When does a healthy self esteem become labeled as conceited??
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YES BABY!
MY question.
Self esteem is having self love, self respect, and self pride. I think it's very personal, and it's a thing you just feel, not something people just SEE and label.
Conceitedness is over the line. I like to call myself confident, but if somebody wanted to call me conceited, I'd be okay with that too. I can call myself conceited, and I don't find it unfitting nor am I afraid to admit to it.
why: I know I'm a good person.
When I breathe, when I think, when I love, I make sure people feel secure with me. I make sure people get the most of me, they get the truth from me--always.
I'm a people-person, and also my own person. I'm personal and fun, I'm loving as well as serious. So if somebody were to call me conceited for taking a lot of pictures, or for talking about myself so much... I know I'm more of a person inside than I am when I talk about myself. So that's my defense.
Like sometimes I surprise myself with the things that come out of my mouth or the things that my own two hands and two feet can do. There's way more to me that meets the eye. I would choose my brains over my beauty. That's what makes me beautiful.
I know I can be better than I already am. And even though I am self-absorbed, I think about other people a whole lot. I'm considerate, and I'm GENUINE. I don't fake the "pat-pat everything's gonna be okay" ... i give them the lecture, I hit them hard with the truth, I give them the biggest hug they've ever had in their life, I let them know what the next best step is, I TELL them to stop crying, and I stick by them in every way they can or would possibly need. Nomatter how well I know them.
And so I feel it's appropriate for me to be so-called "conceited" ... because I believe i have the credibility to. That I work my butt off being the best person I can be to everyone and so I have the rights to let myself out there.
To sum up conceitedness, it looks like the quote:
"She thinks she's all that"
... and I truly believe that I AM "all that" ... in the very best possible way.
As in, I am the whole package... not because I was born this way or because my mom-dad gave me things that made me popular or beautiful, but because I grew up, and I went through a lot of hardships to become the strong person I am today.
I don't like to brag about myself and especially about my appearance. I never intentionally try to hurt anyone EVER, I am concerned about others, I am not stuck up, and I don't try to attract negative attention.
I am not afraid of what other people think of me. I live for myself.
This is me and my self-esteem.
Conceited is applicable when the person starts to feel a need to demonstrate their "greatness" which to me actually translates into insecurity.
When you are feeling good because you are putting others down, that is being conceited. People in general do not think badly of someone who feels good about themself. It is how that the person behaves with the empowerment they are feeling.
Feeling good about yourself is so wonderful and healthy. When you ever believe that YOU are better than others, then it tends to send a signal of being considered conceited, and who wants to be around anyone who feels that way honestly? But go on, I love myself, feel great about myself, yet I love others around me as well no matter what they look like, ect. Best wishes
When you begin to feel that you are better (look better, can do better) than others. Basically when you can't appreciate others for what they are
self esteem is confidence in yourself despite what anyone else thinks of you or your abilities...
conceited is the feeling that you are BETTER than everyone else, and verbally putting them down or using your body language to make others feel inferior.
HOPE THAT ANSWERS YOUR QUESTION DEAR!
When you KNOW you are better looking, and don't just THINK it anymore....
You may be come off to strong and people may be intimidated by your exertion of confidence. They aren't seeing if as conceited as much as intimidating. My son had a problem with this and it gave him so many problems. Here's what you gotta do.
First rule of friendship with anyone including family is:
"To be truly interesting; is to be truly interested".
People like to talk about themselves and with confident people it is hard to remain silent, so what you have to do is approach others with the true desire to get to know them and then as they get to know you, you'll be understood better and not appear to be so intimidating. Take my word for it. He has so many friends now and male and female call him constantly for advise and trust him with their darkest secrets.
Chances are, you will become a teacher or you may already be one in more ways than you think. Or even a counselor.
What do you mean by "healthy" self-esteem? At what point in time do you consider one's self-esteem healthy?
People are labeled cocky or conceited because of their behaviors, actions that others perceive.
some people exclaim their greatness if they don't hear it enough from others. So thier favorite subject becomes theirselves.
It doesn't seem to them that they do it, it is just what sounds like they think other people need to know. They also don't want the subject to be left up for opinion, they are stating a fact. I am good at things, look at me.
Also if someone is talking about something, and it also is something they know second-hand, then they use that knowledge as if it is theirs. Like, today a girl i know overheard a friend of mine call and ask me about his computer and she starts giving me advice even though I didn't ask for it. And she starts telling me about her friend that works on computers.
So, in short we all like to help each other, some just like helping others, but the other people like the attention it gives them. The conceited ones seem to be from that second group.
Very good question. Did that come from you or your teacher/professor? Labels are a stigma...they never go away. To answer your question...people "think" you are conceited by your actions...tone of voice..body language etc. If you try to act smarter, talk down to them or maybe ignore their questions and answers, make fun of them when they make a mistake or say something stupid (we all do that)..I can go on and on. If you feel good about yourself...enjoy it and try to make others around you feel the same. If you can do that..you will never be "labeled" conceited.
Feeling good about yourself and over stating your feelings upon others are 2 different things i believe.
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