How do I handle not taking my boss personally?

Ok. This morning my boss bitched me out. I've only been here 3 months and she is holding me accountable for something I was just notified about yesterday afternoon and could not find. Her top came down on her so she came down on me. It was really insulting. She said I'm lucky I was not fired for this and that I'm incompetent. It was something I never was trained on so how could I have known? Anyway, I'm a guyt, 28, but even her harshness almost makes me cry. My voice trembles and I have fear. My boss, in between her and I takes it so calm and doesn't sweat it-but, she does treat him more respectfully. Why can't I just not take it personally. It seems like most guys would get pissed but I cry like a little girl. What is wrong with me? How can I fix this?

Answer:
Try remembering the source. This person is obviously not able to hold herself accountable and needs to place blame on others, a personality failing in herself that has nothing to do with anyone she chooses to spew on (which in this case was unfortunately you). Perhaps in the future you will learn to look at the situation with humor since she doesn't have the strength some other people who don't go around blaming have.
She is really bitchy, it seems. Maybe that's the way she's reflecting HER fear. Meditation may help isolate your feelings from your logic. Knowing that you're right and remembering at that moment could help, too. Don't sweat it, you'll learn how to stay calm and respond in time.
Go to HER boss and disguss the issue nicely and act like an adult dont go out like crying. Act like a adult with manners.
The First thing is or you good at what you do? Then with a positive attitude stay calm at all cost when fire is been thrown out. Listen to the problem ask if they would like a very response on your input. Afterwords walk away and resume your daily task. Stay professional and maintain a business like attitude on all work related issues. keep the line separated from personal thinking and business thinking apart, this should keep you on the right path unless she fires you for conflict of interest.

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