How should one go about trying to get there partner to go to therapy?
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Nothing wrong with therapy when it is needed. Sometimes, it is necessary to improve communication between couples.
I felt it was necessary in my case, to go as far as giving my spouse an ultimate. (Go with me, or the marriage would be over.) I must tell you I was surprised that he would try. At the time, we went to a pastor who was a counselor/therapist. The pastor focused on better communication between us. [I had felt betrayed in my marriage, at the time.] The pastor did not focus on what anybody did wrong... just to open up the communication line. Ya know, we both benefited from the experience. Yet, it did not save our marriage, in the end.
That is, because, any relationship that is based on a "one-way street," (where one is willing to work at it, and the other one isn't). will get you (or them) nowhere... literally!
If the partner, lover, spouse, is not willing to give of themselves, and love their loved one back, then all the therapy in the world will not help.
Be sure she loves you enough to make a sacrifice of her time.
Above, you seemed to try to convince us that it was super important, and super necessary. Pre-warning. If that's what you are doing to her, then it will never work. That's a form of control. I tried it. It backfired.
God bless you in this endeavor. Just because she won't go, would not mean she is a bad person. Don't force her to do it. Her actions will speak louder than words. Then you have to accept things as they are. Good luck, and again... God bless you.
I work as a counsellor and I can tell you that unless a person really wants to be there, there's no point at all in them going. it has to be their decision 100% and unless it is they will gain nothing at all from the sessions and the therapist will acknowledge this and suggest they go away, think about what it is they want and maybe ask them to reconsider any more sessions until they are completey certain it's right for them.
There are such huge waiting lists all over the country for this sort of help, that an unwilling patient is not going to be encouraged to take an appointment someone in need could have
I agree with you, I think everyone should have therapy although I went through councelling once and it did nothing for me, but since then I have read several amazing self help books and have become my own therapist. If you can learn to understand yourself and why you behave in a certain way, and whether that behaviour is good or bad for you it can help you to change it, and improve your standard of living. If your girlfriend has issues with it, maybe it's because she is afraid of seing her real self, and finding out the reasons. You can't force someone into therapy, but just try explaining to her that anything free is worth looking into if it can't harm you. Maybe if you go yourself and tell her how great it is she might follow your example.
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