive emotion. He probably only knows abuse, so that's what he will give. He needs counseling. He needs to be taught how to drop his guard and open up to you or anyone else who cares about him. He needs to learn that he'll be okay even if someone rejects him. He needs to learn to be a whole person, so that he won't depend on anyone else to feel good about himself. That's what at the root of all this. He feels like a miserable, worthless human being. He feels that everyone will reject him so he pushes them away first.
Good luck to you. You will need to be very strong emotionally and spiritually to help him get better. If you are not up to it, don't hang on to him. Let him go gently and point out where he can get help.
..Bottom line...YOU NEED A NEW BOYFRIEND.
If you stay with a guy who is cold, uncaring and doesn't share his feelings, you will regret it. I guarantee it. Some people just turn out this way. Maybe he had a hard, hurtful childhood, so he learned to shove his emotions into the background. This happens to a lot of people, but you don't want to be the one to be with him. You'll never be able to change this aspect of him. It's ingrained.
Timing is important. Every minute you stay with him is a minute you aren't available to meet other men. You don't want to be unavailable when one of the many thousands of guys who are caring, compatible, capable and strong and who will think you are adorable happens to come your way.
dump him
He has a lot of deep seated issues and he is taking them out on you. Sadly he probably truly cares for you and trusts you, which is why you are being abused. My ex was a lot like that, and I tried to be there for him and be supportive, but you can't continue to let yourself be abused. He needs to want to get better, or else the behavior will never stop. He might like being miserable and having an excuse for anything that goes wrong in his life.
Tell him to cheer up, or you're gone.
well, just tell me how old is he and send a picture of him, I'll help you! my email: e_coli5@yahoo.com (as you can find)
he's crazy and you don't need to be with him at all if hes abusive, and you need fast and waste no time
you really need a new boy.sorry if any guy is abusive with you... you cant stay with him!
Find a new boyfriend. Yours, unfortunately, is mentally warped.
Don't let yourself be abused. If you're determined to change him, you have to catch him showing emotion and immediately reward him for it (basically by having a smile in your voice in whatever you say next). But it could take a long time to change his behavior and, in my opinion, it's not worth putting up with abuse to do something like this.
Dead eyes equal an empty soul.
Wow talk about serious emotional problems.
Let him go. Get a new guy. You'll be much happier and so much better and off and hopefully He'll realize exactly why he lost you and change himself. I'm sorry that you're in an abusive relationship. But trust me, the best thing to do is get out now. It doesn't get better, ever. It only gets much worse. I was in a very abusive relationship a couple of years ago and decided to bail for good when he nearly pushed me out of a third story window. Talk about scary. Realize you can do better and then follow those realizations. Good luck to you.
the real question is what's wrong with you? while are you still with him? he may have problems, but you yourself have bigger ones ( like low self esteem ) to even stay with an abusive guy. i hear about women who get abused and all they offer is excuses why they do not leave at the first sing of abuse.. you are no different should you choose to stay
any self respecting girl / women will leave at the 1st sign of abuse
Don't know for sure what is wrong with him. He needs counseling. You need to leave him. If you "can't" you need to get some help to work through it. Sticking around to be abused isn't healthy.
Whats wrong with you?! If your being abused you need to move on with your life or move out (if you live together) instead of finding what is wrong with him, can you make someone aware that they are doing something wrong? In this case NO! If you are there to be abused then let it be.
Break up with him! Whatever is wrong with him isn't your problem. Having a hard life is no excuse for abusing others. Plenty of people have very hard lives and yet are still kind and caring.
You need to consider how much you love him...what's happened to him in his life and how much he loves you. He more than likely truly cares about you and doesn't understand how to express that, or maybe even how to express anything at all.
If I were you, I would try and talk to him, tell him that you want to be with him- but only if he can get better, only if he's willing to try. You both need to understand that, at the very least, the desire to get better has to start within him. Let him know that you'll be there for him and with him but he can't keep treating you as he has been...good luck to both of you
who care's whats wrong with him!! LEAVE!! NOW!! (I promise, you will find someone else to love, someone who is willing to love you in return)
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