How can you act rational, if you are emotional?
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Just the fact that you want to change says that you can, and will. Unfortunatly, some of us were raised in families. There are books that help, you have to look in the Anger section. I know that you want help with emotions, but these books are designed for emotional people, they are the ones who have anger problems. It is the shortest route if you do not want to see a therapist. Basically, the thing you want to remember (the tip you asked for), is to count to ten. It works for me. I usually do not have theneed to spat back at somebody who offended me after a few seconds, sometimes minutes.
a good smoke with the green giant should do the trick
No never not in a million years.
We all know that, but like wind-up toys we keep on responding emotionally wrong whether we are aware of it or not.
Books ?
Better go by your common sense than looking for books !
It is possible to control emotions. You could be helped by a good education in assertive communication. This is superb communication tecjnique and the skill helps you develop self confidence and independence.
No, no, and so very much no.
Emotion is a part of who we are. Conflict is a part of reality. Insecurity comes from fear of emotions and anger is an actual emotion.
You can act rationally only when you learn to accept and express your emotions. They are who you are. To deny your emotions is to deny yourself.
Rationality comes from learning how to respond to situations based on what you need, emotionally and otherwise, in concurrence with what the other people involved need.
Logic without emotion is a computer. Emotion without logic is insanity. The combination of the two is rationality. Emotions are what keep us from being giant calculators.
Furthermore you really can't control your emotions. You can learn how to not let them control you by simply letting them out. When you try to hide them they become bottled up and explode when you simply can't handle any more. Let them exist as they need to. Take the time to think about them and know them. Most importantly feel them. Even if it means you will cry.
Once you know you can do this, that you can feel them and it won't hurt you, it becomes even easier the next time.
Trust yourself. Trust the way you feel. It is always the right way to feel. Only you are you. Only you have had your experiences. Only you knows what it means to feel as you do. No one else has any grounds to say your emotions are wrong. Your emotions are simply your reaction to the world around you.
Trust them and they will do right by you.
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