Why is it when you get mad at some you say something that you don't mean?
I have done this too. I wonder though why others do the same or do not do the same. Let me know.
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When we are "in love", we see only the good in the other. When we are "in hate" (angry), we see only the bad in the other. Thus hate and love are based on whether the other pleases or displeases us.
it's human nature to want to hurt some one when we are angry. it takes a lot of practice to learn to control ourselves when we become angry but it can be done.
I say what I mean and I mean what I say no matter what mood I'm in.
Its not so much that you don't mean it, but that you didn't want to say it. In the heat of the moment, its natural for someone to say the first thing that pops into their mind. Its done because they truly feel that way, for the moment. If you do the same thing, make sure you take time to analyze the situation and circumstances before making a quick reaction or else both sides will regret it later.
Those who do this must learn temperance and wisdom. I do not say that to appear lofty. I say it because I have worked at it for a long time. I know that there is the power of life and death in the words I choose to speak. Taming the tongue is a spiritual process.
Do I still get angry, OH YES! Do I lash out verbally? Very rarely. (Unless you want to count some of the racists posters I ocassionally slam on y/a, when I choose to even dignify them with an answer.)
I have found it very profitable to my well being and that of those around me to be extrordinarily careful speaking, ESPECIALLY when I am angry. In my quest to be more Christ like I picture him before Pilate, never saying a word, when I find being silent really difficult. The profit has been:
-I find myself kept from escalating a situation when angry and "letting people peep my hole card, so to speak."
-It gives me time to think and sometimes the person I'm angry with (and that is angry with me) time to reflect on what they are saying too.
-Keeps me from allowing myself to stoop to the level of an aggressor, even when I am right.
-Not having to apologize and/or go through a strained period with someone afterward.
-Not having the burden of wondering if my apology was really accepted.
-No having the burden of wondering if the apology was "accepted," but I broke or killed someone's spirit.
If we will all just go through the hardship of learning temperance, seek and pray for it, we will love each other better one by one and improve the world around us.
Well, it has to do with a matter of thought. When you blurt things out of your mouth do you really think about what your saying? Probably not. However, there are instances where people just know what their going to say is wrong and will regret it later, but they say it anyway and then have to deal with the consequences. There are times when this happens to me, and it hurts because overall I am a very mature person and I try to avoid this as best as I can. Words can be very powerful. I know an instance where my mom's friend had said to one of her coworkers "Drop dead" (because she was angry at that coworker) and a few days he/she died of a massive heart attack. As you would expect, she really regrets it. Hope all of this was helpful enough.
Regards,
Andrew Sulak
Anger always brings out the truth in your feelings, and as I have told those who have been angry with me and blurted things out. Then they come back to tell me they didn't mean it. I tell them.
"Yes you did, you just didn't mean to get caught saying it."
This is why it is best to learn to control our emotions. For many this is a very hard task. I know it is for me. :0)
The anger takes over. We say & do things we normally wouldnt. But after we calm down & get back to normal, we realize we shouldnt have done that & thats when we feel bad about doing it.
I have done this & Im sure it won't be the last time either. We all do it. Its only human.
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