How do you keep yourself from holding a grudge?
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i forgive humans once i forgive i forget there for there is no gudge! !
funny it took me 25 years to forgive my 3rd grade gym teacher for making me run an extra lap around the gym!
so i asked my self how does this effect my life today it already happend! i still hate to run, I never see the guy, it really don't have much to do with my life! if so then why did i get mad when i thought about it! almost like i was reliving it! so i stopped reliving it and forgave that teacher!
you will be amazed at how FREE you feel when you do this!
www.coping.org may be a site that will offer free help but it's hard sometimes to face yourself in face to face and being honest to your self can be hard so yeah site is interesting!
forgive inside your heart
Just let it go...its not worth it...life is too short to hold grudges
I wish I knew!
You have to forgive to let go!
Find something else to do.
Write it down then burn it.
Its hard to move on ,because this person made you angry, upset, or sad etc, but you have to remember carrying a grudge is like having a heavy bag on your shoulder. Life is long walk, and it is hard enough without the baggage, so why add any extra weight. Sometimes, I am angry because I let a someone get to me, but I remind myself that Life is a lesson taught by God.
im guilty of holding grudges. i still hold grudges that started over 10years ago. im holding a grudge on my mother now and havent spoken to hear for like a year now
When the grudge turns into an animal or insect and bites you in your dreams and productive life. You suddenly want to drop that piece of meat , yes it was a piece of flesh you take from another to begrudge them of life, held in your hand it turned into many things to rot there. but even though you held that grudge against another person ,they did not receive the sting of your bite, you hold that all for your own delight.
It can take a long time for some people to realize the domino effect of their own words and actions can create chaos in someone else's life. You can't control their learning process. All you can do is tell them how they had a negative effect on you and try to not give them the same opportunity again. As you progress into a bigger and better person which will show in your own relationships and they do not grow but instead stay stuck in their bad behavior may possibly be a way to help them learn to be a better person. This is a slow process so you have to really ignore a lot of that person's inadequacies in the process.
ppl usually hold grudges bcuz they need to express their emotion concerning the event or the person on whom they're grudging but they have no outlet
whatever is bothering u,talk it out.the person may not want to hear,they may find u're making a big deal out of nothing or they may not see the effect it is having on u but at least when u begin the process of talking it out u kno u've tried.u've tried to gain closure.
so someone is teasing u?tell them dont do it,let them kno u dont like it,try and figure out why they're doing what they're doing and maybe then u can prevent it.
even if u cant stop the incident from happening,having a better understanding of the "why" will help u to stop having grudges.it doesnt have to be someone teasing u but u get the point!
holding a grudge and letting it eat u up inside prevents u from being happy and doing all that u can.
when the other person is happy about pissing u off,try and see why.how can they be so comfortable knowing that u're not?seeing things from another person's point of view (whether u think they're right or not) helps us to understand.the knowledge helps get rid of the feeling to hold a grudge
also,it's ur love for urself,ur confidence.noone and u shud let noone be able to control ur emotions.if someone is upsetting u so much that u're holding a grudge,they're in control of ur behaviour so dont let that happen
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