How can a person with a melonchaly personality stop thinking so much and recounting past and just live and?
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I realize that my response may come across as harsh, so for that, I apologize.
My first suggestion is that you cut out the labels...identifying yourself with a 'melancholy personality' just reinforces and almost justifies your feelings and thoughts.
Realize that the mind is a powerful thing...but that your will is so very much stronger. You have the ability to focus your thoughts and mind in any way you choose - you just have to want to do it. Many people overcome horrible attrocities by choosing to 'get over' them. To think about things with a different perspective, other than dwelling on the negative. Take a page out of their book.
Recognize that life is an incredible adventure...and you can either spend it wallowing in unhappiness, or grabbing it by the horns and taking it on full speed ahead. Its your choice. If you want to be happy...then focus on being happy. Leave the past behind, and give yourself a bright future to work toward!
It sounds like symtoms of depression. Instead of trying to "get over things", I think you should consider talking to your doctor about therapy and/or antidepressants.
Well, Myself I have come to terms with the fact that I can't change everything in life... somethings I hate somethings I love.. but you cant haave one without the other... if something bugs me I deal with it then and there..if i do nothing. no regret it was my choice right then and there.so there must have been a reason.. regret is a silly thing unless you can actually do something about it.which you can't 99% of the time.
Are those things happening to you now? no? well, what's the problem right now?
You're creating your own suffering, stop doing that.
Try reading Sonnet 29 by Shakespeare. It's the same boring old stuff that we all suffer - that nobody loved him, people rejected him, he needed money - wished he had more talents etc etc
It could always be you - moods are in cycles and today is a bad one. Next year at this time you'll think: "Well, what was all that about?"
There is a really great book called "Feeling Good" by Dr. Burns.
I think you would really like. It's a paperback, only about $9 I think.
When I was having those feelings I read the book and got a lot out of it.
Joe
That's a very complicated question. It depends on the person and what they have been through and how they choose to cope with it.
Maybe this person wants to but the idea of all the hard work it will take to get there seems too much for them. A person like this might need to take baby steps. Lift just one thing off and move forward slowly, instead of thinking they have to do it all at once. It helps to talk it out or keep a journal and journal any progress they are making to move forward and be positive and live in the moment instead of the past.
Something I do is to try and think of as many things as possible that I am thankful for every day. I make a list of things like toilet paper, shelter from the weather, family, food in my stomach clothes on my back...you get the picture...Best wishes!
I was once told to STOP listening to sad music and to get a purpose. That I did and it wasn't easy it took 2 yrs and I'm stilling working on it. Sad love songs seem to bring back the feeling or good and pain. The song keep our feeling raw. New music such as up beat can be a good thing and even a little enpowering. It's part of a start!
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