Anger Issues?
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It is a behavioural pattern that you need to change, that's all. Sit down at think through a past situation that made you angry. Then stand up and sit down down and repeat the process, but this time without getting angry, thus handling the situation differently.
Usually it works best having a guide by your side, to keep you on the non-agressive path, but if you can do it yourself, it is even better.
After a while, you will find, that the new non-agressive pattern has become stronger, and you handle those situations much much better. Keep training though. One time is not enough. Repeat the process of changing the past situations in your mind over and over again.
As for the ones closest to you -just tell them that you have asked for help, with your agressiveness...
self control
when your about to get pissed, ask if its worth whatever your thinking
most the time its not
thats how i do it,
but when the time is neccasary, go for it
You could get some anger management or some counseling, try to find out why you blow things out of proportion. There is a deeper issue and you need to resolve it. It could end up damaging your health as you get older. Or you could get mad at the wrong person and end up hurt. Something deep is troubling you..stop "stuffing" your feelings or you'll pop.
Slow down. That's it. The whole world doesn't hinge on what you say or do in the next 30 seconds. Slow way, way down.
I would go to see a doctor you may be bipolar. You don't have be sorry for being that way just take the steps to correct it. A lot of people are like that including myself , but with proper meds it can be controlled.
Learn anger management.
I would simply apoligize to them they will know you are sincere. When you feel yourself getting angry and on the verge of doing something you don't want to do take a deep breath (or a couple) until you relax. Or you could try yoga! Good Luck!
practice self control. that is when you are feeling angry, go somewhere where you can be alone and just scream your lungs out. once the extreme emotions are gone, you can go back and think about the situation calmly.
Before your ready to freak out, just take a deep breath and remove yourself from the situation. Go into another room, go outside, read a book...anything. If you can't do this, then seek a counselor who can help you with Anger Management. Those classes are very effective, and sometimes there are even groups. Seeing other people like yourself who have overcome being so short-tempered will inspire you to be better.
My husband has a similar temperament.His solution:always tries to sleep enough(when you are tired you cannot really handle problems well),but after he has already done the unavoidable damage:apologizes as soon soon as he is able to.And you know what:that always gets him out of trouble! :)
It's all right to be angry but do not sin. Never let a day end without getting rid of your anger. It is stupid to get mad, it wont get anywhere except into trouble. Always react slowly, the longer you keep quiet, the more effective will be your reactions. Don't say the sharp words, say nothing. Keep quiet and make no rejoinder. Practice the great strategy of delay. You may not go right away to the person you got angry with, but deep in your heart forgive him/her and practice the great art of forgetting. Then wait for the time that you'll cross path and tell him/her that it was not good to be angry. Try it believe me. Listening is the beginning of understanding.
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