My boyfriend told me to kill myself. is the really no hope left for me?
My boyfriend loves me very much, but he said he can't bear to see me so sad all the time and suggested I should kill myself. His exact words were: "You won't change, the world won't change, you'll be forever unhappy, why don't you try killing yourself? you'll be saving some time. maybe in after life things will be the way you want them to be".
He wasn't joking, he also said he'll miss me terrible, but he can't bear to see me so sad, after that all his attemps to cheer me up have had little succes.
I'm not gonna take his advice, but I'm asking: is there a way that I could become less sensitive about what the others do or say?
Answer:
You should break up with him. Don't even give him the courteous break up scene. Just don't talk to him again, sweetie. Find hopeful people who like the same ideas you do, and if you have trouble finding them, just hold onto your bright spirit no matter what, even when depressed, and try to share with others when they'll let you. You can't change the whole world...BUT you can sure help some people. And yourself. True, you'll sometimes be unhappy coz you are a nurturer and that is not always a welcome thing, but you will also always have something to feel happy for too. So. Just ditch the boyfriend. Keep your life. Have a nice day.
ur bf dont love u. how can u tell someone that u love that? if u think positive then u attract positive. its the law of attraction.
Sweet Pea you know if someone really cares about you they wouldn't say that. We all go through a depression state especially when things are not so great in our live, but I want to encourage you today by saying you can pick yourself up maybe find you a hobby or something. Focus on what makes you happy rather than what makes you sad. OK my heart goes out to you boo-boo!
Realize that your sadness isn't going to help these situations. It is good that you can be compassionate, but you can not let your emotions rule you. You could go talk to a therapist-see if they may want to recommend some medication.
Dump him immediately and see a counselor ASAP. HE has the problem. There is hope for you.
If he loved you he wouldn't even THINK such a horrible thing, he'd be helping you to find a solution, doctor or something.
Why do you care so much about what others think? Like my momma always said, if everybody jumped off a cliff, would you jump too? Are you that driven by others? You need to find out who you are, your dislikes, your passions, your needs.
I feel sad for others sometimes too, but it's not going to change just because it makes me sad. My ex used to tease me that I couldn't save the world, but if I could make a difference, it's worth a shot. (I think some people like the drama!) You need to find what makes you happy. You may want to start by dumping this so-called boyfriend!
Good luck & God bless.
You sound like your sad because you're depressed, you have a chemical imbalance and need to be on anti-depression medication.
I have parkansion disease and have had it for 15 yrs and I am only 45 years old. Yes I got Parkinsons at age 30 or 29, so my life has really been a living hell.
Talk to a doctor to remove this imbalance defficency...and get another boyfriend. Nothing is worth killing yourself for.
I could tell you the nightmares, lack of slleep and my life taken for me at the prime of my life...but I want. I learned to cope and so can you. Get a new boyfriend and someone who will lift you up and seek advice from a doctor....
All you need is medication that will turn you around a let you enjoy life. Even with all I been through I appreciate the little things, that God has helped me to see.
That's not a nice thing to say to you, especially when you’re this sensitive.
There is nothing in this world that is worth dying for.
Your boyfriend is trying to help you but going about it all the wrong way.
Thank god you're not willing to take his advice.
It's one thing to feel bad for people, but you don't have to let people's problems ruin your life.
If you think that people's problems are starting to reflect on you, when they shouldn't be. It's time to make some changes.
You can't solve other peoples problems, and you make people be unselfish or mean, or what ever someone else behavior is.
You will just have to come to grips and face this, its reality. Its one thing to want the best for people there is nothing wrong with that, but what about what is best for you?
It's not good to get emotional about things that you can't change.
If you feel this is a major problem, and you can't fix this your self.
Then you should seek a doctor or counselor and see what could be the best methods, too making you a happier person.
Sometimes even writing about your feelings in a blog or diary will help you cope with the feelings you have.
Take time out from everyone else and have some
"You Time" To love your self get back on your feet and in better sprits.
You can't help other people when you feel this way.
