Why do some people have a hard time commiting to any person or job or home?
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Committment issues usually stem from being abandon, or viewing negative emotional relationship patterns between other people as a young person.
Most committment phobes don't ever work past it in life. Some of it is about trust, some of it is about not wanting to be held down, some of it is about not wanting to give it all, because if the committment phobe should then screw up, or get left behind it will cause them pain they don't want to deal with.
Life is really about exploring and feeling things full throttle! (and I am not saying do dumb thoughtless things here... be smart with the decisions you make) Not being able to committ cuts Life's experience in half each time a committment phobe runs away or bails out of a situation.By the end, not committing to something, someone, anyone or anything, will only leave a person empty and unexamined. They will be like a child... And life is about arriving at the grave EXHAUSTED, EXPERIENCED, and ENLIGHTENED by the joy of living!!
My guess is that they may never be satisfied with just one thing. Or they might feel that people will become too attached. I have the opposite problem, myself, I hang on too long to jobs and people when I should really just walk away from them, and find something that will help me out more. My security is in the same place, friends, and everything else. I am not good with any change, some others would feel very bored with everything being the same. If you are looking for a relationship, look for someone who commits to things.
First off, there's nothing wrong with not wanting to commit! Please don't be so judgemental.
I am one of those people you are describing. I've been at the same job and in the same apartment for three years, and I'm going insane! I'm only staying because I have to provide a stable life for my young son.
For me, it's a matter of boredom. I'll stay with something for as long as it's interesting, but when I get tired of it, I'm ready to move on. I guess you could say that it's hard for me to develop an attachment to anything. It may stem from my early childhood (birth to 3 years), when I was put in the care of several people, then given up for adoption and moved foster homes a couple of times, then finally adopted. Maybe it's a fear of bonding with someone or getting comfortable with something and then having it "go away"? I don't know.
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