Are you private or open about past family crises?
An adolescent person I know as an acquaintence suprises me by talking publicly in detail about how messed up her family is, and the dissapointments, neglegence, and betrayals that family members have done to her and themselves. As well as other abusive relationships too. Im in awe that someone would be so open about that kind of stuff. This person seems to be ACOA and a stimulant user.
I myself am slightly older, and have had some family issues which I keep totally private except for my closest friends. I probably come off aloof in public at first but actually have many circles of friends. I felt like talking/sharing with this person, since it appeared like their way of reaching out. But am fearful to do so because she seems unbalanced at times. what should I do? In any case, should I adopt a more open approach like this other person? Is it helpful to be more open about setbacks and disappointments in life. What she is doing, is it a good or immature thing to do?
Answer:
Personally, I keep my family's dirty laundry inhouse. Some people talk about it though, and that's fine. But they should be careful. It could come back to bite them if the people they tell aren't true confidantes.
You need to do what is comfortable to you. You would never want to lay yourself on the line with something that will hurt you terribly should it be misused. However, if you have something to share that wouldn't devastate you if it became public knowledge or the butt of a sick joke, then go ahead and share.
Personally, I am pretty open about my dad's alcoholism, but I'm a little more guarded with my mother's issues. I couldn't tell you why right away, but I'm sure there's a deep-seated reason in there :o)
I'm a little torn about what I'd do in this situation. I come from a family where EVERYTHING is supposed to be hidden from EVERYBODY, and I know from experience that doesn't work well at all. On the other hand, I certainly don't want to tell my "troubles" to everybody on the block. I think you must talk with someone about difficult things in your life, but I also think that you must carefully choose the people to whom you plan to talk. If you feel this person might not keep the confidences with which you entrust her, then I'd say you need to find someone else to talk to when/if you feel the need to confide in someone.
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I myself am slightly older, and have had some family issues which I keep totally private except for my closest friends. I probably come off aloof in public at first but actually have many circles of friends. I felt like talking/sharing with this person, since it appeared like their way of reaching out. But am fearful to do so because she seems unbalanced at times. what should I do? In any case, should I adopt a more open approach like this other person? Is it helpful to be more open about setbacks and disappointments in life. What she is doing, is it a good or immature thing to do?
Answer:
Personally, I keep my family's dirty laundry inhouse. Some people talk about it though, and that's fine. But they should be careful. It could come back to bite them if the people they tell aren't true confidantes.
You need to do what is comfortable to you. You would never want to lay yourself on the line with something that will hurt you terribly should it be misused. However, if you have something to share that wouldn't devastate you if it became public knowledge or the butt of a sick joke, then go ahead and share.
Personally, I am pretty open about my dad's alcoholism, but I'm a little more guarded with my mother's issues. I couldn't tell you why right away, but I'm sure there's a deep-seated reason in there :o)
I'm a little torn about what I'd do in this situation. I come from a family where EVERYTHING is supposed to be hidden from EVERYBODY, and I know from experience that doesn't work well at all. On the other hand, I certainly don't want to tell my "troubles" to everybody on the block. I think you must talk with someone about difficult things in your life, but I also think that you must carefully choose the people to whom you plan to talk. If you feel this person might not keep the confidences with which you entrust her, then I'd say you need to find someone else to talk to when/if you feel the need to confide in someone.
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