Learn to love your self and accept the world, and people for what it is, not what you wish it to be and you will get along better in life. You can learn to help people in different ways rather then in grief
Best of Luck
I'm sorry but that seems like a terrible thing for your boyfriend to say. Instead of comforting you he tells you to kill yourself?!? He can't fix things so things should die? What happens if his kid has trouble being potty trained? Will he handle that the same way? That is no way to handle things and please consider dumping him for being stupid and insensitive.
As for your other question. Have you considered trying to solve the worlds injustice? I know that's a huge thing for one person to take on- but advocating for people in Darfur or even collecting food for the homeless in your area might help in the way that yes there is bad things in the world but you are working to change it. And you'll meet others working to change it as well, it might give you hope. Not to mention if you meet the people you help. Plus the exposure to these things again and again will help build up your strength. But if those are too much for you, how about just one random act of kindness a day?
Look at the conversation that you are having with yourself, all in the privacy of your mind. I mean really watch yourself think these thoughts. Just be with them and watch them without judging, taking sides, or getting caught up in it. You will soon see that you are not the conversation that you are having with yourself.
You say that you are a "sad sad person" when you are nothing of the sort. If I said that I was 'superman', or 'Madonna' would that make me either of them...No, no way would it, and you are not a sad sad person just because you say you are. The first problem is that you have a tendency to believe what you think about yourself, so start thinking positive thoughts about you, like I am a great person because I care about others, or, what happens to others is important to me because I love life. Few in life ever get the chance to change things for the better for a majority of people, but it just seems to me that someone like you, when they get over the bad conversation they are having with their self, will have the power and energy to make the world a better place by being a better person.
Life's lessons can be small, but their results can be very large,
Please, be you own best friend. Sensitive people, like you, who care about others, are something that this world needs a whole bunch of.
And please remember that language and meaning are the most powerful tools that humanity has ever created. Use the words that you speak with yourself and others like a master carpenter would use her hammer and their will be no end to the great things you can offer this world.
Have you ever read St.John 3:16 about God's
love for you?
#1: Lose the boyfriend.
#2 through #1,877,523: Lose the boyfriend.
He's right about one thing: The world won't change. But you can change how you perceive and react to the suffering and injustice and all the terrible things in this world. You alone have that power; you just have to work on it. I'm the same way, and have found the following really helpful.
First, you need to learn how to step outside of a situation -- step outside of your emotions and mindset for a moment -- and view a situation and the people involved objectively. A simple type of meditation called Mindfulness will help you with that:
http://www.budsas.org/ebud/mfneng/mind0.
A few book recommendations:
"Wherever You Go There You Are" by Jon Kabat-Zinn. Quick reading, short chapters, very friendly and conversational tone. If you like that, take a look at his other stuff.
You also might want to check out books by Pema Chodron. She's a Buddhist nun, but she's really down-to-earth, and talks freely and laughs about her own faults.
Please don't be put off by its title: "Anxiety, Phobias, and Panic" by Reneau Z. Peurifoy. It gives *practical* ways of dealing with destructive mental habits and how we talk to ourselves. The author talks about stepping outside yourself, being in the eye of the hurricane (as opposed to being in the hurricane itself), not letting others push your buttons so easily.
Just remember that changing a lifetime of habit takes time. Everything here can only help you (though, of course, they might not all be your cuppa tea).
Best of luck to you . . .
I don't want to make you feel worse but your boyfriend said a terrible thing to you, and he's 100% wrong. That happened to me once - a man I thought loved me suggested that I kill myself. After I spent some time in the hospital (in the psychiatric ward), I realized that he was the person with the problems. I think I was a lot like you - in thinking of other people first, and I learned to toughen up a little bit and think of myself. If you truly love other people and want to help them, you need to love yourself first - then you can be a good example for others. No one will improve their life unless they work at it themself. There's nothing wrong with supporting people and helping them if you can - but you have to help yourself first and you have to show them that they need to do the same. It's great to throw someone a lifeline - but if they don't grab it and hold on, there's nothing you can do.
The answers post by the user, for information only, FunQA.com does not guarantee the right.
More Questions and Answers: